Does he have a Daddy kink?

[Guest LorenaKazanowska]

Hi all, I've been thinking about this for a while and will admit this is a relatively new thing for me. English is not my first language so please forgive me for any mistakes but hopefully it will be okay.

 

I have been with a guy who is 10 years my senior (I am 28) for around one year now. We have a very dom/sub relationship sexually and recently its been very mildly ''spilling'' over into other areas of life, in private and not public. I have always loved being dominated and enjoy very rough sex, however I am aware the ddlg concept does not always involve sex at all, so although I am not that knowledgeable, I am not entirely ignorant to it either. Lately I have researched it all the more when time allows.

 

He is an academic and a very serious and professional person, as am I to a lesser degree. We have a very good relationship with a lot of trust and I can honestly say this is the safest and most emotionally comfortable I've ever felt with anyone. He calls me his little princess, his little girl, I told him once in a random conversation about my favourite book as a child which I'd read when I was a kid and suffered quite regularly with nightmares (I had anxiety, and to a much lesser degree it comes and goes even as an adult).

 

He found that book and ordered it, offering to read it to me at night when and if I wanted. He has purchased teddy bears for me. He talks about ''tucking me in'', and even quite bluntly once said he needs me to be the strong-minded and independent woman that I am, but for him, he needs me to be the ''sweet and helpless child that he'll be sweet to, help and guide''

 

Writing all this now I kinda feel like the answer to my question is pretty obvious so forgive my reaching out, but do any of you think he has a ddlg/caregiver type kink? The rough sex and dominant thing is well known, but I'm curious about whether or not this might go a little deeper?

 

Really appreciate all of your thoughts and comments, and sorry again if I have made any mistakes with my English!

Edited January 19, 2019 by LorenaKazanowska

[Guest CaptainAmerica97]

that is what it sounds like honestly. 

[mallowbite]

I would say yes, from what you described. I can understand your apprehension when coming to him to ask outright. DDLG can come with certain stigma. If you feel safe and emotionally comfortable with him though, it sounds like you'd be just fine opening up communication about this with him! If it's something you both want to more deeply explore, it could bring your relationship even closer. 

[Guest LorenaKazanowska]

Thanks to both. Unsure how to bring up this subject as it really is something new to me and I'm not sure how. Any advice would be welcome.

[Guest LorenaKazanowska]

Thanks! I really appreciate your response

[Littlest-puppy]

I would say it sounds like it! He may bw a natural care-takee type and be oblivioua to DD/LG though.

[softly]

I would mention the book, and all of the Daddy-like things he has already done. Make sure to emphasize how those things made you feel, how much you enjoyed them. And then ask what more he would consider doing leaning that way- if the response is positive, it may be time to bring up the Dom/little lifestyle, why and what appeals to you about it so far, even if it's not very much or if you're deep in what you've discovered. Just communicate your feelings, and what you want, but listen to his wants and needs too. ^.^ I hope a happy conversation happens that leads to you both being more fulfilled!  Good luck!

[Guest LorenaKazanowska]

Thanks a lot! He is a doctor so I've often wondered if he's just very caring by his nature. But I'm being lead to believe it is more than that, when I read not only your responses but my own question here back, the answer seems pretty clear. I'll see how to pursue this gently.