I want a daddy, but.....

[q.t.pie]

Maybe it's just me, but does anyone else here struggle with whether they want a daddy/cg? Like, I reeeaaally want to find a daddy, but I'm not sure that I'm mentally in the right place for it. I feel like having someone I could depend on would help, but at the same time I'm afraid I'll get too attached too quickly. I'd post in the personals and such, but I'm afraid that I'd be catfished--I had a daddy before that I really thought I connected well with and was starting to love, but it turns out he wasn't who he said he was. I just....I want someone to take care of me, someone I feel safe with, ya know? But at the same time I'm too scared to try. (sorry, I'm rambling!!! I just was hoping I'm not the only one who feels this way)

[CryBabyUniWolf]

You're not the only one who feels this way. I want a Daddy/caregiver too. But at the same time it is scary, you want to find someone you connect with and can trust and depend on, but it's hard to find the right person to give that "control" to. But don't ever settle. Keep trying to find the perfect caregiver for you. It will take time to find someone that you can really connect with. Stay safe.

[Daxter]

Think this as a dating. When you find a daddy you must be able to talk, plan the future but most importantly have a stable and strong friendship and relationship where both of you can be happy and can feel their help in your worst and best times.

Catfishing is normal as in every type of relationship. I understand you feel you will get attached too quickly, I suggest you take slow. Yes, it will hurt and be hard but try to go slower, don't search for a daddy, search for a friend first.

 

 

Time, it will take a long time until you are able to settle down with your perfect caregiver, but until then, understand that, before they are able to take care of you and make you feel safe, they must know you, you and they must trust each other, you and them must feel a strong bond to talk, be with and count with each other for every occasion.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi!!

First off you don't need to ever apologize for expressing your feelings and you weren't rambling at all! I think you might be over thinking the whole daddy/cg aspect a bit. It is just a normal relationship that happens to be part of the DDLG dynamic. It seems that you have some other things that you need to work through prior to getting into any type of relationship otherwise you won't have a successful relationship. Take care of yourself first and then find a daddy to support, love and nurture you!!

Feel free to message me anytime if you need someone to talk to.

Good luck and be good to yourself, never settle!!

[babygirlG430]

Take care of yourself first, learn to love YOU, and you’ll end up just living your life and not looking, and that’s when things will fall into place and happen naturally for you. When you’re actively searching for ANY type of relationship (friend, romantic, or anything else) you’re putting too much pressure on yourself.

[q.t.pie]

Thanks so much, everyone! I think you guys are right, I am overthinking it--I guess I've just been single for so long, thinking of it as a simple relationship just sorta...skipped my mind excluding the Catfish, been going for 6 years with no sign of stopping anytime soon lol. Thanks for your advice, I think I need to explore my littlespace by myself first and grow more comfortable with myself both as a big and a little