High and Low Protocol.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

i found out about this particular practice through a friend of mine who does it in her relationship.

for The Giant + I, we tried implimenting it once + it's stuck. 

i'm aware that it probably doesn't work for anyone, but i was just curious to see who else (if anyone) did something like this!

 

so, 

i'm a stickler for pomp + circumstance in my D/s relationships.

i like rules.

i like structure.

i like formalities.

i like "the old ways" in a lot of senses -- drawing from traditional/leather families as inspiration. 

 

one of the things that The Giant + I do in our D/s is something called High Protocol + Low Protocol. 

essentially, we have two sets of rules. 

high protocol -- which is the everyday standard, the set we adhere to the most.

+ low protocol -- which is the same set of rules, just amended to suit the needs of shifting into a lower protocol. 

basically, we use this for if one of us is sick/an emergency comes up/etc.

it's been especially helpful because it takes the pressure off both parties when life happens + i can't promise i''ll remember to kneel at the door, or he can't promise to remember to lay out my clothing in the morning. 

 

to clarify here -- it's all pomp + circumstance. for fun.

it's not necessary for us to have this low protocol setting if i'm not feelin' up to doing what we agreed upon. 

 

does anyone else do anything similar? 

[TwilightSparklez]

I've never done this but I've seen it done and it is really sweet and beautiful to watch the different ways of communicating without words. For the people I know it's a bit different, low protocol is their everyday D/s or M/s life while high protocol is for things such as lifestyle dinners, events, parties, etc.

[DaddyDom3238]

I love that idea and while I have never actually called it "high or low protocol" I find myself doing that in my relationships as everyday life happens and responsibilities and emergencies do come up where we must adapt to the circumstances in our lives at that time. If you do not adapt and have realistic expectations as far as your rules and expectations go then the relationship will suffer.

[Little_Ghoul]

My Daddy and I do this!

It's nice seeing someone else in the community implementing this as well.   

[Guest QueenJellybean]

My Daddy and I do this!

It's nice seeing someone else in the community implementing this as well.   

 

ah! i love that someone else does this too!

[junebug0325]

Hiya!

 

I think it's really great that you have found something that works for you! I would love to try this type of dynamic with my Daddy but it just seems that we don't really see each other long enough for us to have time to do this. 

 

Do you have any suggestions on how to implement it into our lifestyle even when life gets in the way? 

 

Thanks!

 

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

[SamL]

I've never done this but I've seen it done and it is really sweet and beautiful to watch the different ways of communicating without words. For the people I know it's a bit different, low protocol is their everyday D/s or M/s life while high protocol is for things such as lifestyle dinners, events, parties, etc.

 

This has been the way I've practiced.  

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Hiya!

 

I think it's really great that you have found something that works for you! I would love to try this type of dynamic with my Daddy but it just seems that we don't really see each other long enough for us to have time to do this. 

 

Do you have any suggestions on how to implement it into our lifestyle even when life gets in the way? 

 

Thanks!

 

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

 

actually, yes! i have a really good one! 

 

you said you don't see each other for long enough to implement this dynamic. 

... which is the perfect time to implement the dynamic!

create a protocol for when you are together, + when you can't be. 

maybe your high protocol is used sparingly when you can spend quality time together, 

+ low protocol is your daily lives. 

 

whatever works best!