Daddy Stop Little From Being Little

[Guest littlebeebo]

Hello everyone. Hope you’re having a good day. I am wondering if it’s right when a Daddy allow a little to be little ONLY when he permits/allows to? While I understand every relationship is different but I’m genuinely curious.

 

I just talked to a Daddy here who claims he prefers the ddlg lifestyle. But he’s behaving like a Dom with no daddy essence at all. He was like do this, do that or no toleration at all, or training, etc. And when I asked him if I’m allowed to be little because it didn’t sound ddlg at all... he said “Yes you would be as I see fit and based on your progress but irrespective you will be always be loved, and cared, and protected. You will always be safe and protected under my command.”

 

Isn’t it being little with daddy, loving each other, pleasing daddy, make each other happy, being kiddy, daddy being a nurturing figure, etc, ddlg? Or I’m being oblivion?

 

Criticsm is accepted!

[SharkPrince]

There's many many many different ways for the little/caregiver dynamic for work. As with each and every dynamic between two or more people. Some people do like to put a schedule or a limit on their little times and that and it does seem to work for some people 

[prince eefy]

i think a daddy should let their little be tiny whenever they wanna. having limits on when they can or cannot be tiny is rlly wrong and not what a real daddy is like in my opinion. a real daddy loves their little for who they are and doesnt have limits on when they can or cant be tiny

[Guest Urthurs]

Right or wrong does not really exist when it comes to this. If that's the way you like it, then so be it. If not, then move on. Some people are even into being forced to be a little or adult baby etc. So ask yourself if that's what you want or not.

[Untwisted]

Anyone can call themselves a daddy but whether or not you consider them to be a daddy is up to you.

 

I just talked to a Daddy here who claims he prefers the ddlg lifestyle. But he’s behaving like a Dom with no daddy essence at all.

 

= You just talked to a person here who claims he prefers the ddlg lifestyle. But he’s behaving like a Dom with no daddy essence at all.

As has been said above, there isn't a standard right or wrong way for things to be.

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

If this is bothering you, you should really talk to him. A relationship only works if both parties are happy.

Personally I think a daddy should allow a little to be themselves. But that's just me.

[TheBigBadWolf]

If a little feels comfortable being in little space with said daddy, that means she trusts "him" enough to slip into little space. He should in no way hinder her from being herself. To me, that just seems extremely counter productive for the dynamic. But that's just my opinion.

[TampaDaddy]

From my point of view, as a daddy, I would NEVER tell my little/baby girl she couldn't be little unless it was due to us being around other people who wouldn't understand, such as having vanilla guests over or going out in public.  Littlespace is HEALING for many littles.  Even if it's not necessarily healing for some, it's carefree and FUN for the little (or at least it should be).  That makes it very valuable and not to be restricted, as far as I'm concerned.

 

Plus, isn't it part of EVERY daddy's personality that one of the reasons he got into the lifestyle in the first place is that he enjoys his little/baby girl being in littlespace?  If not, why does he want to be a daddy in the first place?  DUH! 

 

 

Just my 2¢.

[Little kaiya]

Personally I think Urthurs hit the nail on the head. If that's the way that person perceives being a Daddy that's their choice. Some littles will like that approach and some wont but it doesnt really mean the person is or isn't a Daddy.

 

Is it "right", well if that person and the little they are involved with agree then it is "right for them". If you're talking to this person and find yourself asking others if it's "right" I might suggest it might not be right for you.

 

Would I want a Daddy who took that approach, no. Tgat being said, my Daddy also doesnt encourage or discourage little time. If it happens he is happy with our relationship and if it doesn't he's still happy. For some folks being kid like / little is core to their DDlg relationship while for others, my Daddy and I, we are still in a DDlg relationship whether I'm kid like at that moment or not because the core elements for us are the nurturing and unconditional love which is always present no matter the situation.

 

All this to say, some will like that person's perspective, some won't, some will be neutral but is it right or wrong, only those directly involved can truly say.

 

Little kaiya

[Littlest_Bee]

I absolutely agree with Little kaiya and I also hope you're all having a good day.

 

While the approach that was described in the OP probably wouldn't suit my needs, I'd only say that everyone within the dynamic has to be comfortable with the way things are handled.

 

From the way it's described it doesn't seem like it's what you were looking for.

 

The only thing that has me a little worried is that you said you talked and it comes across like he was expecting you to submit to whatever he said right away.

If this was just a theoretical discussion about what he would expect if you started a relationship: fine. If he approached you thinking you'd submit without discussing boundaries then I'm critical of that.

[Guest sweetlittlecub]

I personally think that he should respect your littlespace enough to let you regress whenever you can/feel like it. I wouldnt just let him treat you like that, you deserve better imo.

[CryBabyUniWolf]

It honestly doesn't matter what anyone thinks.

It's about you and your partner.

It's about if you like it and agree with it.
If that is not what you are looking for you should really move on.
Does he sound like the daddy I would want? No.
Could that be the kind of daddy someone else would want? Possibly.
If you are not comfortable with something, then do not do it.
I personally do not believe in forced submission. But that's just me.
Find what you like and want in a relationship hun. That's all that matters.

Edited March 8, 2019 by Elvhen Fen'an

[Guest OneOregonLittle]

     Please be careful, I do not think any true Daddy would only allow his little to act little when he says it's ok, that is almost abused Daddy's are supposed to love their little because they are little. I have never had a Daddy but I would not keep one that tries to control when I am little.  Good Luck!

[Guest ~*BabyDoll*~]

Personally, I don't believe it is right for a Daddy to choose when a little should be in little space.

 

For me, my little space can happen spontaneously.

 

I could be doing something really random then feel like I need my stuffies, or watch A Goofy Movie(My favorite!), or color.

 

So for me, this would be a big no no.

 

However, some people view DDLG differently from the next, so maybe that was what he learned and thought was right.

 

But talk things through with him, make sure you are both on a mutual respect and understanding playing field.

 

Also remember to do what makes you happy and comfortable as well, even if it means voicing your concerns! 

 

Hope this helps! ^^^    

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

I don't personally think that this is right at all. This seems to me like a dom who just likes being called daddy, not an actual daddy.

[Little kaiya]

There are Doms that like to be called Daddy and if that makes them happy and their little is happy with it then what is the issue?

 

This notion of "real Daddies" or "actual Daddiess" has always confused me. Ultimately, it's two (or more) adults, that arent biologically related as parent and child, who are in a relationship engaging in activities and roles that they define amongst themselves.

 

I feel like it's one thing to say "not the dynamic I would want" and something very different to say they arent a true/real/actual Daddy. I mean who defines that anyways? Why do people get so invested in trying to define what others can or can't be or limit what titles someone can use to define themself? It is just very bizarre to me. Just my thoughts.

 

Little kaiya

[VentralStriatum]

What's completely clear is that you and him are incompatible when it comes to this dynamic. Roughly speaking your definition is a pretty good frame for DDLG, but it doesn't mean it's the same for everyone. Especially within DDLG, I notice a rift between people who are looking for a relationship that includes age regression, while another group does not. For them, DDLG is more between a bubbly, innocent little that's eager to please and a caring, guiding, teaching caregiver without involving little space at all. Then there's people that incorporate strict rules, while others are more loose. Some will include many BDSM elements and power dynamics in their relationship, others don't.

 

I don't like "true" vs. "fake" in general, but if you want to distinguish between these terms, then it should only be done in the context of a partner who's mostly unavailable, only using you for sex/attention vs. someone who gives and takes like a true partner does. Otherwise, we just have to accept incompatibility and move on. Imagine if everyone here gets called a "fake" because they don't confirm to someone's ideal, even when they're the perfect partner for someone else within the same dynamic. It'd devalue the term and become meaningless.

 

So in short, I guess I just wanted to pitch in to say I agree with the general consensus on this thread from Kaiya, Gandi, and others who mentioned something similar.