How weird is it really?

[RPcat18]

Hay so I was just thinking that being little isn't all that weird. Now just want to emphasise I don't mean I think its weird I just mean by societies standards. I recently came out to a friend who pointed out to me many people do little things now. Like being an adult who likes teddy bears and cartoons isnt odd at all ( though perhaps is a bit worse for guys sadly due to gender expectations). I think people only start seeing this interest as taboo when either it involves more abdl elements ( which is a bummer for abdls like myself ) or when you call your partner mommy or daddy. This irritates me particularly the last one as it's purely just semantics that people get bothered by. I personally never remember calling my parents mommy or daddy so I dont relate these terms to family members.

 

What do you think? Do you think most elements of being a little are seen as fine in societies eye? Do you agree that male littles may have some more stigma against them?

 

Oh another interesting question is what is more taboo being a little or being a big. I would say being a dominant big is probably more taboo because people assume if you like childish adults you like children. However I feel terrified about being outed as a little as I feel its a far more vulrabel thing to be outed as.

[JohnApple]

I have definitely noticed that being "little" is much more acceptable than I thought it would be. I see so many adults doing kid things (playing at the arcade, seeing kids movies, ordering happy meals for themselves, watching Pokemon, buying stuffed animals, etc, etc) that it's not the least bit weird at all. I can't tell you how explosively popular onesies have become where I am! I have noticed unfortunately though, that males who act little are sometimes shot strange looks way more than females.

 

I will agree that being a big seems to be more "taboo" than being a little. Like I said, adults acting like kids is very common, however, seeing an adult treat their partner like a child is much more rare. Hopefully this can change!

[RPcat18]

I have definitely noticed that being "little" is much more acceptable than I thought it would be. I see so many adults doing kid things (playing at the arcade, seeing kids movies, ordering happy meals for themselves, watching Pokemon, buying stuffed animals, etc, etc) that it's not the least bit weird at all. I can't tell you how explosively popular onesies have become where I am! I have noticed unfortunately though, that males who act little are sometimes shot strange looks way more than females.

 

I will agree that being a big seems to be more "taboo" than being a little. Like I said, adults acting like kids is very common, however, seeing an adult treat their partner like a child is much more rare. Hopefully this can change!

Onsies are really popular where I am to. I remember the first time I saw one in a store I ran in and got one. It was rather ugly but I didn't care.

[Andrew]

Being a daddy is already partially ingrained in western culture's expectations of men. With pet names like "baby" and "little girl" being common outside of DDLG relationships. So I think the association with liking children isn't a very big problem, though I can't say I've ever come out to anyone so I don't know for sure. But judging by how society treats people I think littles would be seen as more taboo, since it's a large deviation from society's expectations of adults.

 

Yeah, sadly male little probably do have a lot more stigma against them. Once again because of our society's gender roles, more specifically glorifying traditionally masculine roles while shaming the feminine. Needing someone to take care of you is seen as weak by many, and weak men are often hated for no reason. Whereas women in the role of little are closer to fulfilling their traditional gender roles.

 

As far as I can tell DDLG relationships are seen as pretty weird by the general public, but those are just lines in the sand.

[JohnApple]

Onsies are really popular where I am to. I remember the first time I saw one in a store I ran in and got one. It was rather ugly but I didn't care.

Haha that's cute! Pretty much everyone I know has one now. Maybe it's time I got one for myself

[RPcat18]

Haha that's cute! Pretty much everyone I know has one now. Maybe it's time I got one for myself

Oh you should they are supper comfay I have lots! My favourite one I think is my light blue one with cookie monster and cookies all over it. I love how I can wear this around the house and my family who I live with don't bat an eye...though once they did make a joke about how I look like I should be in a nappy *blush*

[RPcat18]

Being a daddy is already partially ingrained in western culture's expectations of men. With pet names like "baby" and "little girl" being common outside of DDLG relationships. So I think the association with liking children isn't a very big problem, though I can't say I've ever come out to anyone so I don't know for sure. But judging by how society treats people I think littles would be seen as more taboo, since it's a large deviation from society's expectations of adults.

Yeah, sadly male little probably do have a lot more stigma against them. Once again because of our society's gender roles, more specifically glorifying traditionally masculine roles while shaming the feminine. Needing someone to take care of you is seen as weak by many, and weak men are often hated for no reason. Whereas women in the role of little are closer to fulfilling their traditional gender roles.

As far as I can tell DDLG relationships are seen as pretty weird by the general public, but those are just lines in the sand.

I think there is probably quite allot of stigma for straight mommy types as well as there is for many dominant woman I find.

 

Wish people werent so judgmental. My new favourite saying is "Dont yuck my yum"

[Guest Penny]

I don't know as a little I get a lot of crap for liking kid things.

 

Oddly enough coloring is okay but anything other than that and I really do get picked on pretty bad for it.

 

I still won't hide it. I don't care.

[RPcat18]

I don't know as a little I get a lot of crap for liking kid things.

Oddly enough coloring is okay but anything other than that and I really do get picked on pretty bad for it.

I still won't hide it. I don't care.

Aw I'm sorry to hear people pick on you for your little side. *hugs*

 

I definitely admire your bravely though. I have only told one person about my little side and even then I don't really talk to them about it ( though they are quite accepting) . It really prevents me from relaxing and enjoying myself tbh.

[LB Chris]

Things have gradually improved over the years as during the 80's there was a more sharper cut off between adult interests and teen never mind little as  the connection between the 'inner child' and the 'adult' with the need for harmonious integration of has become more accepted.

When I was well enough to work, I was able to be pretty open about being little with female colleagues without going into lots of personal stuff which was a relief as they were more focused on my rapport  with clients and the quality of my work than my plushie and colouring pages in the back office.