Not sure if my daddy is a real daddy

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

I love my daddy very much but sometimes it feels like he's not really a daddy.When I'm in little space he seems to have no idea what is and is not appropriate for a little. He has never been able to make/help me into little space. He's not very compassionate o n certain things ex: I lost my paci and was extremely upset and started messaging him, instead of comforting me at all he just keeps reminding me that I've done this in the past. I've never had a daddy before so I'm not sure. I'm going to talk to him about this later but I just feel very confused.

 

 

Edit: Thank you everyone for what you said, it's all very helpful. I talked to him about how I feel and he said he understands and he apologized for not being more compassionate.

The rest of it's a bit too personal to post but long story short we got it worked out and were okay now. It was mainly just miscommunications causing issues.

Edited February 7, 2019 by Daddys little Baby_Bear

[Jemas]

well tbh thats up to ur opinion if they are a daddy or not since ur the one who interacts with them ... 

 

 

i wont lie his compassion needs some work but the end it is your choice

[Misha]

I love my daddy very much but sometimes it feels like he's not really a daddy.When I'm in little space he seems to have no idea what is and is not appropriate for a little. He has never been able to make/help me into little space. He's not very compassionate o n certain things ex: I lost my paci and was extremely upset and started messaging him, instead of comforting me at all he just keeps reminding me that I've done this in the past. I've never had a daddy before so I'm not sure. I'm going to talk to him about this later but I just feel very confused.

 

How long have you guys been together?

Is it online only or in person?

 

Did the relationship start out vanilla and become DD/lg or did it start with him as your Daddy?

Is this his first DD/lg relationship?

 

It's hard to give solid advice without knowing the answers to these questions~

 

If this is an online relationship and he is experienced, especially if the relationship is sexual, then I am tempted to call bullshit and say he isn't a real Daddy Dom.

 

The whole paci thing is sort of a red flag to me. 

 

If he isn't very experienced though he might just not really understand what is expected of him as a Daddy Dom, and/or he might not know what you expect of him. Also... if he was new to DD/lg and with an experienced little before, there is a chance that little might have had a very different view on DD/lg and told him it was supposed to be a certain way. You said you're going to talk to him about it and I definitely think that's a good idea. I say communicate about your needs and expectations as a little, ask him what he thinks about everything, then see if things work from there.

[Guest Urthurs]

Some people can't deal with too much emotional pampering. All littles are different. Some needs more, some needs less. Rather than saying he's not a " real Daddy" I would say you're just not compatible.

[Guest Aetherr]

I love my daddy very much but sometimes it feels like he's not really a daddy.When I'm in little space he seems to have no idea what is and is not appropriate for a little. He has never been able to make/help me into little space. He's not very compassionate o n certain things ex: I lost my paci and was extremely upset and started messaging him, instead of comforting me at all he just keeps reminding me that I've done this in the past. I've never had a daddy before so I'm not sure. I'm going to talk to him about this later but I just feel very confused.

 

well what is and is not appropriate? everyone is different. if you dont like what he talks about.. tell him

he may not know how to make you slip into little space.. again communicate..

if he is not giving you the sort of compassion and empathy you want. tell him

 

a daddy does not act by a specific set of rules the same is said for littles

 

this is a bit ranty here it is not just aimed at you and i hope you wont take this too badly but why are there so many people who come online and seem to expect people to act a certain way based on a given or self adopted title/identity

the same for people who expect other people to have telepathy its pretty confusing.. i mean am i in the minority camp of people who think about talking to their partner before dragging a bunch of people in???

 

again a bit of a generalized rant aimed at people who clearly don't communicate well and wonder why the dont get what they want and people who expect dd/lg to follow a specific set of rules that somehow seems to vary from person to person

 

i may never know..

 

anyway, go talk to him he is not psychic, i can guarantee he has no idea what is going on and would take any feedback on board if he actually does care

 

i will add, i hate that people use "fake" or "not real" again people interpret daddy and little differently and saying someone is not real because they dont act how you expect them to act really grinds my gears i hate gate keeping in any community for any reason and i wish people would stop

Edited February 6, 2019 by Aetherr