little too much?

[sweaterpawsmaddox]

so me and my cg both are switches, and take turns being little. but more often than not i’m the one that’s little. and i feel bad. it’s just every time i talk to him it makes me feel small and like aaaaaaa i feel so bad cause is like what if he wants to skip when i’m little but he can’t cause of me like?? oof. help?

[Guest BabygirlSarah1]

The best advice i can give you is TALK to youre  CG  dear     rule one  in a Little  -Caregiver  relationship is  COMMUNICATION          ,And also to me it sounds  youre more  of  Little then actually a switch to be honest   hon.  NOTHING wrong with that       

[Littlest_Bee]

Hello sweaterpawsmaddox,

Welcome to the forum.

 

I certainly agree that you need to talk about those feelings and make sure that your partner has a way to signal you their needs, maybe establishing certain routines could help but first of all you need to know how he feels about the situation.

 

As switches it's sometimes the case that different people/ different partners make one side of us more prevalent than another. Or it might be that you have more "seasonal" moods or that it depends on the amount of stress in your life. That doesn't mean the other side isn't there but it does mean that it can be harder to access in certain situations.

 

Maybe you are simply feeling more pulled into your little space because he does certain things like talking in a tone of voice that suggests to your subconscious that he's taking care of you and he could either be consciously doing that or be unaware of it.

 

I have no way of knowing those details of course so it's something you need to explore within the relationship before you can find a balance that works for everyone.

 

Even as a switch you might find certain roles more attractive than others e.g. maybe you like giving praise or tying someone up but dislike handing out punishments while you crave getting punished when you're on the other side. If that's the case then you might struggle with the concept of someone else actually liking to "punish" you and feel like it would be a burden to your partner. But fortunately there is a huge variety of people out there. Maybe you are each giving the other exactly what you need right now.

 

I hope that makes sense. I tried not to ramble on too much on each of those points and I'm not sure if I included enough context.

 

Good luck.