Shamed

[CactusKing]

So my parents have found out about my DDLG relationship recently. They’re trying to shame me by telling me it’s taboo and that it’s not normal for her to act like a 6 year old girl. How would any of you suggest dealing with these sorts of people, because for some reason, I just feel ashamed when they talk down to me.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

hi there!

i'm not going to close this topic since it's been a while since we've had it, but i did want to link a few, pre-existing helpful links below

as well as remind everyone replying to refresh themselves with our rules when discussing outside criticism of the community. 

thank you! 

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/38825-getting-caught

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/9991-ddlg-hate/?hl=ddlg+hate
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22776-ive-been-shamed-and-im-all-depressed-now/?hl=anti-ddlg
 

[Guest Aetherr]

im sorry this has happened to you, i will try to be as nice as i can since i have little/no respects for people who judge others by how they want to live their life, even parents to kids

 

i know as hard as it seems but your parents are wrong here and being very mean

 

if i may you should consider just saying to them "you don't have to like it but you do have to accept it because it is who i am and that wont change just because you want to make me feel bad about it"

 

you cant really change how people think but you should be able to live life how you wish its down to your parents to remember they are supposed to love you as their child and aside for ensuring your well being and health nothing else in your life is anything to do with them and certainly not under their control..

 

please try not to let them shame you, you should be proud of getting to live your life the way you want

 

and your parents need to remember it takes all sorts to make a world.

 

edit: corrected typos and re-phrased some things for clarity.

Edited February 26, 2019 by Aetherr

[LittleTeacup]

Well, if your relationship is between two consenting adults who aren't related it's not taboo. Remind your parents of that. Also, age regression is more normal than they think. People rarely do it in public because of people like your parents who like to judge others and put them down.

 

Our parents can sometimes be the most difficult people in our lives to stand up to. We remember a time when we were helpless and dependent on them for our survival/well being. Before the age of child welfare laws, if you angered your parents too much you might have ended up abandoned. Many many grown adults who are otherwise strong independent individuals will cower in the face of their parents' disapproval.

 

Your parents are the narrow-minded ones. Do not feel ashamed for who you are. They're trying to terrorize you into conforming to their will (although I'm sure they don't realize that's what they're doing). Recognize that they're probably very afraid (although they'll deny it). You may be interested in this essay http://dkeenan.com/RJB-WhyViolence.pdf

 

Always be yourself, even when it's difficult.

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

Is your sex life, not theirs. As long as it's between two consenting and respectful adults, nothing wrong with it.

Being open and truthful to your sexuality is actually really healthy. Not to mention it builds trust and love between people. 

Be yourself and be happy. Don't let others tell you how to live.