platonic mdlg with friend?

[LittleTeacup]

(Sorry this got so long! I guess I just needed to get it off my chest and see if anyone else has had a similar experience.)

 

So, my best friend has a very motherly personality. We've been friends since we were about 14-15 years old, and even in high school I remember her making sure I ate all my food at lunch when I'd be so busy talking I'd run the risk of not finishing before lunch period was over.  I can be pretty shy, but I've always been comfortable around her.

 

Ever since graduating college, she's become even more motherly (probably due to getting older) and I've gotten more childlike around her (more comfortable with being myself in general). She often calls me cute which I like and sometimes pet names like dear or darling. Sometimes she even holds my hand! She helps me go shopping sometimes because I can't decide on things and she patiently helps me choose. She's happy to listen to me be excited and blather on about random stuff. She never judges me.

 

Now she lives in her own small house with her husband (they just got married earlier this month!) and I've gone to visit a couple times. I'm very comfortable around her husband too. He's kind and sweet and reminds me a little of myself. Well, the first time I visited was the 4th of July (American Independence Day) and we went to see fireworks in the evening. I ran around the grassy field in bare feet not even caring about all the other people who were there and wanted an ice cream from the ice cream truck and was very childlike. A few months later I had a sleepover (I slept on the couch) and in the morning I made her then-fiance make me chocolate chip pancakes for breakfast.

 

Most recently, I spent New Year's Eve and Day at her house with some other long-time friends. I had my hair in pigtails and pink ribbons because I wanted to be cute, but I think I went into little space (I guess???) even though I still didn't realize I was a little (this was the incident that made me consider it). We were all playing a board game and I really wanted the cards that make pretty pictures, but I didn't land on all the right spots to get them all and I got upset and asked when the game was over if I could just get the other cards so I could look at them, but my friend said no and I pouted and then another friend suggested we play again to give me another chance to get the cards I wanted but I kinda had a mini fit and hit my head on the table and said "no I'm hungry!" Then I apologized for being cranky because I'm not normally like this but my friends told me I was just "hangry" and we ordered pizza. Later we played video games and guitar hero and saw the ball drop on tv and stuff. The next day I hung around later after everyone else left and chatted with my best friend and cuddled a bit with her. I liked just spending quiet time and thought about how nice it would be in the future to maybe sit on her lap and have her read a book to me. Just before I left, I expressed my disappointment that she didn't comment on my cute hair, and she said she was sorry and didn't realize I wanted to hear it and that I'm always adorable and she'll tell me in the future.

 

So over the next couple weeks I really started thinking and researched online and came across this site and realized I'm a little. I've never dated (too shy and I've always been a late bloomer) nor had a caregiver. My feelings towards my best friend are definitely platonic (good thing since she's married) but I like feeling little around her. How would I go about asking her for more of it? I've never talked about kink things really with anyone, but I guess this is more innocently being myself? And just for the record, I act this way in front of her husband too and he doesn't mind. Should I bring up mdlg at all or just keep acting naturally childlike without mentioning it? Has anyone else had a similar experience?

[Guest Prat]

You have a good thing going so I guess try and keep it that way?

Also mentioning platonic mdlg to someone who's married and probably doesn't have any idea about anything of the sort might freak them out...

[BabyBeans]

I think it could be best to just wait a bit more and take time to think about everything. It sounds like your friendship is almost perfect for you already, I personally would be scared to ruin it haha.. But I'm just a worry-wart. I just think it may be best to keep going how you have been? And like what they said above, mentioning it to someone who may not know a single thing about it could probably sound scary to them. 

[LittleTeacup]

Thank you for both of your advice. I guess (for now at least) I'll just keep doing what I've been doing and not try to stick a label on it. She's pretty open-minded, but it's best to play safe! Especially because I've only just started identifying this way.

 

But I'll laugh if sometime in the future I do tell her and she says she suspected it all along but didn't want to scare me...

[Featheredfaith]

[LittleTeacup]

Hi Featheredfaith, thanks for your input! I'm glad for the different point of view. Maybe I'll ease into it slowly, after all we don't see each other all the time anymore with our own lives anyway. I could tell her I like how she's so nurturing and she's like my "pretend mama" and see how she reacts. I can't imagine it going that poorly honestly, since I wouldn't be asking for anything different than usual, just permission to keep being myself, which she's already assured me she likes. I also wouldn't be too surprised if she's already heard of the concept.

 

And from how I behave, I'd be surprised if it's truly a surprise anyway...

 

Talking it out like this helps me get my thoughts together better.

Edited January 24, 2019 by LittleTeacup

[Featheredfaith]

sounds like a plan, teacup <3 

I hope it goes well. Please let us know. Honestly, if I were you, I'd more phrase it as telling her about YOURSELF. Like "HEY! So I learned a THING! Did you know there are actually a whole sub community of people who are like me? I feel relieved to know I'm not alone!" Please let us know how it goes <3

[LittleTeacup]

Thanks for the idea! I'm sure I'll come up with a natural way to bring it up.

 

I will definitely let everyone here know how it goes, but it might be a few weeks. I don't have a plan to see my friend in the near future and I know she's busy with grad school. It'll probably be during the second half of February. Gives me some more time to think about it.

 

She already promised to help me shop at the big mall because I got a gift card at Christmas, so we just need an available date!