To All Littles! Little space shut down?!?!

[Lyla Kotamora]

Okay, this will be a two part question. With multiple reasons.

 

So! When your in little space (regardless with a daddy or not) what are some reasons that rip you out of it. I want know what can someone do the ruin the mindset. Is there something a daddy did? A friend? Yourself?

 

Okay now how did you handle that... When your in little mode and was pulled out of it.

 

For me, I was trying to be little around my boyfriend. Who tried to be daddy, (when it was convenient for him) ... He has little ticks and quirks. He squirms and whines, he acted like a little allllllllll the time. So it made me feel like I could never be little. When I slipped into little space and crawl over him for attention, he'd act bratty. It janked me out of my space so hard... I just got up and took a shower. Removing myself from the situation. He knew what I was and I try to explain things to him but he's not dominant at all... That is one of my examples. (I am unclaimed now)

Edited March 21, 2019 by Lyla Kotamora

[CryBabyUniWolf]

That's exactly how it was for me with my ex. Seriously... Exactly. I didn't have anything to do about it. Glad we broke up. I feel better being little now. I don't feel ashamed. I just hope one day I can find a caregiver that will be good to me.

 

Sorry... I know I didn't really answer the question....

 

I get out of littlespace when someone makes me feel stupid for being in it. For example: "Stop talking like a baby."

Sometimes I can eventually get over it and get back into littlespace by getting away from the person and do my own little thing.

Sometimes I get too pissed and won't go back into littlespace.

[LittleTeacup]

First I want to say I quickly shift in and out of little space throughout the day. So I'm not usually "ripped out", I just shift back to serious adult mode for a bit. I also don't have a caretaker and am usually little by myself.

 

Examples: When the phone rings. I have to check it. Is it spam? Do I have to pick up? If I do have to pick up, I've shifted back to adult mode to address whatever it is.

When the doorbell rings. Similar to the phone I have to address whoever it is as an adult. But I may look out the upstairs window to see who it is first.

When I'm driving and something requires attention, like bad traffic or I have to focus on what lane to be in. Big adult safety comes before little fun.

If I'm out in nature alone and all of a sudden people show up. I quickly stop chattering to myself or hopping along.

 

I don't think I ever get my mindset "ruined". Maybe if I suddenly have to deal with an emergency. Generally after any of these things are over I just shift back to little mode or go and do something else.

[Treyusyra]

My little mode is ruined when someone talks down to me like I am nothing. or speaks to me like an idiot. I am little not dumb. 

When it does happen i just get really angry and mad and it takes a while for me to calm down and i wont return to little space at all that day which can be really bad as my little space helps me deal with stress.

[xBabydollx]

I don't like when a Daddy does 'baby talk' to me. Like how a parent would baby talk a child. "I's love yous so much" or something like that. It makes me view them as a little, so I don't like it. It instantly pulls me out of little mode. Besides that, overly sexual things can pull me out of littlespace too. My headspaces are very fluid tho and can change quickly, so just as easy as I can be pulled out of an headspaces, I can easily be put back into one. A Daddy behaving like a little is the most jarring and annoying however...which is why I tell ppl I don't like it lol.

[Lyla Kotamora]

I don't like when a Daddy does 'baby talk' to me. Like how a parent would baby talk a child. "I's love yous so much" or something like that. It makes me view them as a little, so I don't like it. It instantly pulls me out of little mode. Besides that, overly sexual things can pull me out of littlespace too. My headspaces are very fluid tho and can change quickly, so just as easy as I can be pulled out of an headspaces, I can easily be put back into one. A Daddy behaving like a little is the most jarring and annoying however...which is why I tell ppl I don't like it lol.

 

 

Exactly I feel the same way. I don't do much baby talk myself, I just talk cute and sweet. So when a daddy baby talks me it makes me go back to my ex who was a little/sub. (He acted Dom and few months into it he dropped it and showed who he truly was. I still loved him for everything else he was to me. But it was hard for me as all my life little space and having a DD helped with my anxiety and stress. So not having that outlet was hard.) But yes I completely agree dear.

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

Some people who aren't into the dynamic can be introduced to it and become great doms/caregivers. My best friend did that with her partner and he (by all accounts) makes an excellent daddy/dom despite not being into it originally. But some people just are not into CG/L at all and can't be converted. What any relationship needs is communication - speaking to your partner and explaining to them what they're doing is taking you out of littlespace. Most partners, and especially most caregivers, will change their behaviour if you explain the situation calmly, but in most cases people don't even realise a particular behaviour is a problem unless they're told. You can say they should know, because being little and being not little are noticeable, but people can't mind-read and there can be a bunch of reasons why someone is or isn't in littlespace.

 

As a caregiver, I've been guilty of this too. I've said and done the wrong things, or rather things that were wrong for certain people, and inadvertently pulled them out of littlespace. It feels horrible to make a mistake like that, and it usually happens in the early days of a relationship while people are still figuring each other out. Back to your original questions OP, a couple of examples I can remember are: "tickling" (via online roleplay) someone who didn't like being tickled, and threatening a time-out to a little who was being bratty when she had a real hatred of that kind of punishment. In both cases we handled it by discussing it, and after some prompting it became apparent what the problem was. Also in both cases, they were both able to get back into littlespace subsequently so I don't feel like it was completely ruined - it was in that moment but not permanently so.

[Arenvos]

I always Little, but sometimes my big side comes out when its needed