guide to little life?

[Guest littlepunkrockprincess]

so this may be somewhere else. (feel free to link me or yell at me to go find it)

i am new to this forum life and this little/submissive life as well

 

is there like some big guide on how to learn everything?

or like a person.?

if you are said person pls lets be friends im overwhelmed

like..i have so many questions i can't even form questions.

 

 

 

send help

[Guest Miss Braid]

Well I don't think there's a good or bad way to be a little as long as you enjoy it and nobody gets hurt!

 

Some Littles are girly and some are tomboy and some are nerdy. Some are quiet and some are loud and some are awesome. Some are funny and others tell good stores and some would rather hit you with a snowball!

 

Some things you might wanna try:

- buy a small set of crayons (like 8) and a cheap coloring book

-colored pencils and plain paper

-finger paints!!!

-chapter books or picture books

-stuffies (plushies / stuffed animals)

-kids tea set

-cute hair stuff

-super cute nail Polish

-soccerball/basketball

-One of those cool microscopes!

-rock tumbler thingy

-visit the beach

-hula hoop

-jump rope

- climb some treeeeeees

-check out some different cartooooons

- ummmmmmmm or anything else you think might sound fun!

 

When you get all little inside, you'll know it!

[MrBonesWildRide]

Well there's a hell of a lot out there, really. I know exactly how you feel about being overwhelmed and perhaps feeling out of place.

 

The forum is great for individual ideas (Story time ideas, little foods, little outfits, etc). Each section can potentially lead to bigger discoveries. These things all come from finding yourself. 

 

Take things slowly. Make friends here and learn from other's experiences. If you have a specific question, don't hesitate to ask it. A lot of us are new here, some of us have been in the lifestyle for a few years. Everyone is on various levels and would be more than happy to help another person discover themselves.

[Cherry41]

I wish there were a guide or a series of books on "how to be 'lg." That is a great idea.

[LB Chris]

I wish there were a guide or a series of books on "how to be 'lg." That is a great idea.

You know, I was having a similar conversation with someone about this about a month ago who came out to me as a little, the lack of a central littles information and resources point.

It's not that we need something really prescriptive as after all everybody comes at this and is different so much just having that place where you can say much of what you need to know like terms and resources such information meets in areas together. From what conversations I've had recently it seems almost as difficult now as it was when I first started out because it seems all over the place.

[Cherry41]

I am surprised Stormy Night Publications has not released a series on this yet.

[Rosetta]

Maybe it isn't a bad thing that there isn't such a thing, this way you can venture out to truly find "your" little inside yourself, rather than let a book or guide tell you how to be one. Maybe the one you are little isn't anyone elses way, doesn't make you any less little if you feel you are.
 

[Little-princess-mae]

I'm actually collecting research and when I'm done my daddy and I will write a guide and hopefully it'll help! :3 I'm really new! 

[PrincessKatie18]

I like to watch disney and color.

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

Forget the guide, there isn't one. Most people will tell you there's no right or wrong way to be Little. I'm going to tell you this, just be true to yourself. Don't try to fit in, try to be true to yourself. Everyone is different. There are few topics with ideas for activities, but you should do what you want not do what you think will make you fit a title.

[macabremode]

This tumblr account, https://www.domsub.life/ddlg/21-first-steps-for-daddy-dom-little-girl-beginners/, especially this article is good for beginners, and the website has alot of informational articles about ddlg questions alot of people have. As for a guide? I'm not sure if there are any, I know there's a thread started somewhere to help newbie littles find "big sisters" to help them through somewhere on here... Does anyone have a link for this? I don't know how to attach a different thread, I'm still pretty new to the website. 

 

Anyways, good luck to you! If you have any questions, this is exactly the website for you to be on. So many of the members here are so active and helpful, it's quite amazing really.

[princessbabydolly]

im gonna refresh this conversation cause I've been thinking about putting together an ebook or something with all the things I had to learn the hard way or trawl through the internet for hours to find. Things that I wish some one could have explained or suggested at the beginning rather than only discovering after some pretty massive mistakes and set backs.

 

Is this something you guys would find helpful or do you think the whole point is to have these setbacks?

[Princess-P]

I don't think you can make any kind of guide or book on how to be little or how to be a Daddy/Mommy. Its just who you are. If you feel you need lessons on how to "fit in" to this dynamic it may not be for you. You can't learn it its just who you are and we all experience it differently.

 

Furthermore it would actually be DANGEROUS to have something like that. I mean the internet already gives predators enough ammunition, making it easy to prey on unsuspecting members of the community. A book like that would just make it easier with so much info in one place.

[princessbabydolly]

I don't think you can make any kind of guide or book on how to be little or how to be a Daddy/Mommy. Its just who you are. If you feel you need lessons on how to "fit in" to this dynamic it may not be for you. You can't learn it its just who you are and we all experience it differently.

 

Furthermore it would actually be DANGEROUS to have something like that. I mean the internet already gives predators enough ammunition, making it easy to prey on unsuspecting members of the community. A book like that would just make it easier with so much info in one place.

 

 

 

This is interesting, my opinion has always been that transparency and education are important as well as information being empowering. I think I'm missing something important here.

 

The most helpful thing for me education wise has been 'The new Bottoming Book' and I've been wishing there was something more DDlg specific out there. 

 

Princess-P can you explain what would make it dangerous? Im worried I've completely overlooked something. 

[Princess-P]

First off I'd like to explain that educating yourself is important, and that yes there are certain things you could read about the bdsm lifestyle that would be beneficial, such as how to properly administer spankings or use certain tools or proper and safe breath play.

 

However, unless I'm mistaken, this post is about how to be a little or what makes a DDlg relationship. I don't even believe a book could exist on such a subject because how do you define what makes a relationship? You can't. That's essentially telling people that if their dynamic doesn't work just as the book says then they are doing it wrong. There is no wrong. If your little and don't colour, your still little. If you don't like cartoons, your still little. If you don't call your partner Mommy/Daddy.... Guess what? Your still little. And the same goes for stereotypes for caregivers as well.

 

Now the part I feel that would be dangerous about attempting to make a defining book about the DDlg lifestyle is that it gives ammunition to predators who want to take advantage of people. There's already enough information on the internet they, should have to work for it at least. We already know that DDlg is a dynamic where people can become overly attached way too soon, the trust needs to be so deep, and also its a dynamic in which many people explore long distance without ever having met someone face to face. We know just from reading forum posts that many littles, and caregivers for that matter, have mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, eating disorders, trauma etc which could make them more easily prayed apon.

 

Someone who would read a book, if such a book could even exist, with bad intentions could easily lure in a caregiver and because real caregivers are so loving they could easily be taken advantage of by someone who seemingly says "all the right things". Same goes for littles, especially new and exploring ones, they could be easily manipulated into abusive relationships by someone who seems to "know it all".

 

These things already happen yes, but I'm saying there's no reason to try to add more fuel for these people.

 

That explanation I feel is still a moot point however because I really believe no one could write a book defining what makes a DDlg relationship. Or any relationship. It sounds like it would be something from the 20's on how to be a good wife. Burning dinner or not making a perfect crease while folding laundry makes you a failure.

[Princess-P]

I actually kept thinking about this while taking the kids to school so had to come back to it.

 

Another thing I feel would be wrong with this book is that it would be filled with nothing but stereotypes. This could be very confusing to some who are new to the lifestyle and actually think that there are rules to follow in order to "fit in".

 

Sexuality or mind set is something of your own to define. Remember when being a gay man meant you liked pink, were into interior design, were avid follower of pop music idols, and frosted the tips if your hair? Or being a lesbian meant you wore flannel and owned a motorcycle?

 

Those things don't define who you are, and while that view point is absolutely wrong there are still people who think that way. Why try to put people into a category? Or list what makes them who they are or how they should act? For someone who is exploring who they are to read a book of stereotypes that they don't fit into will leave them feeling confused and not good enough.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

There isn't a guide because there isn't a right or wrong way to be true to yourself