Hi, just need to vent and ask a couple questions

[Double Side Daddy]

Im about to break off my relationship with my little, im super stressed and have more thoughts and regrets flying around in my head than i can count. I want a DD/GL IRL i think it will help relive so much more stress. I dont want to rush into a new one as the one im leaving is my first and i would never want to hurt another little by not properly caring for her.

 

I love being dominate but have to be respected when so or i lose all my confidence, it dosent have to be strictly IRL i just want to be able to spend actual time with my little. Im super caring but i built super strong big walls  to hide behind. i just dont want to be hurt anymore,i want something that i can let my self love without fear, thoughts please bc rn im lost

 

Thanks for all who help, sorry im up so late

 

[DustBunny93]

Maybe you should talk to your current little.

I mean obviously I could be very wrong as I don't have both sides of the story here, but maybe for some reason you are not doing something she needs to be happy. Maybe she is acting out because she needs something from you.

Are you sending her "dominating" messages demanding something from her? (Because you are trying to show your dominate side)

Because I know if someone did that to me I would not want to respect them anymore.

You have to look at both sides.

 

And you answered your own thing. You don't want to jump into a new relationship with a new little. So don't.

[Double Side Daddy]

All I ever do is look at both sides. I just talked to her, she had nothing to say except she use to love me, and she wishes me the best. That she’s not special (even though Ik she is) and that she hopes that I find someone who deserves me. I want her not someone else but it’s like everyone is telling me she only hurts me. I just tried to talk things out, she doesn’t want to. All I can do is wish her best and stop my heart from bleeding. Stitch it back up and find someone new Bc there’s some little out there for me, one that I know I give my all to and will be loved back

[DustBunny93]

I looked at your profile. You are only 19. You are younger than my little brother. You have so much time to find someone for you. Take my advice as someone almost 7 years older than you, and don't worry about it. I used to think at that age that break ups were the worst but believe me you will find someone.

Just don't try to force anything else to happen with her. Unfortunately it seems like she doesn't want to be together.

 

Best of luck.

[Double Side Daddy]

I’ll try my best, thanks for your help and the advice

[fancysir]

Dear Double Sided Daddy,

 

I understand where you are coming from.  I too need respect and adoration to be my full confident Dom self.  It sounds like you have communicated your needs to your little.  If she is unable to care about your needs and your feelings then it sounds like it is time for you to move on.  As a Caregiver type we often feel very deeply for our little even when they are abusive to us or neglectful of our needs. I know I have fallen into this trap many times and stayed far to long in these unhealthy types of relationships.  This break-up sounds like it is what is best for both of you.

 

Also, Daddies often take things very personally.  The more I have experience the more that I have noticed that often these types of problems are recurring for the little and in there past relationships.  Don't let a partners short comings define you.  In other words don't take it too personally.  

 

I absolutely agree that you should take some time off to heal before jumping into a new relationship. You said that is what you need.  Feel good that you realized that about yourself.

 

Best of luck.