Being a new parent and still doing ddlg

[sneaky_ninja_bunny]

Hi, I'd like to start off with apologizing if this has been asked repeatedly but I'm having a bit of a hard time eith this issue. I've looked for similar posts but they didn't really help.

 

I recently became a brand new mom to a cute baby boy and while I'm adjusting fairly well to having a newborn with me now, I'm having issues being little when I have the time to relax. My brain seems to be in constant parent mode and wont let me "switch" i guess is best term to being little. I'm always to focused on my baby and making sure he's okay, even when hes sleeping and I know hes fine because he'll be in room with me. I just cant seem to regress at all. I have no idea if its just me being a worry wart because of being a first time parent or what.

 

Is there anyway to help with switching?? I've tried talking to my bf with helping me since he was very helpful before during stessful times but due to circumstances, thats no longer an option. Any suggestions would be super appreciated!! Thank you!!

[PapaF]

Hi,

 

I am not a woman so I cannot put myself in your place obviously. I have nevertheless seen this many times over with friends and might risk to give you an opinion.

One thing I noticed is that you say your child is your first and a newborn. So it is a big change in your life, a newborn need a lot of attention. Also being the first, you are new into parenting and that add a lot of extra worries...

It sounds reasonable that right now you just don't have the time to focus on yourself (and so cannot switch). Focusing solely on a newborn and especially the fist one is the case for most parents actually, it is the same for regular ones as for the ones into a lifestyle such as ours.
So what I would suggest is to give yourself some time and to not worry too much or to try to hurry back into it. This sounds to me like adding additional pressure to an already potentially stressful time with learning to be a new parent.
When your baby will grow up a little and that you will get more used to the parenting thing (and worry less about every little thing), you should be able to gain back some time for yourself for whatever it is (for u it might be switching, for other it might be go back horse riding or whatnot).

Now of course this can be easier for some, harder from others.

 

So I hope you wont be too hard on yourself and take it easy.

 

All the best and good luck!

[sneaky_ninja_bunny]

Thank you for the advice! You make a good point and I'll try to be more relax about it. I think I more stress about it because being little has always been a way for me to calm down and actually destress

[Princess Ganja]

My son just turned 6 months i know exactly wha your going thru . When your into ddlg just for the kink it can be fought . But me and my boyfriend make it our lifestyle. I have little moments with my son sometimes but it’s not a bad thing as long as you know how to care For your baby no matter when you do “switch. Switching on little mode for me actually helps when interacting with my kids when i. Not understanding them or they try to tell me something .... your a new mom it’s okay And I’m sure your doing an awesome job ❤ Relax with time it will be easier to switch off parent mode and go little

[Guest Aetherr]

my advice, dont force it as a father of a 6 year old i can say now you wont have much time for yourself but when your baby is out of the "newborn" stage you can relax a bit more as they will start to play with toys, watch tv and all that stuff which will get you 10-20 minutes to yourself whenever it happens you wont be anxious and may regress, also stressing about it will not help. im sure you have been told but looking after a newborn is a 24 hour job and in that time you need to be ready to help your child so even that fact alone means regressing in any significant way will be hard/impossible and thats not a bad thing parenting should always come first and you might get more fun learning to regress around your child at playtime