Females like being Daddies too..

[Guest RavenBangtan]

I was recently talking to one of my friends who’s very much into ddlg/ddlb only she prefers to be a Daddy Domme. She’s been getting a few people hating on her because of it, what’s your opinions? Should female dommes be strictly mommies? Does it even bother you? And is there any females that can relate to or feel the same about being a Daddy?

 

Edited March 11, 2019 by PurpleBangtan

[VentralStriatum]

I can't ever imagine hating someone for what they like calling themselves. I'm just wondering what makes her prefer the male noun when there's a perfectly suitable female noun that people within this dynamic widely use. Especially online she'll likely have to make clear "I'm a Daddy... but also a woman" a lot.

[Guest RavenBangtan]

She said she feeling more empowered by it, she said it’s hard to explain so I’m not sure.

[Guest Prat]

I don't see how anyone would be bothered by it but that's just me.. Some people are bigots and there's nothing you can do about it.

 

If she wants to be a Daddy then let it be.

[VentralStriatum]

That makes a lot of sense. I can imagine she's still thinking a lot about it herself because she's obviously aware of how other people are more likely to call her a "Mommy" within this dynamic. But it's true that there is a difference in how they're perceived. For example, in my mind, moms are more nurturing and caring, while dads are strong protectors. Not saying she has the same image of moms and dads, but given that this is true, the role of being a strong protector may appeal far more to her, so she wants to be a Daddy too.

 

I understand people getting slightly confused because 99% of the time Mommy/Daddy corresponds to gender, and I also think a Mommy/Daddy can both be as protective/nurturing/caring as they want to be. But I also think that if she were to introduce herself as a Daddy because she finds it empowering, that's quite endearing in its own way.

[CheshireNitemare]

I don't think anyone should have problem with it as it seems kind of stupid to have a problem with it. 

[Guest RavenBangtan]

Thanks guys

[Guest QueenJellybean]

i know a lot of female-identifying people who use the term "daddy" as their title! 

[Guest RavenBangtan]

I’ve heard about it before but she’s the first person I’ve talk to that is a “Daddy” Edited March 11, 2019 by PurpleBangtan

[Little kaiya]

Words have meaning and if Daddy is the word that resonates for her then that is the word that she should use.

 

Can it possibly cause confusion, sure, but that being said it's a confusion that should be very simple to clear up.

 

Little kaiya

[xBabydollx]

I can't say I understand. I generally am wary once ppl complicate things by switching nouns etc around. However, I believe ppl should be able to live however they want. Silly to hate that she wants to be called Daddy. If she isn't ur partner, then it literally doesn't effect u, so it shouldn't matter. Also, if u don't like what ppl call themselves or how they live....then u are free to X them out ur circle too. (I use 'u' in a general context).

 

She would have to get used to constantly explaining herself to ppl tho (or ignoring them) because ppl will be confused and ask about it. If she's super private tho then hey....nobody to talk to about it lol

[Momma'sBoy]

I can understand it I guess. "Daddy" and "Mommy" have very different connotations (at least in the CGL world).

[junebug0325]

I don't have any problem with it. You do you, is my mentality so to speak. It doesn't affect me in anyway so I don't care. If it makes you happy then go for it! I encourage it!

[CryBabyUniWolf]

I think it's kinda hot in my opinion. I'd like a female caregiver that likes to be called daddy, but that's just me.

[vbee]

My Daddy is a girl! It has everything to do with how the two differ in the community and what kind of domme she is. She’s ALL masculine energy alpha-female with authority and an intoxicating firm grasp over me. If she did for me the things I do to help HER in her day to day life maybe she’d like Mommy better but she doesn’t do what Mommies in the CGL community tend to do. So. Daddy.

[LittleTeacup]

Ok, I'm jumping on the bandwagon

 

It's fine. "Daddy" is just a title/nickname, like "master" or "sir" or "hunny-bun" or whatever. Your partner is not your actual dad anyway, so what does it matter if "daddy" is male or female? It's no one else's business.

 

I do wonder, however, if there are any men who prefer being called "mommy"?  Because if not, then there's probably some underlying patriarchal reason for women to want to use male titles. But that still shouldn't mean they can't do it.

 

Personally, I wouldn't want to call a female caregiver "daddy", but I generally operate under an "I do me and you do you" philosophy. If that's what you want, who am I to say you can't (unless there's harm involved).

[Beefy]

I know exactly what you mean. When I am being a CG for my partner, she prefers to call my Daddy as opposed to the feminine alternative. It doesn't bother me at all but I have had some people laugh at the idea when we've told them. I just sort of shrug it off when people poke fun at us.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

I'm disappointed about the lack of orange is the new black references. There's a female character in the latest season who likes to be called daddy. Not DDlg related, but still relatable.

 

As long as it doesn't affect me, I don't care what people do. Each to their own, whatever makes them happy.

[daddy_alejandro]

I identify as a daddy and I’m a lesbian it’s just hard to find a little

[Daddysqueerkitty]

My daddy is a woman who is very masculine. Mummy just didn't fit. I think there's also a cultural understanding of the mummy being the nurturer and care provider, and the daddy being the disciplinarian. Which fits her more closely

[Siniwit]

While I personally have no issue with however anyone wants to represent themselves or identify as, I would just like to add that nobody should ever feel like they have to slot themselves into a particular box just because of the type of person they are. If she's a disciplinarian/protector type, there's no rule anywhere to say she can't be a Mommy or that a Mommy has to be and act a certain way.

If I were in her shoes, I would ask myself "Why not challenge the common perception? Why not redefine the role for myself?". I would see it as an opportunity to show the world that a Mommy can be just as protective and harsh with discipline as a Daddy. If that were the case, that is. However, it should be clear that it really doesn't matter either way.

That's not the only way for someone to identify as a Daddy, and actually, I myself am a more softer/nurturing Daddy who can bust out the harsh discipline when necessary (and I'm extremely protective too!), so I'm a mix of all these traits we've mentioned in this topic, yet identify as a Daddy and that's why if this person wants to identify as a Daddy, regardless of trait or gender, then more power to her. As long as it works for a person's partner and any confusion is cleared up very, very early on, then it shouldn't hinder a relationship.

Though that said, there will be some people who will fight hard to maintain that "Daddy" is exclusively a male term and "Mommy" is exclusively a female term. Just as in this topic, we are pretty much all in agreement that it's understandable, it should be equally understood that some littles may not be 100% comfortable having a female Daddy for their own reasons.

[StrawberryBabydoll]

My caregiver loves to be called Daddy was well as Mommy. She recently opened up and asked that if her feeling like a Daddy would change anything with our relationship. And when I said "No why would it?" she cried over the phone and said she had been keeping it in for a long time now.

 

So now every morning I ask her who she is that day and wear a bracelet that says her name so I have a reminder!

[Guest BabyPeach]

I would call a female Daddy if that's what she preferred and we were in a relationship. I would see her as a Daddy and not a Mommy. Too me, they are two different roles. We are all different and need to find what works for each of us.

[TampaDaddy]

Personally, I have no problem with it.  However, I can see where some single moms of actual RL kids might be HIGHLY offended by it.  To them, it would seem as if it the term "Mommy" wasn't as good or wasn't good enough.

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

Personally, I have no problem with it. However, I can see where some single moms of actual RL kids might be HIGHLY offended by it. To them, it would seem as if it the term "Mommy" wasn't as good or wasn't good enough.

Tbh it doesn't affect them so they should mind their own business. Same goes for every other type of person who has a problem with it. It reminds me of an ex who has a name other than her given name that she prefers to be called, and her mom and sister REFUSE to call her by it. Her mom is like "what, the name I gave you isn't good enough?" But it's about the person who wants to go by whatever name, NOT anyone else. So many people have to make everything about them and they need to chill out. It's the same thing as wanting people to use a certain pronoun when they refer to you. "But you have a dick!" Doesn't matter, if I feel like I'm both genders, you'll use "they" when you're talking about me or I'll stop talking to you. This is not the case for me personally, just an example.

 

TLDR: everyone needs to mind their own business and respect what others want to be called. It's having common courtesy