Opening UP

[Nephilim]

Hey everyone. Let me start off first by saying I'm so happy to come across this website. I'm glad the community has a place where we can discuss, talk, and get to learn about our other sides. I grew up in a community within the "bible belt" in the USA. for the foreigner new to this, its a part of the country that holds to the Christian beliefs and practices STRONGLY. Anything not listed in the good book was rebuked and taught of as a sin. Over the years I have felt out of sorts growing up. At first it was just being different. I was a nerdy guy with no interest in hunting, fishing, or anything country. then as I got older, it was a time when I asked "why" a lot. I began to question everything and everyone. My beliefs, my thoughts, and even my roles/sexuality. Before too long I realized that all my thoughts and actions were not my own but my lessons speaking for me. So my topic in this is I felt like I was to hide my sexuality and who I was for so long. After a time I meet a woman who showed me the DDLG lifestyles and I fell in love with it. I always felt that I was overprotective and overbearing but after that I realized i was a born "DD" and I could open up. Now I feel like myself and who I was meet to be. But hear me, there is nothing wrong with my old lifestyle. To each their own, Right? I'm not here to bash or downgrade anybody's life choses. I'm here to say "EMBRACE YOUR LIFESTYLES". By becoming a DD I discovered myself. I learnt to love myself. and I most of all, I learnt who I was. I am [insert real name] and I am a nerd, I'm Christian with a side of Agnostic, I am Pansexual. I embrace all. I love all. I'm only against bigotry. But please, open up. Please tell me about your childhood. I want to open up, share, and learn. Please let's discuss. 

[misterlisbon]

i saw your moniker, and the first couple sentences in, i was thinking "aw man, this could end in an awkwardness so complete, it can only be segmented by the crickets adding punctuation."

my internal monologue is fancy.

i'm glad i kept reading. you seem like good people. i'm new too.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

I'm glad for you. I don't understand the struggles as I grew up in a non-religious house, non-religious neighbourhood and non-religious town. ^^ But I'm sure it must have been very difficult for you to come to terms with everything, especially growing up in a 'bible belt'. Well done ^^

[Sadie Tremaine]

I am from the Bible belt as well, and grew up in church. I am still a practicing Christian and it has taken me some time to wrap my head around that and my presence in this type of community. But I look at it from a perspective of, God created me how I am, and part of that is an overwhelmingly maternal nature. That coupled with not being able to have children and some other difficulties has equaled my entrance into this community and thus the ability to 'have children' in a way that fits with my lifestyle. Not everyone's walk is the same and that's okay!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

i grew up in a very strict, italian, roman catholic family.

i vividly remember my family's reaction when i said i didn't believe in God. 

i was actually outted to my family a few years ago -- which was terrifying. 

we don't speak about my personal life now, & i'm not really close with my family, 

but coming to terms with who i was (a polyamorous, pansexual kinkster) was difficult in that environment.