Not little enough

[Guest BabyKitten-!]

Hello everyone, I'm wondering if other littles could help me out?

 

I have a Daddy, but he has made several comments recently that I don't really act little. Each time it has upset me as I feel little, and I know I belong in DDlg. We are currently only talking online/skype as he works overseas.

 

He has recently told me that he has gone through these forums and seen what other littles have posted and wants 'that'. I do not know what 'that' even is. I struggle to regress without my Daddy physically with me. I guess I am more independent than the average little, I have an adult job I love and do not need every decision day to day made for me. But I still need my Daddy, and that dynamic. I need rules that while I may not use everyday, I have when I am stressed and can't think properly. I need my Daddy to make those decisions too.

 

Being a good little is really, really important to me. I knew I made a some slip-ups in the beginning as I did not have a real Daddy before, but I thought I was making him happy. I know I struggle with rules which dictate my basic things. I also know that I like to ask 'why' a lot and like to get explanations for decisions made for me.

 

Basically my question is, is there such a thing as not being little enough? Is there a point where you are a little or something else? What is wrong with me? I feel abandoned and lost. He thinks that I do not need this dynamic to be happy. I think I do.

[Guest princessbubblegum]

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Edited October 17, 2021 by princessbubblegum

[SamL]

I have a Daddy, but he has made several comments recently that I don't really act little. Each time it has upset me as I feel little, and I know I belong in DDlg. We are currently only talking online/skype as he works overseas.

 

He has recently told me that he has gone through these forums and seen what other littles have posted and wants 'that'. I do not know what 'that' even is. 

 

A ex-boyfriend of my daughter told her that she didn't act feminine.  My daughter explained, just before she threw him out of the house and her life, that he didn't get to define 'feminine' or to choose the appropriate amount of 'it' she had.  Then she offered him a choice.  He could leave via the stairs or the window.  Silly boy said, "You think you can throw me out the window?"  She said, "Yup.  Without even lifting a finger.  Watch.  DADDY, HELP ME!!!"

 

He has recently told me that he has gone through these forums and seen what other littles have posted and wants 'that'. I do not know what 'that' even is. 

Basically my question is, is there such a thing as not being little enough? Is there a point where you are a little or something else? What is wrong with me? I feel abandoned and lost. He thinks that I do not need this dynamic to be happy. I think I do.

 

If he wants something that others have and you do not, I would free him up to go get one of 'them'.  Anywho, no there is NOT such a thing as not little enough - although two people in this lifestyle may not be a good fit.  Depending upon the reasons that you have a little side, yes, it is possible that your little side has changed to something else.  Nothing is wrong with you as it pertains to this issue.  Of course you feel abandoned and lost.  That would be an appropriate feeling based on the situation you've described.  Daddy or no daddy, no one gets to define your needs but you.  Based on this one-sided description of the problem, I think you are more qualified than he is to determine your needs.

[Puddin'skitten]

I'm very independent. I hate to color. I abhor baby talk (sorry, even as a young one I hated it). This doesn't mean I'm not little. This sounds like one of those you're too tall, too short, too little, too big, too white, too dark, hairs too straight, hairs too curly, whatever. You are you, and no one should have the right to determine who you are.

[florchusagi]

Nobody can tell you something like that. Like Puddin'skitten said, I hate some things like, idk, pacis, sippy cups, baby talk, i'm independent and blah blah but that doesn't mean I'm not little. If you feel like a little, then you are one! 

[Guest BabyKitten-!]

Thank you everyone, I think I just needed reassurance it feels all very overwhelming right now

[Mini_Kitty18]

As a dom what I like to see is them doing cute little things like little voice or them saying my name for attention , coloring a little thing for me

[Sparkles]

I had a Dom type once who I respected and loved and he told me that I wasn't little and he'd had lots of experience with littles and I didn't act like them. It hurt so bad and made things so messed up for me it took a long time to realise how badly that messed with my identity. Fact is, I act like me. And me is little and more besides. And I now have the most amazing daddy and trust me, the dynamic we have is everything and more than I could have wished and dreamed for. So I say just do you. Be you. Because you can't be anyone else and more importantly respect yourself for the little you are.

[MrDaddydarnit]

sounds like he didn't know what he was talking about. Honestly if you can't define the thing you want your sub to be time to take some time to yourself and figure out what you are looking for. 

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I'm sorry you're having a miserable time. 

 

You are little. And you are enough.

Don't ever doubt that. 

 

Based on your post here, you seem very able to clearly describe what you want/need, and you know who you are. Sounds like your Daddy isn't able to do the same at the moment.

 

Communication is nearly always the answer! Although you might not get the answer that you're hoping for.

 

And sometimes however hard two people try to communicate, they just aren't suitable for the other. But telling someone they're not little enough (or daddy enough) just isn't acceptable IMO.

 

Good luck, I hope it works out well for you.

 

Looby