A Piece of Advice to New Littles from a Daddy

[Guest LaidBackDaddy]

I am sure this has been said many times all over this forum but (if the personals are any indication) it bears repeating.  If you are new to being a Little, the most important thing you can get at first, even more important then a Daddy...is Little friends. Experienced Little friends. So that when Bro Daddy McDouchehead comes a calling, you can and should share with your friends so they can help you spot the wolves. 

 

It can get really confusing and while there is a ton of advice written down, that is very good stuff to read (and you should): nothing and I mean NOTHING replaces the care and help that another Little can give in helping you get your toes wet.

 

We all have to learn somewhere, but learning with friends is so much better then alone. Or with someone unknown to you, but sure talk sweet.

 

Anyways.... Please be safe. Make friends before getting a Daddy. The patience will pay off in less heartache later on.

[BH_Bambi]

100% agree! Excellent post

[Guest LittleAnna]

i also 100 percent agree

[Guest Rainbow]

I would also like to add (i hope this is appropriate) pleeease begin a standard relationship first before diving into the responsibilities of ddlg. I see so often on here that a little is sobbing because their "daddy" has disappeared or mistreated them in some way after daaays of knowing them. Just like any other relationship, trust needs to be built before you put all your eggs in someone's basket.

[babylou]

I love this post, it's honest and 100%.

I've been a little for 20 years now, and it's not always been an easy ride, but having little friends to lean on and confide in has been a lifesaver on more than one ocassion.

 

I take great comfort in sharing with others who understand and do not judge...because they too understand the lifestyle.

 

I have learned a lot in the intervening years, and I am always happy to befriend new littles, or those who may feel stumped, and to impart whatever wisdom I may have. Sometimes, just to have someone to talk to can make all the difference.

 

Great post.

[Guest LaidBackDaddy]

Babylou, your comment brings a question to my mind: is there a process in place for "Big Sisters" to hook up with Littles who say they are brand new and just learning?

[Beckie]

There really should be one lbd if there isn't.

[MrBonesWildRide]

I would also like to add (i hope this is appropriate) pleeease begin a standard relationship first before diving into the responsibilities of ddlg. I see so often on here that a little is sobbing because their "daddy" has disappeared or mistreated them in some way after daaays of knowing them. Just like any other relationship, trust needs to be built before you put all your eggs in someone's basket.

 

Ugh yes, absolutely. I have always told everyone here that comes to chat or otherwise that is new and looking that they should seek to find someone they can relate to as a person before they look for a lifestyle/dynamic with. If you hate everything the person stands for, how can you be their Caregiver or little? Friends in the dynamic help with this because while someone (you, me, anyone) gets doe-eyed over their partner, a friend who is in the dynamic may see it as not beneficial and raise flags for you.

[BH_Bambi]

A Big Sister scheme would be awesome and I'd love to be part of that! I shall put my thinking cap on - first things first, a slightly more gender neutral term

Until then, littles just discovering the lifestyle should know that the chat here is always open to them, and the majority of more experienced littles will be happy to PM you after a few public messages. Don't be afraid to reach out

[Guest Penny]

I would love to volunteer as a big sibling. If you work something out for that please let me know.

[Guest LaidBackDaddy]

How about something as simple as a thread where you put your name down as an experienced sibling willing to volunteer. So we all see. And then when someone posts they are a new little, especially if they also post a personal, you edit your volunteer post to say you contacted them. And then of course do so

 

Clear as mud?

[babylou]

I think its a great idea LaidBackDaddy!

 

'Support siblings' could be invaluable for some. Put my name down if it happens!

[Guest kawaiifaeriepandaprincess]

Thank you for this! As a little little with anxiety some 'sibling support' would be amazing. I hope this starts because I'd love to find a big sibling!!

[Guest LaidBackDaddy]

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/3903-volunteer-sign-up-for-big-siblings/

[Alfadaddy]

This is a great post imo ☺ do i would like to add a small thing that often gets forgotten , daddys have feelings too a broken heart hurts even for daddys ☺i mean littles have to be carefull for the wolves and yes go slow veeeeeryy slow , but once you have a daddy always remenber he has feelings too 'THIS IS A LIFESTYLE NOT A GAME 'people do get hurt , yess even daddy's . Thank you for your time .