LittleFlower913 Posted March 15, 2019 Report Posted March 15, 2019 (edited) Thank you for all your help!!! I'm going to get through this and it's going to be okay!! I love all y'all help!!!! Edited March 16, 2019 by LittleFlower913 1
DaddyDom3238 Posted March 15, 2019 Report Posted March 15, 2019 Hi, A couple of questions first, is he abusive and do you live with him? The only way to find happiness is to accept who you are first and foremost and not allow someone else to determine your self worth as only you can do that.
LittleFlower913 Posted March 15, 2019 Author Report Posted March 15, 2019 Hi, A couple of questions first, is he abusive and do you live with him? The only way to find happiness is to accept who you are first and foremost and not allow someone else to determine your self worth as only you can do that. 1
LittleFlower913 Posted March 15, 2019 Author Report Posted March 15, 2019 Yes and yes it's hard for me to admit that for its been a long and hard thing to deal with. I want to leave but the guilt and the feeling of being trapped is overwelming
Vmaxxx Posted March 15, 2019 Report Posted March 15, 2019 First of all congratulations that you realised it was unhealthy relationship . It's really hard to admit the person whom you love isn't the right person for you. Do what your heart says. Each little has right to be happy. Spend time for yourself. And most importantly ,this lifestyle is wonderful , so don't let anyone to spoil it. Reach out some little friends and talk to them ,you will feel much better. Hope to see you blooming and shining on here soon. Have a good day
junebug0325 Posted March 15, 2019 Report Posted March 15, 2019 Hi, I just want to say that I am so sorry this is happening to you, and I am very proud of your courage for wanting to leave the abuse as soon as possible. I recently just went through a similar experience except is was a parent instead of a partner. I'm going to speak on behalf of my experience getting out of the situation. This is not to say that what I did was the most efficient or the safest way to leave the situation, but it's what worked for me. Before I left, I made a list of everything that I wanted to take. This includes clothes, medicine, toiletries, personal hygiene products, shoes, important information like my ID, my SS card, and my passport (if you have your birth certificate, don't forget that, either). I packed up my car with everything I just mentioned, along with some basic apartment necessities like dishes, cups, pots and pans, and cleaning products. I fit as much as I could because I wasn't sure if I was going to have the opportunity to go back and get more of my stuff. Thankfully, I had a safe haven already waiting for me, but you might not be in the same situation. If you can, go to a friend's house and stay with them. If not, you might want to check with your local women's shelters and emergency shelters before you leave to make sure they have accommodations for you. If none of what I just says is available to you, you can stay where you are or sleep in your car until said accommodations become available. What I just said might sound extreme, but if the relationship is abusive, you want to get out as soon as you can. You already completed the first step of leaving an abusive situation and that's acknowledging it. This relationship does not define who you are, and the abuse is not your fault. You need to find what makes you happy, because that (and your safety, of course) is the most important thing. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck. If you need any more personal advice, please reach out and send me a personal message. Junebug xxx 1
Guest LittleSnowiii Posted March 15, 2019 Report Posted March 15, 2019 First of all want to tell you how brave you are. Not easy to realise how bad the situation is and admit it! So you should be proud of yourself. I'm not 100% how bad your situation is, but nonetheless here are some tips: If you have any contact with family members or friends you trust, I recommend you to tell them about this. They might help you financially and mentally, so you can move away from him. Secondly I recommend you to look for some therapy. Some medical centers and hospitals offer free therapy. You need to vent and heal and is really hard all alone. So think of it if you can. In case you're scared for the worst, tell the people around you where you are. So they know and can help! If right now you have no one to help you, please try to contact emergency lines for domestic violence! Also, there are shelters nowdays that help people aswell. 1
LittleFlower913 Posted March 16, 2019 Author Report Posted March 16, 2019 It means so much to me to have the support I just want to be myself and be happy. 1
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