Daddy dom holiday!

[Guest Aetherr]

sup y'all

 

I'm back with another depressing post

 

anyways, I am considering taking a break from being a daddy dom, this last year has been plagued with bad experiance from being ghosted to little's who only want the dom and not me and a few times where I was led on because a certain person had nobody better to talk to (oh boi)

 

and currently I'm feeling rather put off as if I'm expected to suck it up and be the dom regardless of if I just don't have it in me or if I'm actually soo sick of being told how to act I want to tell certain people to "kindly fuck off" and let's not mentions the depressing fact that too many little's will just refuse to give you the time of day if you aren't up for any role play or kink related nonsense

 

it's resulted in me feeling used and quite frankly going back to thinking the whole think is cringe and a bunch of other much more mean things that I chose not to mention but I'm sure most can guess

 

anyway I just wanted some feedback and advice, how do I navigate a community that has showed me nothing but disappointment and a lack of willingness to see my side of the coin (yes I know how I worded it and yes I am that jaded and cynical now it's why I want a break)?

 

alternatively what could I do by myself that can help me stoke the fire so to speak, to remind me why I identified as a dom to begin with, I want to look at the whole list of opportunities ahead with optimism and not with dread for how I will be hurt next

 

 

 

50% rant 50% genuine questions

 

thanks for dealing with my crap

 

love you all and peace out \0/

[LittleGirlEmilia]

this last year has been plagued with bad experiance from being ghosted to little's who only want the dom and not me and a few times where I was led on because a certain person had nobody better to talk to (oh boi)

 

Being ghosted is relatively common on the internet. None of this is exclusive to our lifestyle. You'll find not so savoury people everywhere you go.

 

 

let's not mentions the depressing fact that too many little's will just refuse to give you the time of day if you aren't up for any role play or kink related nonsense

 

We have quite a lot of non-sexual littles on our website which I'm sure will disagree with this statement.

 

 

it's resulted in me feeling used and quite frankly going back to thinking the whole think is cringe and a bunch of other much more mean things that I chose not to mention but I'm sure most can guess

 

Maybe the dynamic isn't for you, and that's okay. At least you tried it. 

 

 

alternatively what could I do by myself that can help me stoke the fire so to speak, to remind me why I identified as a dom to begin with, I want to look at the whole list of opportunities ahead with optimism and not with dread for how I will be hurt next

 

I think you're just hurt, much like how littles can struggle to be in little space after breaking up with their daddy. I think a break will you do you some good; it sounds like you need to figure yourself out some more. It's not fair to actively pursue a relationship as a dom when your headspace isn't in the right place. (Same goes for littles and everyone in general tbh). Take some time out for yourself, take up new hobbies, meet new people, have fun and don't think about things. You'll naturally heal and be able to figure out if this is for you or not.

 

I wish you the best of luck. 

[Guest Aetherr]

Being ghosted is relatively common on the internet. None of this is exclusive to our lifestyle. You'll find not so savoury people everywhere you go.

 

 

We have quite a lot of non-sexual littles on our website which I'm sure will disagree with this statement.

 

 

Maybe the dynamic isn't for you, and that's okay. At least you tried it. 

 

 

I think you're just hurt, much like how littles can struggle to be in little space after breaking up with their daddy. I think a break will you do you some good; it sounds like you need to figure yourself out some more. It's not fair to actively pursue a relationship as a dom when your headspace isn't in the right place. (Same goes for littles and everyone in general tbh). Take some time out for yourself, take up new hobbies, meet new people, have fun and don't think about things. You'll naturally heal and be able to figure out if this is for you or not.

 

I wish you the best of luck. 

 i understand ghosting is a common thing but the thing i forgot to mention that makes it go under my skin more is just the fact that i have honestly never experianced it until i started really craving social interaction in the ddlg space its not a shot at the website or of the community just a contributing factor

 

 

i dont mean sexual things i mean the whole roleplay aspect of it where if you wake up one day and decide you dont want to participate for whatever reason the metaphorical room empties faster than you can say "im being used"

the whole sexual vs. non sexual thing has no bearing on that and i apologize if i never made that clear, the thread was written with emotion as the driver and i rarely am able to construct any sort of arguement while emotional

 

i thought so too for a while but the dynamic very much is me its a piece i've been missing my entire life and as i said the fact that i feel as if its the only part of me that is of value to some people really kills my desire to continue

 

thank you for the last part but i already have alot of that in quantities i am happy with its literally a case of people just not attempting to hide that all they want is the dom and its tiring and often i just get the desire not to give anyone that side of me just to see if they will even bother with me as a person.

 

all in all im not sure if i made my points clear enough based on the response you kindly wrote but i hope for anyone else who see this, this response should expand on my post much more

Edited February 13, 2019 by Aetherr

[LittleTeacup]

Taking a break for a while can be good.

 

I find internet based relationships difficult. It's hard to get to know someone beyond whatever you have in common. You have to make it clear to potential partners that if they're not interested in you as a whole person then they don't deserve the dom side. Yes, it might take longer to find a partner, but you're more likely to eventually find one who'll stick and love the whole you.

 

I don't know if you've only tried to be with younger littles, but they're more likely to be immature in relationships just because of less experience.

 

Maybe you can volunteer somewhere that needs people to care for others. Obviously you can't be a dom there, but you can exercise the caregiving aspect without any sexual expectations.