Insights and Clarification

[Sadie Tremaine]

(Forgive me if this isn't the right place to post it, and feel free to put it in the right place. The other options seem to be dedicated to either CGs or Littles, and I wanted to pose these thoughts in a place where everyone would feel free to respond.)

 

I have been a part of Ageplay the longest, over ten years. But it's not been in-person Ageplay, it's been in writing (though that isn't to say I haven't met anyone rl). I have also had contact with people who are a part of the BDSM or "adult discipline" community and then there are the people who are here, in the DD(MD)LG community. 

 

What are your thoughts on the "dividing lines" between these communities?

Edited March 4, 2019 by Sadietremaine

[LittleTeacup]

In my opinion, these kinds of lines are blurry. I don't think you engaging in ageplay through writing is less real than engaging in it in-person.

 

There are many varieties of BDSM. They don't all require discipline. For example, a couple could simply engage in pure SM with the one whipping the other because they like how it feels/the sounds/etc. No discipline required. Or really light bondage like just a pair of handcuffs doesn't necessarily require discipline. There is also nonsexual BDSM.

 

DDLG may fall under BDSM for some people, but not others. Some people experience age regression due to past trauma/child abuse and need a caregiver to help them function - that would not be considered BDSM. For others, even if your relationship is nonsexual, it might still count as BDSM. Of course, some littles like to be little by themselves. I sometimes get a bit little around friends because I'm comfortable with them and they indulge me, but it's definitely not BDSM.

 

Some littles like the bondage, the dominance games, the s+m, etc. Others just want to be cared for by a loving partner and be vulnerable. For some, it's something they keep for the bedroom because it's a kinky game to them, and for others it's part of their personality and it pops out all the time.

 

So, there's an overlap between BDSM and DDLG, but not all BDSM is DDLG and not all DDLG is BDSM.

[Sadie Tremaine]

Hi Little Teacup! I appreciate the reply, and it's what I had thought! I don't think engaging in AP in writing is any less real than in person, either. I have met up with some people in the AP community in real and we had a great time. 

 

BDSM has a more clear difference for me. I was once told that I was "far too nurturing" to be a Domme, which is why AP and DDLG make more sense for me to be a part of! But that isn't to say that I don't see your point about everything inter-linking. That's why I asked the question to begin with -- because that's how I was thinking!  

 

As far as the age-regression I was an education major and so I can understand from a psychological POV that everyone has an inner-child. It's what I start out with when I'm explaining to people who are new to AP.