How do I get Daddy to give me attention?

[LittleRae]

So because I am a new parent, we've had like no time to do Little Space, but the thing is, I really REALLY want to. How do I get my Daddy to let me regress and actually interact with me in little space? We put our daughter to sleep around 7-7:30, so it's not like we don't have time. He just never seems to want to play with me anymore. I'm in Kik groups with other littles, so I get to interact with other littles on a regular basis, and I get to read and color and play my DS and stuff like that, but you know what I'm saying, I need Daddy attention.

[Guest FirmHand]

"Daddy I need attention" usually does the trick for me It let's me know my little needs me. Perhaps you should wait until the weekend when you both are more relaxed and have a conversation about it. I'm sure he must be exhausted after work but i'm sure you two can work together and make time for play time with each other. Cheers!

[jaredstone363]

Definitely have a talk with him and let him know how you're feeling. Also ask him to tell you how he is feeling and why he doesn't want to play. Try and come up with a plan together for daddy/little time that works for both of you. Hope this helps.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi,

Just like any other relationship, because first and foremost a DDLG relationship is a "relationship" that just happens to be one that also encompasses this dynamic. You need to tell him what your concerns are and if he is not open to listening to them, or willing to help you regress there is most likely something else going on in his head. Being a new parent I am sure has added stress to the household which is understandable and there will most likely be some bumps along the way. However communicating your concerns and asking him questions will certainly help the situation. Set a schedule that has time for the two of you where there are no distractions where you can both enjoy each other and your little time!!

[junebug0325]

Hi there,

 

I first by want to start off with saying that I understand the struggle. Sometimes our lives are just so busy that sometimes we forget the basics of any strong relationship... communication.

 

We get caught up in the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, we forget that communication is still in order with our loved ones. Having a new baby is a really big change and contributes to a lot of added stress and pressure.

 

The best way to solve this problem is just to talk to your Daddy. He might not even understand that he’s doing anything wrong. You can’t expect him to understand without telling him. Just like any “normal” relationship, DDLG also requires open communication.

 

I wish you the best of luck with your new baby!

 

Junebug xxx

[Guest DaddyNinja]

He needs to understand that spending time is important

 

Show him this article to express your needs, if you have communication issues with him. I have written that to help my little friends in our community ddlg club.

 

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~She does not want you to bring her the moon, but she wants you to be together with her~

 

In a ddlg relationship, sometime the daddy dom focuses on making the little happy so much that they tend to accept a "fix and give" type attitude. They start to believe that, their little will be the happiest, if they fix all the problems in their life. In that process, they start to spend less time together with their little and they spend more time on trying to fix the problems in her life. This kind of attitude not only, makes the little feel distance from their daddy dom, she starts to feel like all he cares about is his ego.

 

The daddy dom may have good intentions and the little may know deep down, that her daddy dom loves her. But the connection and intimacy in the relationship, depends on spending time together and connecting together daily. It is not like that once the relationship is build, the connection and intimacy will stay strong forever. The relationship and connection needs to be maintained. The relationship is what makes the little feel safe and secure to be herself fully in the presence of her daddy dom.

 

The leadership and guidance and care of their daddy dom, allows the little to let go her adult world and explore her little world togerher. That cant happen in a relationship, unless the daddy dom takes the time to be with her together.

 

Problems and ups and downs are a normal part of life. There is no method which can fix all the issues of life and keep someone away from problems of life forever. Trying to fix the problems in her life and wishing that a time will come when all the problems in her life will go away and you both will become happy forever is unrealistic because problems are like day and night, they come and go.

 

But, what you can do and should do, is to stay there with her in her life together. You will also have to remember that, she is an adult herself, she has her own world and her own life. She knows how to handle her own life too. She does not want you to fix her, but she does want you to be together with her, sharing the happiness, saddness and life together.

 

Always trying to be the best version of yourself is a good thing, you should always do that, but when you become focused on being better so much that your little starts to drift away from your world, that is when the connection and intimacy suffers. As a result, the relationship weakens. Happiness is not something that you hope for in future. It is something that you create together with her. And a part of that is, merging both of your world together to create a one world, where you are exploring life together with her.