Someone please tell me im not as doomed as I think I am

[DaddysLittleGirl_jljj]

Background information: this is my very first serious ddlg relationship, we are poly with one other sub/switch, we are currently long distance, I am a little/middle submissive. I am a house girl, I look after children and do house keeping for the family I live with.

 

The situation: to put it lightly I am doomed. There are only three rules and I broke all of them. Recently I became very ill and even required a trip to the hospital. I had mono and a kidney infection. Daddy told me to go stay at my parents house so I could rest, but I only stayed for maybe half a day and went back to work. I was ordered by the E.R. doctor, my primary care doctor, and daddy to be on bed rest but I never even slowed down, in fact I went even harder than before. Against daddys direct orders I helped to move furniture and other chores (hand scrubbing the floors, climbing into the attic to put up the christmas decor (literal climbing. I'm very smol. I had to stack a chair on a side table and do a pull up to get up there) and reorganizing the kitchen) as a result of this I became very much sicker to the point where I was very anemic, covered in bruises and fairly well jaundiced).

 

So by now I've broken all three rules (honesty (was not truthful about staying at my parents or observing my bed rest) taking care of daddys property (me (by willfully worsening my condition by directly disobeying daddy) and being happy (I had a psycho episode before all this but being so sick and wearing myself down even more made me a little unpleasant to say the least)).

 

So daddy finds all of this out when he calls me one morning because i can fib in text form but not if I'm actually speaking with him. He is obviously unhappy with me and informs me that the next time we are together I will be punished very badly. I immediately get my life together and park my butt on the couch until I am cleared by my doctor. Now I have never been punished in my LIFE, not even as a child (I am typically very well behaved) and my first punishment is going to be for every rule I have been set. I. Am. Terrified. Not like run screaming terrified because I'm obviously still here, but to say I am apprehensive is an understatement. Mistress was punished for something small and had handprints for weeks. I know he won't seriously hurt me but I know it will be harder than his fun spanks (which are no joke).

 

So what I'm looking for here is threefold:

1.To just get it all off my chest because we are long distance and the anticipation is literally killing me.

 

2.To get reassurance from anyone that it won't be as bad as I'm imagining

 

3.Maybe someone can tell me how to wiggle out of this pickle jar I got myself into?

[junebug0325]

If you have never been punished by him before, then I don’t think it will be too bad, assuming that this is your first punishment and he doesn’t really know what your physical limits are. The punishment doesn’t necessarily have to be physical either, if that’s what you’re worried about. It could be anything from writing lines to taking away stuffies or T.V time. Those things are just hard to manage when you are long distance.

 

I don’t know when the next time you are seeing each other, so he might just forget about it, or get too caught up in the fun of being with you. But if you are honestly terrified of being punished, then talk to him and tell him that you are worried what the punishment might be. Remember, everything in the relationship needs to be consensual and agreed upon, even if it’s punishment. So, talking about it might ease your mind and help you have less anxiety about the situation at hand.

 

I hope this helps!

[Lola Step]

Funnily enough you sound exactly like me, Daddy is forever telling me not to do stuff because I'm sick or because I might get hurt but I'm so stubborn that sometimes I don't listen to him (although I learnt me lesson with one thing that I kept doing after I nearly broke my arm) . You seem like a very smart little (apart from making yourself sick and ignoring doctor's advice ) so I would suggest perhaps a writing assignment in the form of a letter? You could write a letter to your Daddy detailing exactly what you did wrong and why it's important to follow those particular rules and what you will do in the future to make sure you follow them. It's only something small but it will show him that you do understand the gravity of the situation and that you do appreciate the rules he sets, it also might soften him up, so good luck

[Guest TheShadow]

Hey,

 

I'd like to point out something. He said he'd punish you. However bad it may be it's so that you end up being more careful with how you go about on a day to day basis. He is mad. I would be too. But he said he'd punish you and not leave you. So, he's going to be sticking around if you were scared of that. As for getting out of it, I might be able to help but I think you deserve it. So, you won't be getting any help on that

 

But honestly, you did something wrong and ended up in worse situation than you were before. You'll be punished. I can't speculate on what because I don't know either of you but it's not going to be bad.

 

And take care. Hope you get better soon

[DaddysLittleGirl_jljj]

[Amelia2610]

Background information: this is my very first serious ddlg relationship, we are poly with one other sub/switch, we are currently long distance, I am a little/middle submissive. I am a house girl, I look after children and do house keeping for the family I live with.

 

The situation: to put it lightly I am doomed. There are only three rules and I broke all of them. Recently I became very ill and even required a trip to the hospital. I had mono and a kidney infection. Daddy told me to go stay at my parents house so I could rest, but I only stayed for maybe half a day and went back to work. I was ordered by the E.R. doctor, my primary care doctor, and daddy to be on bed rest but I never even slowed down, in fact I went even harder than before. Against daddys direct orders I helped to move furniture and other chores (hand scrubbing the floors, climbing into the attic to put up the christmas decor (literal climbing. I'm very smol. I had to stack a chair on a side table and do a pull up to get up there) and reorganizing the kitchen) as a result of this I became very much sicker to the point where I was very anemic, covered in bruises and fairly well jaundiced).

 

So by now I've broken all three rules (honesty (was not truthful about staying at my parents or observing my bed rest) taking care of daddys property (me (by willfully worsening my condition by directly disobeying daddy) and being happy (I had a psycho episode before all this but being so sick and wearing myself down even more made me a little unpleasant to say the least)).

 

So daddy finds all of this out when he calls me one morning because i can fib in text form but not if I'm actually speaking with him. He is obviously unhappy with me and informs me that the next time we are together I will be punished very badly. I immediately get my life together and park my butt on the couch until I am cleared by my doctor. Now I have never been punished in my LIFE, not even as a child (I am typically very well behaved) and my first punishment is going to be for every rule I have been set. I. Am. Terrified. Not like run screaming terrified because I'm obviously still here, but to say I am apprehensive is an understatement. Mistress was punished for something small and had handprints for weeks. I know he won't seriously hurt me but I know it will be harder than his fun spanks (which are no joke).

 

So what I'm looking for here is threefold:

1.To just get it all off my chest because we are long distance and the anticipation is literally killing me.

 

2.To get reassurance from anyone that it won't be as bad as I'm imagining

 

3.Maybe someone can tell me how to wiggle out of this pickle jar I got myself into?

Yes, long distance sucks and anticipation adds to the feelings of dread that one has, I think *hugs*

 

From my experience, the first punishment aren’t usually very bad in terms of severity. What I understood from the Bigs that I’m close to is that there’s a preference to err on the side of caution. I was given some slack during my first time because of my history and also my physical state - I was recovering from a knee injury...

 

Sadly, most CGs have notoriously good memory. But one tip I got from mine was that being repentant and remorseful usually helps with some leniency...