How do I know if a daddy dom is trustworthy online/in person?

[Shy_Babygirl]

How do I know if a daddy dom (or any type of dom) is trustworthy, or are as experienced as they say they are?

How do I know if the daddy dom is trustworthy online or meeting them in person?

 

I feel like I get rejected/abandoned a lot due to lack of experience in sex or kink in general or maybe they are a abusive/narcissistic type of person?

[Lollipox]

You don’t. People can say all sorts of sh*t online, or in person.

 

Time with them will tell, maybe.

 

However, your partner in crime should:

1. Listen to and respect your limits.

2. Stop when asked.

3. Use proper safety precautions during play (for extreme bdsm, don’t think it matters as much LDR).

4. Be open for discussion and answer questions as thoroughly as they can.

 

Overall, use your common sense. If something feels off, then it might just be.

Edited March 28, 2019 by Pox

[Guest QueenJellybean]

also, check out our resource section.

we have a lot of great types for dating online, including this article:

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/10830-internet-safety-101/

[LittleTeacup]

I think if you start out with ordinary conversation and getting to know one another, you'll at least find out who's genuinely interested in you.

 

Asking some basic questions like what their opinion is regarding safe words can also help determine how experienced they are (if they don't seem to know what a safe word is, they aren't experienced). Or if they say they support some really unsafe practices, don't trust them.

 

If you're meeting irl, start with small scenes. Don't do anything extreme until the small scenes go well. Also trust your instincts and don't do anything unless you're completely at ease. If he tries to convince you to do something you're not comfortable with, that's a bad sign.

[Guest el·e·men·tal]

Online, people you speak with, and particularly daddies who are not right for you, reveal what they’re really interested in quite quickly. As soon as they steer things into an area you’re not comfortable with, let them know. And if they are persistent and not respectful of you then let them know you plan on ending the conversation for good... and do it! Don’t waste time or energy on someone who is not, and never will be, the right one for you.

[Shy_Babygirl]

Okay thanks for your replies, it's helpful.

[sullenDaddybones]

Sorry to spill any extra information here but since I've met real Littles from on-line let me stick my two cents in:

 

I generally say if you are going to meet an actual on-line person in real life you really require to talk to them, friends, family, exs(on good terms) they have. Connecting with their social media and using Skype(or a video software with high quality audio/video) as a daily ritual for a long time a REQUIREMENT! Some guy or girl could be anyone through texting. I once met a Little who had sent me nearly 1000 photographs of other girls she was supposed to be!(I am not exaggerating) They were a scared and sad person with tons of scars that lived in a fantasy land and that's why I generally would never get intimate or personal with anyone I am not able to look into their eyes daily and speak to them constantly. In front of other people. Hear what those people have to say about me and them.

 

If people are afraid to be open about their lives well, that says a lot about the truth doesn't it? Wouldn't want to end up on the short of finding out what you're in for? Kink stays in the bedroom but two people DDLG or WHATEVER are exactly the same thing. I have met dozens of people from the Net in Real life and I am not some infomercial on how to do it. It's been done by me. Follow your heart and soul and pray to your beliefs ! Good luck

How do I know if a daddy dom (or any type of dom) is trustworthy, or are as experienced as they say they are?
How do I know if the daddy dom is trustworthy online or meeting them in person?

I feel like I get rejected/abandoned a lot due to lack of experience in sex or kink in general or maybe they are a abusive/narcissistic type of person?

[Guest BabyPeach]

You can never truly get to know someone online. Years ago, I met a Dutch man online who was everything I wanted........good looking, assertive, into my kinks, etc. I flew all the way to Amsterdam to meet him in person after knowing him for a year. So, who was he really? He was the same man in the picture. His outward appearance was still gorgeous. However, he wasn't the assertive man who wanted to practice my kinks with me. That whole side of him had been made up, exaggerated. VERY exaggerated. Luckily for me, he wasn't a serial killer, etc. and I returned home physically unharmed.  Emotionally? Not so much. I had to part ways with the real him, but I still mourned losing the "fake" him. It was a lesson for me in what can be faked online and the fact that people actually, sadly, DO.