I think im the worst

[Just a little one]

[Just a little one]

Im just really angry at myself for thinking i dont want a chunky boyfriend when im the size i am

[Guest Pin]

Just let him be his own person lol.

You’re not horrible for having your own feelings and preferences.

But it’s more important to love his personality and how he treats you.

I think you know that.

 

Bodies are certain to change over time. It’s just life.

[Guest lil_devil216]

aww thats pretty scary to think about that but it would be best to just remember the other reasons on why you love him and that should help, everyone dose change especially when it comes to weight. But if you do really love him then once you get used to his weight gain it will be easier if anything your also not use to him having a belly I hope this has helped you a bit and I dont think your and awful person for thinking about that iv been in the same situation.

[Just a little one]

I love him lots. And he means the world to me. We just had a baby and hes great with him. Im focusing on that.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

hello! resident hitter of hard truths here! 

 

while we all probably feel that it's shallow to judge a person off their looks, i don't think that's what you are doing here. 

you clearly love this guy, & if we're being honest instead of politically correct, physical attraction does play a large part into most people's relationships.

if you aren't attracted to a certain habit about your partner -- including their size -- that might happen.

i knew a couple that experienced similar struggles on the opposite end of the spectrum -- she had weight loss surgery & suddenly, he was less attracted to her & he felt terrible about it.

but, we can't change what we are attracted to. 

 

i think being honest with yourself & forgiving yourself for experiencing super normal thoughts is a big first step.

you do love your partner, which you've stated, & this will be something to adjust to.

but it's new, and it doesn't mean it's going to destroy what you have.

you said it yourself -- you've got a lot of good to focus on.

just don't bully yourself for your own thoughts, even if you see them as negative.

it would be different, i think, if you were letting those thoughts influence your decisions, but you clearly aren't.

cut yourself some slack & some adjustment time. 

 

it'll only become a problem if you let it take over everything. 

[junebug0325]

Hiya!

 

Physical attraction is really important when it comes to relationships! However, I don't think it should only be the only thing we are attracted too. Obviously, we are all attracted to something different but what matters the most is their personality and what's in their heart!

 

I know change can be scary, especially when it's someone you love very much. Just remember that he won't put on a bunch of weight suddenly. From what it sounds like, he is just putting on a little weight at a time, which is good. Just make sure to remind him to keep eating healthy things, as well. 

 

Anyway, long story short, you aren't a bad person. Everyone has their own preferences, but make sure those preferences don't overpower your feelings for your Daddy. 

 

Hope this helps!

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

[Just a little one]

Thanks so much guys this helps a lot. We spoke about it before and he would be less attracted to me if i lost weight so he gets is too but i was really feeling his tummy and im not so sure that it isnt his stomach toning whoch muscles puff out as they tone and get stronger. So I dont know

[James.]

You should both get healthy. If he was underweight when you met then it is good that he gained, but he should not do so to the point of becoming overweight. If you are overweight you should lose so that you can be healthier. It's ok to fall short in ways when achieving these goals, but this is what you should work towards for yourself and your partner. In both of your cases, I think it is selfish to put personal preferences over your partner's health. I don't know if that is the case, but, just going off of what you've said here, that is my perception. You both want to be around a while for each other right? It's ok if you aren't perfect, no one is, but just do your best.

[Just a little one]

Its very difficult for me too loose weight, as i havw serve arthritis and movinf and walking hurts. I eat as healthy as possible but obviously weoght gain is inevitable when i cant excersise properly. Im not like morbidly obese like clothing size is just a rough guide im a size 14 in America 16 in uk size. Daddy is a 28inch waist

[Just a little one]

I think the another reason why i feel so fat is because im really really short

[Brokenbouncy]