DDLG: The Definite Guide (2019)

[onkizomba]

Howdy-do, Caregivers and Littles! 

 

When I started my journey in DDLG world it was quite confusing as I couldn't really find an explanation how to really play this play in one place.

 

I spent months scouring the web and putting the pieces together.

 

I'm sure you know what I mean. Plus, there is this confusion about how kinky or how non-sexual DDLG is.

 

To really help welcome new DDLG members I tried to create a good introductory guide to people who are new to DDLG.

 

Check it out and would appreciate helpful feedback from pros

 

Hope it helps you..and in could definitely help beginners!

 

It should answer the most common questions!

 

Oh ...and if you feel i missed something...

 

or you would like to add something, please let me know.

 

 

Thank you!

 

Dainis

Edited January 29, 2019 by onkizomba

[Guest Prat]

I really can't agree with the content of that page (including the domain name) and the content of this post either.

It's by no means an "ultimate guide"..

Well, I can agree on the general stuff but that's about it.

 

If you want the best resource for ddlg then it's places like this where a social network is formed and people exchange their opinions and experiences.

 

I think ddlg is too individual for any sort of guide to be applicable to it besides the general basics and even those are debatable.

 

For one example, the Daddy isn't always the dominant one in the dynamic (and I don't mean switching). And that alone is enough to question things.

Edited January 28, 2019 by Prat

[onkizomba]

Hey Prat, I do agree - DDLG Forum has been INVALUABLE for learning more about DDLG...

 

and yeah, its tough to address anyone, that's why I explained in the beginning of the article all the terms, - MDLG, DDLB...Switch..and just explained that for simplicity sake I'll use Daddy Dom - Little in most common sense.

 

However I would ask you, wouldn't you be happy if you had a good resource to get introduced to DDLG properly...? And yes, then keep exploring, keep talking, keep asking..and find your own shade of DDLG.

 

It was meant to be general to serve as introduction! You are surely much deeper in DDLG...and maybe BDSM that it may seem basic, but for beginners it will be super helpful (at least that's my hope).

 

Really appreciate you taking your time and giving feedback, Prat! 

Edited January 29, 2019 by onkizomba

[Guest Prat]

Mind if I add you?, I would like to exchange some opinions with you over the messaging system, I think it will be easier there.

[Amelia2610]

There’s nothing the link does not seem to work.. Edited January 31, 2019 by Amelia2610

[Nathalie]

Just from the first page:

1) You mean "definitive guide"

 

2) Many babygirls/littles etc don't identify as submissive. That's a huge misconception, and will definitely confuse/upset anyone reading your guide and trying to learn about themselves. 

 

3) I wouldn't call this a definitive or ultimate guide. I think it's great you are writing it, but it does an enormous disservice to all the people out there, many of them very young and new to this world, who will take it as gospel. You are one white hetero guy who I am guessing has lots of experience in your role as a daddy dom and who obviously has put a lot of thought into it. Caveats would be helpful and necessary since you only have experience in one small dimension of this lifestyle/dynamic etc. It's an admittedly vocal dimension, (i.e. the dom/sub hetero dimension of daddy/little) here and elsewhere, which makes sense since even the mainstream in fringe movements/communities often mirror the mainstream (and power/privilege dynamics) of the greater world. Even something as simple as changing words like "usually" to "sometimes" can help underscore that you are only speaking on behalf of this one strand within a much larger and more complex community. ("Usually Little is the one with special accessories ...")

 

4) Check out the numerous daddy/babygirl, caretaker etc groups on Fetlife. There is a bit of diversity there and a lot of knowledge to be gained along with on here as well. Why not put together a survey, if you really want to make this useful? It would be really interesting to see what the results are ...

 

Good luck ... 

xo