Break up?

[pork'n'beans]

So my little and i had been dating for 8 months and i tend to be clingy and its honestly killing me inside she still wants to be friends and be my little but its terribly hard to deal with is this like a normal thing how does anyone deal with this...

[Guest gakiusagi]

I went through that with my ex-boyfriend. We were in a very softkey DDLG relationship (long distance) and we broke up. He wanted to be with someone else but agreed to still take care of me once in a while. Unfortunately, that didn't work out. The best advice I can give you is to stay friends (you can even be her CG), but do remember you're there as a friend and not romantically, or someone might get hurt.

 

Hope things get sorted out!

[Guest Aetherr]

if you arent healthy or prepared to stay daddy and their friend tell them no, you dont have to do it because they wants you to and if you dont want to do it because you two are not together that is ok also for me personally i cannot be a daddy to a little platonic its the same thing as a relationship and that is ok for me.. at the end of the day you need to find a way to be happy dont do it because she wants you to because it will hurt and im sure if they would know and care and would not want that for you either

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

If you have very strong feelings, maybe being friends isn't the right way to go. If you have a clean break it's gonna hurt a lot, but ultimately it'll give you a greater chance to move past what happened and get on with your life. If you remain friends, not only do you have to see their face and feel all of those memories every time you do, but there's gonna be a part of you, however small it may be, that's saying "there's still a chance". And that can kill your ability to move on and make it harder in the long run.

 

Maybe it's just me, but I've never found that being friends with an ex worked out particularly well. I'm still in touch with my ex-wife but only on a very occasional basis and we're definitely not friends. Acquaintances maybe, but friendship just isn't on the table. So that's my own bias I guess. If you really want to be friends, maybe you can make it work. But if it isn't right for you, you have to put yourself first and explain clearly that it just isn't possible for you right now.

[LittlePupRune]

I tried staying friends with my ex. Unfortunately it wasn't allowing me to heal, and was making things worse for me. I had to break it off entirely and discontinue any contact simply for my own well-being. If being a cg isn't healthy for you, then make it clear. You are your first priority, if you are not ok, then it'll affect everything else and other people around you.