[Guest Rye_Curiousity]

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

Be glad you have escaped alive, without harm, and move on.

 

 

Don't be shammed by these types.

[LittleCelticLass]

Rye, you actually did everything right. Even a 24/7 little is an adult, and should be able to communicate their needs as such. Additionally, we are all different, and how on earth would you know what we like as individuals if you don't ask?

You dodged a bullet imho.

Edited February 24, 2019 by LittleCelticLass

[Little kaiya]

I totally agree with LittleCelticLass, something I seem to do a lot as they have great answers.

 

Little or not we are all still adults and need to be able to have adult conversations, address adult responsibilities and live in the adult world.

 

I'm not saying that being a little us part time but when it starts to mean a person is incapable of looking after their own basic needs is when there starts to be an issue in my opinion.

 

There are a LOT of posts asking how should i make my Daddy or Mommy happy, how should i tell them what i want, what should i do or not do and honestly my answer is the same every time, TALK to them. Only the people in a relationship really know how they feel, the rest of us folks online are just guessing.

 

Her saying "you shouldnt be a Daddy if you dont know how" is a total crock to me. Parents dont get given a manual when they have a baby and the same goes for Caregivers. It takes time, interaction, reflection and more. My Daddy didn't know everything when we dipped our toes in and neither did I BUT we talked about what worked, didnt work, what we needed to change and how to do it.

 

Personally, of she cant express herself, her wants, her needs and is unable to do anything but blame you for not being good enough . . . . I can't see it getting better because anytime something goes wrong she'll most likely blame you and thats not a DDlg relationship thats abusive and emotional blackmail in my eyes. Take it as you will but I think a healthy DDlg relationship is one that has open, honest, loving, two way discussions.

 

Note, I don't mean a little should be able negotiate bed times and discipline but they should, to me, be able to Express their desires, feelings, wants, needs, insecurities etc.

 

Little kaiya

[KittyPrincess626]

You didn't do anything wrong by asking a question to an adult about components going into an part of an adult relationship. Regardless if its little space, pet play, slave/master or mistress you need to talk to each other which you were trying to do. So Kuddos for dodging a person with poor communication skills, how they hell are you suppose to know?! CGs/Doms are NOT meant to read the Subs' mind and vise versa that's what constant communication is for between two consenting adults. 

 

 

^^ okay stepping off the soapy box now you did good job 

[LittleCelticLass]

I totally agree with LittleCelticLass, something I seem to do a lot as they have great answers.

 

Little kaiya

Thank you.

[Guest Aetherr]

if you haven't already broken Contact with this person I highly suggest you do so in a polite way, a well adjusted and mature person should be able to answer questions like that with no issue and personally I would run for dear life if I encountered a person so delusional that they refuse to act their age at least where it matters.

 

you need a partner not a child.

Edited February 24, 2019 by Aetherr

[Brokenbouncy]

Everyone had good advice. I thought the question was great. It shows you want to start things off the right way.

Like others said you dodged a bullet. Sounds like that will be trouble not too far in the future.

[baby_k]

Others do have a point but I would also take into consideration that what she said could be just a reaction. People can be confused over what they want, even embarrased. And people can say horrible things when they are upset, and her extreme words sort of indicate that. ( As others have said, none of what she says is really right and you did nothing wrong. )

 

So, I would talk of this topic with the little when things are calmed down. Explain that you are not mind reader and every person is different. Either she wants to work with you and find fitting things for you two or not. But judging a person when they get emotional over something that can be sensitive topic for them and carry a lot of emotional stress is..... hasty also.