Little with depression?

[Meremeresalittle]

TW: Discussion of self harm and suicidal thoughts. Read at your own risk.

I was diagnosed with depression and all I can think about it cutting down my wrists and bleeding out to death. I just wanted to know if other people suffer like this and still carry on with their type of relationship. I don't wish to be a bother to my daddy all the time because I'm always sad and suicidal....

[MrBonesWildRide]

Well for starters, the content of your post definitely sent up a bit of red flags. So before I say anything else, I'd like to let you know that people here and around you do care about you no matter what you may think. The fact that you're reaching out here means that you want help and advice and I'm sure that your Daddy definitely wants to know when you're feeling less than normal so that he can help you out. 

 

There are quite a few people here who feel the same way sometimes and are on various stages of pushing through their depression. I don't speak for them, but I personally recommend seeking something professional if you are feeling completely at risk and beyond yourself. What we can provide to you is advice on how to build yourself up. We provide resources on how to seek your little self more, but sometimes depression takes us way out of little space and that's okay. Depression is our mind giving us a hard time, and it's something that people with depression live with. That doesn't make you less, it just means that the people around you should know to help you back up when you feel like you're drowning. 

 

Check out some of these threads, perhaps they'll be of some assistance!

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/3290-littles-with-mental-health-issues/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2853-daddies-with-depression/(Not entirely related, but it's relevant to the dynamic!)

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/105-natural-remedies-and-coping-techniques-for-mental-illness

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

I have horrible depression. I've fought my whole life. Life is hard. Life is no fun. You're not alone. Even though you feel like your traped in somekind of bubble looking out at people's happiness, feeling crushed and just wanting to understand why you can't feel that way. It's a hard thing to handle. And you don't want to feel like your always pulling others down because of your own depression. As hard as it is, smile and try to look for even the smallest sliver living in your life.

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

If you need to vent feelings of sadness you can message me, even though I might not be on much. I know it's helpful sometimes just to write it all out

[daddysfuckhole]

Your Daddy will understand but a little needs to care for themselves too. I suggest, if you don't already have it, you get therapy and medications. 

 

I deal with Borderline Personality Disorder in a very strong form (as if it couldnt get any stronger -.-), Dysthemia (Chronic Depression) and anxiety; and I struggle with about a dozen self harm forms. Daddy can try and help, but if I refuse to take my medication or get up that morning, he will struggle. Use communication and don't fear his response. Make sure he takes away the risks around you and that he keeps you safe; but please, get therapy. It truly helps.

 

I am here to message about self harm, depression, anything. Whenever you need it.

[Chelly]

I definitely have depression and a fairly difficult anxiety problem where I need medication... I haven't felt suicidal in a while but I've been where you are and it is definitely possible to keep up a relationship and if your S/O does love and care for you as they should they will help as much as they can and not feel at all like you're a burden.

 

You are special and loved and even if struggling against those feelings, you should always be shown that you are.

[Claramae]

I have the same problems, I cut and I'm suicidal sometimes. Daddy knows about it because Daddy has the same problem. I'm at a loss currently because we are constantly trying to just keep each other alive.

[DaddyChaos]

Hey everyone,

 

I am a daddy, and I am on anti-psychotics, my little knows all about it and my medication, we've struggled lately and although we've made it through the tunnel, there has been dark moments, and the best advice I can give is seek professional help, and communicate as a couple.

 

Primarily we found that I still had to be strong, I put way too much pressure on my little (who has her own issues) and although you have a relationship dynamic to look after each other, we have a dynamic that I am full support for my princess, ensuring that your daddy is strong and can bring you up in the worst moments is key to helping with these issues. Knowing that my princess needs me prioritized my thoughts and relationship needs.

 

Affection, lots of affection, open conversations about the thoughts and professional help.

 

If you'd like to know more about our journey through depression then feel free to ask.

 

Stay strong and tell your partner you need them, they'll come through.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

I suffered from chronic depression while I was with my Daddy. It was hard for both of us to cope but having that support system really helped. For me, it was nice having him there to speak to if I was feeling down. There were times where I'd tell him that I needed to be left alone and he would respect that.

 

I think that the both of you need to sit down and discuss what's important to you to get the help you need. Your Daddy will support you 100%.

[BodicainDaddy]

Speaking as a DD, if I was to advise other Daddy-types on how to handle this - and help - I'd suggest keeping in the mind a simple simile that has helped me in many relationships, with a range of dynamics.

 

Regard the depression of your partner as something akin to a cold, particularly if it comes in waves of being high-functioning followed by low-functioning (as many suffer it). There are relatively limited preventative measures one put up against a cold (they just happen, bad show), but we all have an almost innate understanding of how to treat someone with a cold - care, compassion, understanding without judgement (after all, it's a cold! It's not like people catch it deliberately!).

 

Those with depression will feel like a burden, particularly littles who feel they should be a source of endless giddy childish joy to their DDs, but it takes very little to tell them that they're not a burden and their 'cold' doesn't stop them being the person you love. I love my little in her downs and her ups, because the whole experience of being her caregiver is what I desire.

[lilvioletcub]

Looking though the comments I'm actually diffrent in this way. My little side actually saved my life.

My boyfriend and I both have mental illnesses to vairying degrees and have gone "Dark" as well we found that little space helps him so when I notice he's starting to spiral I just use his little name and a playful type sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't but it for the most part stops him from spiraling to to far. For myself this happend back in September 1-4th. I told my Boyfriend this

I woke up at 4:02 am with so much negativity in my head every thought from I'm just a needy attention seeker bitch to I'm pathetic like horribly pathetic. The thoughts kept going even after I prayed to God hoping my new growing connection would help. After I prayed I thought about putting a gun in my mouth and pulling the trigger and more then once had a urdge to just sofficate myself under my pillows "it won't be that bad you just got to stop struggling is all" What stopped it finally was Alphas's letter with his scent on it I just breathed it in and kept repeating to myself "home, safe, alphies name, I'm safe" and that worked enough to at least stop the negativity. Prior to last night I had two more dreams of suicide the one I actually finished and it ended more with a feeling of wanting to escape rather then death.  

I told my Boyfriend this and he suggested I make a little space/little side to "go" to when I feel like this or when the negatie thoughts start. I've only been doing this for eight days as of typing this but I find it works I get depressed or anxious and my little side distracts me with "oh lok at these plushies" or "this is a great idea!"

 

I'm on medication and see a therpist and email her once a month I've been going to her for about a year now Therpy helps a lot as well as distracting yourself from these thoughts laughing I found helps me a great deal and finding somthing really funny and before you know it your not as dark as before.

[Guest clownyprincette]

I also have mental illnesses (Bipolar Disorder/Manic Depression, PTSD, & Anxiety). It's very difficult for me to deal with most of the time, & because of the manic depression, I almost feel like I'm "split" into two different people; I have my happy, perky side that loves bright colors & cutesy things, & my depressed side that has dark thoughts, is very moody, & tends to not have any interest in much of anything. 

 

I'm not in a relationship, but I've found that medication that works for me, along with therapy, has really helped me become less depressed overall. I do admit that I'm a bit worried that I'll never find someone who can "put up with" my mental illnesses, or will love me even though I have them. I try to not let that worry overcome me, even when I struggle to take care of myself, or even when depression keeps me from going into little space.

 

If anyone who's posted in this forum would like support or someone to talk to, feel free to let me know; I might not be of much use, but I'll try to be there for you as much as I can.

[Radio371]

First of all, thank you for sharing how you are feeling Meremeresalittle, and I know it's been a few months since your original post but I hope that the combination of the responses here and the support I hope you're receiving externally in your life from friends/family is helping you out.

 

From what I've learned about depression since coming to college is that it has become a phenomenon of epidemic proportions, I learned in a class of mine that since 1920 that with every decade that has passed there has been a significant increase in the amount of depressed individuals. After personally struggling with depression and learning a lot about it, the lessons that I have come to take away from it are 3 main things:

 

1. Please don't drink if you are feeling depressed, although alcohol first makes you feel good and helps you forget about your feelings, it is ultimately a depressant and it catches up to you.

 

2. Please do not isolate yourself if you are feeling depressed, although it is hard to do, surrounding yourself with the people that make you happy and feel loved will start to bring you up overall (I'm assuming your daddy makes you happy, so that's one amazing outlet already!)

 

3. Lastly, and this is by far the hardest to do but it carries the most weight and is most beneficial: talk to someone you trust/ask for help. I'm not recommending that you immediately go to counseling (although if that is something you feel comfortable with then by all means go for it) and I saw you mentioned that you don't want to worry your daddy which is completely understandable but seeing your post from a daddy point of view if I were in his shoes I would want you to tell me anything that is of concern to you, regardless of whether you thought you would worry me or not. He is there to love and support you, to guide you when times are hard, and let you shine when the hard times subside.

 

If you are ever thinking about self-harm, I would first advise for you to take a piece of paper and a pen, write down the words "YOU ARE LOVED." Then write a few names of the people in your life who love you and don't want to see you hurt. I have not met anyone in this forum but I can say that I would never want to see a single person here hurt themselves. You are all beautiful human beings and your lives have meaning! I hope that for anyone who reads this that it may potentially help you in your life <3

 

-Radio371

[Guest Daddy_Jeremy]

To start, I'm sorry you feel like this...I have been there (I used to slit my wrists and was 'saved' from hanging myself numerous times in the past). Here are my suggestions:

1. Tell your 'Daddy what you are going through' he will be there to love and support you no matter what (if need be, message me and I'll help to the best of my ability)

2. Never blame yourself for your feelings of depression (it is a real and often debilitating problem, which you can't overcome alone).

3. You can overcome your depression, with the correct support and treatment

4. You need to seek professional help through referals from your doctor (psychiatic and psychologic....psychiatric deals more with the brain chemistry/medications...and psycholoic deals more with the thoughts/emotions/feelings...both areas are crucial to your mental health).

If you ever feel you need to talk..feel free to add and message me (and your daddy can message me if he needs to)