HelaBum Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 Are you ok with your little/sub taking care of you sometimes? Like comforting you when you aren't at your best and things like that. Love you all, and thanks!
DuskZA Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 Yup, Daddies are people too, they have feelings and need support and comfort too sometimes I'm okay with this
TwitchySwitchy Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 My hot take on the issue, which may or may not be a controversial opinion. Littles should not expect 100% from their CG. Yes, this is a relationship dynamic where one person (CG) has all or a lot of power over the situation, and thus the most responsibility. But this is a RELATIONSHIP. It may not be 50/50 like a vanilla relationship but that doesn't remove the basic trappings of a relationship. Both people must be there for each other. For some CG's, including myself, being able to take care of my little's is good enough to help me out of a bad headspace. But sometimes I need a little bit extra. And I don't feel bad asking for it because we are there to support each other. This doesn't even mean that they need to come out of little space. Many times it they can just be super adorable and cuddling and stuff like that takes my mind off of whatever is bothering. There are many ways to take care of someone, but it is something that will need to be discussed within the dynamic and boundaries set, as with everything else we do.
Guest Prat Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 I don't see why not?.. Everyone has needs.
jaredstone363 Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 Yes, there are times when even a Daddy needs tofeel comforted. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
SamL Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 Are you ok with your little/sub taking care of you sometimes? Like comforting you when you aren't at your best and things like that. Love you all, and thanks! I get the sense that this question is based on your DD or CG not allowing you to be there for them. In the event that I've guessed correctly, please know that my little coming to me and explaining to me that my feelings on the matter are not okay and he or she should be able to take care of me because they took a poll and everyone says it's okay....will not end well.
prince eefy Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 i mean i'd say that's a given regardless of the relationship dynamic.
Guest FirmHand Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 I'm 100% going to be in the minority here....but hell no. It is not ok for my little to try to take care of me. I'm going to be blunt here because I feel strongly about this subject. My job is to handle all the shit life throws at me AND all the shit it throws at my little. Any little that I am with would never even be put in that bloody situation because I never show weakness to begin with. When i'm not at my best i'm dealing with that internally. Usually by telling myself to quit acting like a bitch. I have a very aggressive approach to life and it has served me well for the most part. I believe in the old school way of what makes a man a man. In this increasingly PC world I know I am a dying bred. A man has no time for feelings and emotions. He has people he has sworn to protect.
PrincessKittenCupcake Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 (edited) I'm 100% going to be in the minority here....but hell no. It is not ok for my little to try to take care of me. I'm going to be blunt here because I feel strongly about this subject. My job is to handle all the shit life throws at me AND all the shit it throws at my little. Any little that I am with would never even be put in that bloody situation because I never show weakness to begin with. When i'm not at my best i'm dealing with that internally. Usually by telling myself to quit acting like a bitch. I have a very aggressive approach to life and it has served me well for the most part. I believe in the old school way of what makes a man a man. In this increasingly PC world I know I am a dying bred. A man has no time for feelings and emotions. He has people he has sworn to protect. You are not totally in the minority. Daddy and I are very traditional. Accepting care or comfort from me would be totally emasculating for him. Edited February 4, 2019 by PrincessKittenCupcake
Groon Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 Knowing that I was caring for my little so the they were happy and felt safe and secure is where I drew my comfort. I don't bring things up that would have made my little worry about me and feel I needed comforted. With that said there are larger life issues that can rise and be an issue that can cause a little to be worried and feel they need to provide comfort.
babygirlG430 Posted February 4, 2019 Report Posted February 4, 2019 I take care of my Daddy. To me a relationship no matter the dynamic is give and take. The ways I take care of him are different than the ways he takes care of me, but he deserves it He’s my Daddy, he takes care of me and therefore I’d anything in the world I can for him.
TheDaddyest Posted February 5, 2019 Report Posted February 5, 2019 It's a different type of comfort and support but yes it should happen. imo.
LittleCelticLass Posted February 5, 2019 Report Posted February 5, 2019 I'm 100% going to be in the minority here....but hell no. It is not ok for my little to try to take care of me. I'm going to be blunt here because I feel strongly about this subject. My job is to handle all the shit life throws at me AND all the shit it throws at my little. Any little that I am with would never even be put in that bloody situation because I never show weakness to begin with. When i'm not at my best i'm dealing with that internally. Usually by telling myself to quit acting like a bitch. I have a very aggressive approach to life and it has served me well for the most part. I believe in the old school way of what makes a man a man. In this increasingly PC world I know I am a dying bred. A man has no time for feelings and emotions. He has people he has sworn to protect. So does this mean, that your little is not allowed to cook, bake, clean, do laundry, or even bring you a box of tissues when you're sick? I asked, because these are the types of things that I would do to care for my daddy in a very traditional relationship. 1
TheDaddyest Posted February 5, 2019 Report Posted February 5, 2019 So does this mean, that your little is not allowed to cook, bake, clean, do laundry, or even bring you a box of tissues when you're sick? I asked, because these are the types of things that I would do to care for my daddy in a very traditional relationship. Yeah see? people support people in different ways. I mean just because the Dom is supposed to be a stoic leader doesn't mean they have to be totally independent all the time. A relationship is something were people build on to thier partners everyone gets something out of a relationship. I think the word implies support. even slavery would imply support. because the Master uses the slave to make their life easier.
LittleCelticLass Posted February 5, 2019 Report Posted February 5, 2019 I forgot to add draw pictures, give kisses and hugs, oh and pleasure him 1
Guest FirmHand Posted February 5, 2019 Report Posted February 5, 2019 So does this mean, that your little is not allowed to cook, bake, clean, do laundry, or even bring you a box of tissues when you're sick? I asked, because these are the types of things that I would do to care for my daddy in a very traditional relationship. Mmm perhaps I wasn’t clear about what I meant by support. The things you listed are perfectly acceptable. I’ll give you an example. Say one is worried as hell about his job. He’s not doing well at work and he is stressed because he may be fired anyday now. I would never put that stress on my little as well. I would man up, internally deal with the stress and have contingency plans made for if I do lose my job. My happiness comes from my littles happiness. Side note: I have a housekeeper and cook for those things by the way. If it made my little happy to do it then fine but it’s not exactly needed.
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