why am I not getting any replies on my personal post

[Disneyboy90]

I just thought  would throw this out here but I am curious why I haven't been getting any replies on my personal post that I had made and edited for new title and edited my post a little and still continue to bump it but I get nothing of any replies from anyone who is interested:/ How come this is happening to me huh?

[JayJayBiscuit]

Well could be one...they are not interested

Or two maybe to shy to say something

If there is a third well idk what that would be

Just give it sometime or look for ads yourself for people you might be interested in

Never hurts to make the first move

[Little kaiya]

People are looking for different things so it is most likely people who've looked at your ad are just looking for something different. If you look at the new posts each day you will see a very large portion of them are personal ads.

 

Perhaps try a different approach, reply on topics of discussion, get to know people, try the chat room, modify your ad to add more detail (I dont know how detailed it is or isn't). Try getting involved with your local community if you want to meet someone locally.

 

Just posting a personal ad doesn't guarantee replies. You are talking about finding another person not buying a commodity.

 

Little kaiya

Edited March 19, 2019 by Little kaiya

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Be patient and wait for the right person. It takes time to find the right fit. Be happy being single for now and focus on yourself. Not having a relationship isn't the end of the world.

[Disneyboy90]

Well could be one...they are not interested

Or two maybe to shy to say something

If there is a third well idk what that would be

Just give it sometime or look for ads yourself for people you might be interested in

Never hurts to make the first move

I have beeb bumping my post for a long time and idk whats going on and I have both that I am looking for a mommy or daddy and I do look for other ads from other caregivers as well to.

[Disneyboy90]

Be patient and wait for the right person. It takes time to find the right fit. Be happy being single for now and focus on yourself. Not having a relationship isn't the end of the world.

 I have been being patient and trying for over years and its been hard to find someone to be a mommy or daddy to me and I ma not happy being single and it stinks being single and i would like a mommy or daddy to baby me

[Disneyboy90]

People are looking for different things so it is most likely people who've looked at your ad are just looking for something different. If you look at the new posts each day you will see a very large portion of them are personal ads.

 

Perhaps try a different approach, reply on topics of discussion, get to know people, try the chat room, modify your ad to add more detail (I dont know how detailed it is or isn't). Try getting involved with your local community if you want to meet someone locally.

 

Just posting a personal ad doesn't guarantee replies. You are talking about finding another person not buying a commodity.

 

Little kaiya

where would I go to get to know people on here and I just basically said what I was looking for in a mommy or daddy and that i am a nonsexual baby boy and if they were interested then message me here or send me a message on kik if they had one.

[Little kaiya]

I asked my Daddy to take a look at your ad and a few ads that have gotten more responses and offer his perspective.

 

What he noticed is your ad is all about what you want but doesnt really say anything about what you have to offer a prospective Daddy or mommy.

 

He also suggested that a lot of littles and Caregivers seem to be looking for a relationship which often includes a sexual element at some point so they may see the nonsexual element in your ad and decide it isnt a good match for them. It doesn't mean you should change who you are but it might be a factor.

 

As for meeting people on here you can join the chat room, post on different threads, start threads yourself, etc., there are lots of different ways.

 

Lastly, bumping the same add that hasn't gotten you any replies seems unlikely to succeed. If it didnt work the first bunch of times it isnt likely to work just repeating the same thing over and over again. Maybe trying talking to Caregivers and littles in relationships and asking how they found one another.

 

Best of luck in your journey.

 

Little kaiya

[junebug0325]

Hiya!

 

I'm sorry you haven't received any replies on your ad. It's important to note that this site was not built for dating. And although you see a lot of personal ads, the responses on those ads are not comparable to other sites.

 

My best advice would be to look at other's personal ads to see if someone who is a possible match just missed your ad completely. Another idea would to join the chat and try to meet people that way. 

 

I hope this helps at least a little bit. Best of luck on your journey.

 

 

 

 

Junebug 

[Disneyboy90]

I asked my Daddy to take a look at your ad and a few ads that have gotten more responses and offer his perspective.

 

What he noticed is your ad is all about what you want but doesnt really say anything about what you have to offer a prospective Daddy or mommy.

 

He also suggested that a lot of littles and Caregivers seem to be looking for a relationship which often includes a sexual element at some point so they may see the nonsexual element in your ad and decide it isnt a good match for them. It doesn't mean you should change who you are but it might be a factor.

 

As for meeting people on here you can join the chat room, post on different threads, start threads yourself, etc., there are lots of different ways.

 

Lastly, bumping the same add that hasn't gotten you any replies seems unlikely to succeed. If it didnt work the first bunch of times it isnt likely to work just repeating the same thing over and over again. Maybe trying talking to Caregivers and littles in relationships and asking how they found one another.

 

Best of luck in your journey.

 

Little kaiya

what do you mean by that I don't have anything showing of what I have to offer a mommy or daddy and that my post only shows about what i want? I am not really looking for a bf/gf relationship kind of thing and I am just looking for a caregiver to take care of me as their baby boy and that's it. So if my post that i keep bumping isn't going to work with me bumping it every time then should I have it deleted and then make a whole new one or what?

[Disneyboy90]

Hiya!

 

I'm sorry you haven't received any replies on your ad. It's important to note that this site was not built for dating. And although you see a lot of personal ads, the responses on those ads are not comparable to other sites.

 

My best advice would be to look at other's personal ads to see if someone who is a possible match just missed your ad completely. Another idea would to join the chat and try to meet people that way. 

 

I hope this helps at least a little bit. Best of luck on your journey.

 

 

 

 

Junebug 

Oh I am not trying to make this out about a dating thing for me and all I am doing is just trying to find a caregiver for myself to be with who will baby me.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

When reading your personal it's all about what you want. Yet, nothing about you. What do you have to offer a CG? What are your interests? Hobbies? Music? Tv show? Movies?

 

People will be more likely to reply if you have common interests.

[Guest Revurx]

 I have been being patient and trying for over years and its been hard to find someone to be a mommy or daddy to me and I ma not happy being single and it stinks being single and i would like a mommy or daddy to baby me

 

It's time to take a different approach. You can't just post an ad saying, "I want" and expect results. If I were you I'd focus on getting to know people around the forum. Make friends, get to know people, let people get to know you. With that approach, you're far more likely to find what you're looking for. 

[Disneyboy90]

When reading your personal it's all about what you want. Yet, nothing about you. What do you have to offer a CG? What are your interests? Hobbies? Music? Tv show? Movies?

 

People will be more likely to reply if you have common interests.

what do you mean by what I want to offer the caregiver? So in my personal I have to put my interests like hobbies,music,tv shows, movies and etc. ?

[Disneyboy90]

It's time to take a different approach. You can't just post an ad saying, "I want" and expect results. If I were you I'd focus on getting to know people around the forum. Make friends, get to know people, let people get to know you. With that approach, you're far more likely to find what you're looking for. 

 So how do I go about doing all of this?

[SamL]

what do you mean by what I want to offer the caregiver? So in my personal I have to put my interests like hobbies,music,tv shows, movies and etc. ?

 

You are asking for a relationship.  That relationship will be entered into by two adults.  Each adult in a relationship brings something to the table.  You want someone who is going to invest a lot of time giving you what you want.  That's what they are going to bring to the table - babying you, showing you attention, etc.  What people keep asking you is what are you prepared to bring to the relationship table?  Your hobbies, music, tv shows etc., are still things all about you like.  Here, just for fun...really:

 

[xBabydollx]

Perhaps another way of looking at it is, why should a caregiver pick u? Normal romantic relationship included or not, u must realize there are tons of options on this site for ppl to choose from. What makes u so special? Why choose u over anyone else? What do u have to offer? Are u honest? Considerate? Kind? A great listener? Why should u be their babyboy vs anybody else in the personal section? This is what everyone is trying to get u to see. u are only saying what u want, but nothing about what u can give. If u aren't offering anything...what is there for someone to be interested in having?

 

Also, idk if u already are, but I would mention that I'm not looking for a conventional gf/bf relationship in my ad if I were u, just to further clear things up for ppl reading ur ad.

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

I'm absolutely not saying this to put you off. Making a personal ad and putting yourself out there is the best way to let people know you're available and you're looking for someone. However, it does take time as others have already pointed out. And unfortunately, one factor working against you is that there tend to be more littles than caregivers - at least in my experience of the online CG/L community. That doesn't mean that your ideal partner isn't out there, but it does mean that it may take time to find them, and you're probably never going to be inundated with dozens of messages unless the ratio of caregivers to littles shifts dramatically in future. I've had a look at your personal ad, and while what you write is fine, you have a good writing style, and you don't make any obvious mistakes with spelling or grammar, your ad is only a single paragraph and it wouldn't hurt to go into more detail. You could add some information about things you like outside of CG/L, your job, hobbies, personal interests, etc. Think of your personal ad as like marketing - show off as much as possible to your potential caregiver.

[Disneyboy90]

You are asking for a relationship.  That relationship will be entered into by two adults.  Each adult in a relationship brings something to the table.  You want someone who is going to invest a lot of time giving you what you want.  That's what they are going to bring to the table - babying you, showing you attention, etc.  What people keep asking you is what are you prepared to bring to the relationship table?  Your hobbies, music, tv shows etc., are still things all about you like.  Here, just for fun...really:

 

Okay i gotcha on what you mean by that of like I have to show my interests and such besides what I look for in a caregiver.

[Disneyboy90]

Perhaps another way of looking at it is, why should a caregiver pick u? Normal romantic relationship included or not, u must realize there are tons of options on this site for ppl to choose from. What makes u so special? Why choose u over anyone else? What do u have to offer? Are u honest? Considerate? Kind? A great listener? Why should u be their babyboy vs anybody else in the personal section? This is what everyone is trying to get u to see. u are only saying what u want, but nothing about what u can give. If u aren't offering anything...what is there for someone to be interested in having?

 

Also, idk if u already are, but I would mention that I'm not looking for a conventional gf/bf relationship in my ad if I were u, just to further clear things up for ppl reading ur ad.

Okay thanx for the advise and I will have to consider that and put that in my ad when I make a new one.

[Disneyboy90]

I'm absolutely not saying this to put you off. Making a personal ad and putting yourself out there is the best way to let people know you're available and you're looking for someone. However, it does take time as others have already pointed out. And unfortunately, one factor working against you is that there tend to be more littles than caregivers - at least in my experience of the online CG/L community. That doesn't mean that your ideal partner isn't out there, but it does mean that it may take time to find them, and you're probably never going to be inundated with dozens of messages unless the ratio of caregivers to littles shifts dramatically in future. I've had a look at your personal ad, and while what you write is fine, you have a good writing style, and you don't make any obvious mistakes with spelling or grammar, your ad is only a single paragraph and it wouldn't hurt to go into more detail. You could add some information about things you like outside of CG/L, your job, hobbies, personal interests, etc. Think of your personal ad as like marketing - show off as much as possible to your potential caregiver.

Thank you for your advise and should i take down and make a new personal ad and add all these advises that I have been giving to use for my personal ad ?

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

So if you go to your personal ad, at the bottom of the post next to the red "Report" button, you can choose to edit your post and add in anything else you wanted to say without having to start from scratch, but it's up to you.

[LittleTeacup]

Thank you for your advise and should i take down and make a new personal ad and add all these advises that I have been giving to use for my personal ad ?

 

 I don't think you're allowed to make a new ad after deleting one.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

You can edit it. We don't remove ads for the sole purpose of creating a new one.

[SamL]

Okay i gotcha on what you mean by that of like I have to show my interests and such besides what I look for in a caregiver.

 

Not exactly what I had in mind.  Every person in your life is someone you have a relationship with, right?  You have a relationship with your teachers in school (if you go to school), your boss at your job (if you work), etc.  Now, at work your relationship goes like this: You work.  Your boss pays you for doing the work.  If you stop showing up, your boss will stop paying you and conversely, if your boss stops paying you, you'll stop working.  Sound about right?  You trade your time and labor for your boss's money.  Give and take.  So let's take a look at your ad:

 

 

 

I am looking for a mommy or daddy who is loving,caring,nurturing,caring,sweet/kind, will be their for me, take very good care of me, will protect me, will help me become a baby boy for you and will be understanding of me being a baby boy for you, is fine with changing wet/poopy diapers, can be strict with punishments when I am being bad. I am willing to relocate to be with mommy or daddy and the mommy or daddy has to be 20+ yrs old.

 

Let's say you find the perfect mommy or daddy for you based on your ad.  Can you explain to me how it is that this person will be different than your servant?

 

You are looking for someone who is loving, caring, sweet/kind.  In return, you are willing to offer them...what?

You are looking for someone who will be there for you.  In return, you are willing to offer them...what?

You are looking for someone who will take very good care of you.  In return, you are willing to offer them...what?

You are looking for someone who will protect you.  In return, you are willing to offer them...what?

You are looking for someone who will help you become a baby boy.  In return, you are willing to offer them...what?

You are looking for someone who will be understanding.  In return, you are willing to offer them...what?

You are looking for someone who will be fine with changing wet/poopy diapers.  In return, you are willing to offer them...what?

You are looking for someone who will be strict with punishments when you are bad.  In return, you are willing to offer them...what?

 

They only thing you've offered is to move to be close to them but I've got to tell you - I think anyone would be willing to relocate in order to have all their physical and emotional needs met (if they are not being met currently).  Pretty much the only thing you've offered is that they are not going to get their sexual needs met through you...but you haven't mentioned if they're going to be able to get those needs met elsewhere.  I've met folks who are asexual and want their partners to be asexual too - is that you?  Or are they able to have and enjoy sexual relationships with others?  Do you plan on working and contributing to the household income, or is your caregiver going to be responsible for you financially as well?

 

And then there's the elephant in the room.  There are a lot more cis male Daddy's looking for lg's than there are male and female CG's looking for lb's.