CGL versus CGLre

[Xs-bun]

So I'm just recently getting back into the world of safe for work age regression online. The last time I was active online was two to three years ago. Back then, I felt the distinction was DDLG was kink while CGL was more about the care giving and relationship angle. Mainly I am looking for clarificaion between CGL and CGLRE as it can become difficult to navigate the DNI banners even with only SFW content on all my profiles. Just looking for some perspective.

[LittleTeacup]

I don't have a clue what "CGLRE" is, but I always thought CGL was the general umbrella term while DDLG was one specific option (daddies and little girls). I could be wrong though since I'm pretty new.

[gorebaby]

What does the RE stand for?

[CherieBits]

Never heard of CGLRE before, so im curious to hear what it means

[Adzel]

I always take CGL if you do not want to put a gender to it. Like my little switches genders between he, her, and them. So we use CGL instead of like... DDLG/DDLB/etc

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

I find the term CGL quite obnoxious and associate it with needy people that only take on the little side. I also find it has nothing to do with DDlg since it is the equivalent of a beta provider taking care of a little that apparently has the power but has absolutely nothing to offer. I find that type of relationship damaging to society as a result of statism and socialist mentalities, not to mention the downfall of humanity with everyone being self-absorbed. 

 

DDlg was the original and real meaning of these types of relationships. With the daddy being the dominate one, the leader, the one in charge, with or without sadism thrown in. The little was the submissive fulfilling the desires of their dominate by whatever means were defined between the two. 

[Daddy'sBabyGirl1]

cglre is an sfw, nonkink, nonsexual age regression community.  Many of the members are minors.  Members do not participate in age play, but rather regress, usually due to some form of trauma, or mental illness/mental health struggles.  It creates a way for them to feel safe and go back to a time in their childhood when they were safe.  There is no power exchange, no dom/sub.  It is a person acting as a caregiver, daddy, mommy, nanny, etc. with no dominance as a part of it, to a person who age regresses.  The "re" is for "regression."  

 

As it is nonkink, and there are minors in the community, most members do not want cgl, ddlg, etc. interaction because such interaction, even from sfw cgl littles, can be very triggering for them.  Plus, many sfw cgl members are followed by nsfw cgl members and those nsfw members can then more easily find cglre members, and I've noticed that many nsfw cgl members are very disrespectful when it comes to DNIs.

 

I myself am I dual community little.  I am a part of ddlg and cglre.  My littlespace is nonsexual.  Seeing, hearing, etc. anything sexual or kink related when I'm in littlespace is mentally damaging for me, and will immediately take me out of littlespace so hard it feels like I've been physically shoved.  

 

If you have any questions about it beyond this, feel free to ask me!   I'm still fairly new to both communities, as my daddy and I have only had this dynamic for about 4 months, but I have learned a lot about cglre.

[Adzel]

cglre is an sfw, nonkink, nonsexual age regression community.  Many of the members are minors.  Members do not participate in age play, but rather regress, usually due to some form of trauma, or mental illness/mental health struggles.  It creates a way for them to feel safe and go back to a time in their childhood when they were safe.  There is no power exchange, no dom/sub.  It is a person acting as a caregiver, daddy, mommy, nanny, etc. with no dominance as a part of it, to a person who age regresses.  The "re" is for "regression."  

 

As it is nonkink, and there are minors in the community, most members do not want cgl, ddlg, etc. interaction because such interaction, even from sfw cgl littles, can be very triggering for them.  Plus, many sfw cgl members are followed by nsfw cgl members and those nsfw members can then more easily find cglre members, and I've noticed that many nsfw cgl members are very disrespectful when it comes to DNIs.

 

I myself am I dual community little.  I am a part of ddlg and cglre.  My littlespace is nonsexual.  Seeing, hearing, etc. anything sexual or kink related when I'm in littlespace is mentally damaging for me, and will immediately take me out of littlespace so hard it feels like I've been physically shoved.  

 

If you have any questions about it beyond this, feel free to ask me!   I'm still fairly new to both communities, as my daddy and I have only had this dynamic for about 4 months, but I have learned a lot about cglre.

 

What do you mean DNIs? I wanna know what that means before feeling offended XD

 

I have a thing with my little where it is NSFW but also has sfw undertones as well. So hearing that "nsfw cgl members" are disrespectful, feels as though you are attacking the community as a whole. I do not want to start a fight, I just want to know where you are coming from with this kind of statement.

[Guest lil-kitten22]

What do you mean DNIs? I wanna know what that means before feeling offended XD

 

I have a thing with my little where it is NSFW but also has sfw undertones as well. So hearing that "nsfw cgl members" are disrespectful, feels as though you are attacking the community as a whole. I do not want to start a fight, I just want to know where you are coming from with this kind of statement.

She actually states that many nsfw cgl members are disrespectful, not all. And given my time in the community i see that happen too of nsfw not respecting the littles and groups that are wanting sfw. They will bring in/bring up/share nsfw and be rude when asked for it to stop. Also, to say many not attacking all, she is sharing her experiences in each group.

 

Edit for grammer/spelling

Edited February 12, 2019 by lil-kitten22

[Adzel]

She actually states that many nsfw cgl members are disrespectful, not all. And given my time in the community i see that happen too of nsfw not respecting the littles and groups that are wanting sfw. They will bring in/bring up/share nsfw and be rude when asked for it to stop. Also, to say many not attacking all, she is sharing her experiences in each group.

 

Edit for grammer/spelling

 

Alright, thanks for clearing that up. I am in a mix. And well... I respect my little's boundaries and know when enough is enough. So I just wanted to know what she meant was all. Thanks again.

[junebug0325]

So, I apologize for the *possible* misinformation in this post.

 

In my experience, CGL is the overarching term for DDLG/MDLB. It can be used for anyone who does not associate with a certain gender or is gender fluid. Most CGL is NSFW and has kink involved in the dynamic.

 

CGLRE is a term that is used for age regression, that is not kink related and is SFW. (Hence why “re” is at the end, because it is for regression only.)

 

And YES, you can be both, just to answer any possible future questions.

 

Hope this helps!

 

 

Junebug xxx

[Daddy'sBabyGirl1]

She actually states that many nsfw cgl members are disrespectful, not all. And given my time in the community i see that happen too of nsfw not respecting the littles and groups that are wanting sfw. They will bring in/bring up/share nsfw and be rude when asked for it to stop. Also, to say many not attacking all, she is sharing her experiences in each group.

 

Edit for grammer/spelling

Yes. This is what I meant.  I've had cgl members, sfw and nsfw, be super respectful about my DNI (Do Not Interact), and I've had others be super rude and disrespectful.  By saying many can be disrespectful, I meant it more as the explanation for why so many people in cglre are so strict about their DNIs.  I didn't mean it in an attacking way, and I do apologize if it came off that way.  Like I said, I am in both communities. My littlespace is sfw, but that doesn't mean my daddy and I aren't nsfw as well, and I do call him daddy in the bedroom, I'm just in big space then.  I didn't mean it as disrespectful to their own littles, but to completely sfw littles and those in the cglre community (as it is a completely sfw, nonsexual, nonkink community) and there are tons who are super respectful and understanding as well.

Edited February 13, 2019 by Daddy'sBabyGirl1

[Nathalie]

This thread is really interesting. I have been using/understanding the term "caregiver" as a non-gendered, umbrella term for this dynamic (mostly when processing this dynamic w myself or lately when I talk out loud about it w a couple of close friends or my therapist).

 

I use it for 2 reasons:

 

1) I am interested in either women or men, but while i love the term daddy I don't like using the term mommy, and caregiver works for both. Also I am a switch in terms of D/s, so I am interested in finding a caregiver regardless of whether they are dom or sub in the bedroom.

 

2) For me, personally, the term caregiver reminds me of the kind of romantic relationship dynamic I require in order to thrive (within the confines of a romantic relationship that is; I thrive just fine outside of one).

 

Anyway, this is just me and my own personal vocabulary ... Definitely not official by any means, and certainly not immutable.

 

I am nothing if not changeable

 

xo

[Daddy'sBabyGirl1]

This thread is really interesting. I have been using/understanding the term "caregiver" as a non-gendered, umbrella term for this dynamic (mostly when processing this dynamic w myself or lately when I talk out loud about it w a couple of close friends or my therapist).

 

I use it for 2 reasons:

 

1) I am interested in either women or men, but while i love the term daddy I don't like using the term mommy, and caregiver works for both. Also I am a switch in terms of D/s, so I am interested in finding a caregiver regardless of whether they are dom or sub in the bedroom.

 

2) For me, personally, the term caregiver reminds me of the kind of romantic relationship dynamic I require in order to thrive (within the confines of a romantic relationship that is; I thrive just fine outside of one).

 

Anyway, this is just me and my own personal vocabulary ... Definitely not official by any means, and certainly not immutable.

 

I am nothing if not changeable

 

xo

As far as I know, at least from being in the two communities for the short time I have been, CGL is the generic term for the dynamic, including variations like ddlg, ddlb, mdlg, mdlb, etc.  That's also how the CGLRE community identifies it.  CGL is inherently a kink term, so it's rejected by the age regression community. Honestly as far as calling someone a caregiver as opposed to daddy or mommy (or whatever else) is, to me, a personal preference.   

 

Many age regressors do call their caregivers daddy or mommy, and many refer to themselves as littles.  As a dual community little, I'm kinda straddling the line in some ways, but I do try to explain for people who don't understand   If you want to call your caregiver a caregiver as opposed to daddy or mommy, and keep that solely in the context of romantic relationships then that's totally up to you!  Your kink is your kink, and there's no wrong way to do it (unless there's lack of consent or safety, or any of that logical stuff).  Do you and have fun!