Confused about my Daddy

[Lostbun]

[MasterPhotog]

Hi Lostbun, 
Please understand that all great relationships take time to build, however effective communication is important. 

In addition, please keep in mind that D/s or DDlg relationship may not be as important to him as it is to you. 

Since you love him, have patience while you both build your understanding; however your relationship may not turn out to be exactly what you have in mind. 

Hope this helps. Best wishes! 

[-SoftBunny-]

Hi, I hope you are doing better!

 

I think, in my opinion, that you and your current Daddy need to sit together and have a big talk. A deep one where you and him talk one by one about how you feel with the dynamic that you two have in the DDLG aspect. It's important to have a very good communication!!! it's the key to any relationship. You can't continue to tell him and remind him your needs: he have to understand how you feel when he forgets things and how it affects you. Then, let him talk and ask question like "what do you think of that?" "how do you feel about that?" ect. Please don't let your emotion talk: make it in calm and in a respectful way (both of you hehe)! We don't want to argue right? C:

 

I hope this help! Good luck!

[CryBabyUniWolf]

Honestly, sounds a lot like my ex. He always said that he was interested, said he wanted to give me all these things and wanted to be part of me being little and all of this stuff... But he wasn't. At all. I think he only agreed to it in fear that I would end our relationship. That worked out real well for him considering that he's my ex, huh?

If things don't change in your relationship you're gonna have to make a hard decision. And you might have to ask what is more important, him and your relationship with him, or your happiness and your needs. It's not selfish for wanting something. He agreed to it, and he just isn't following through. I hope things work out for you. You seem like a sweetheart. I wish you the best.

[Guest furrylilproblem]

I fully sympathize with you and your situation! Although it may not be DDLG specifically in my relationship, there have been countless things I felt insecure about. The best way I've nipped this in the behind has been straight up confrontation. I understand that's incredibly difficult but in the long run, I can promise you that it'll be a weight off your shoulders! My daddy even once felt insecure because I went a few months without being in little space due to stress, and he was worried that I didn't want to do it anymore. This, of course, wasn't the truth, but because he came to me about it, we were able to talk about it and get everything all settled out! 

Honestly, a heart-to-heart, no judgment, everything on the table conversation is what it sounds like you two need. There could be a hundred different reasons he's forgetting or whatnot, and only assuming and getting worked up will hurt your poor heart! I think you should tell him your concerns and fears, and reassure him that he can be fully honest with you and what he wants. 

I really hope it all works out for you! Things always do in the end, just remember that. <3 Lot of love! 

[Featheredfaith]

Oh I understand this post on soooo many levels. I was never sure if I was a little till I met my Daddy. Then it just all made sense. It even made my past relationships make SO much more sense. But the problem is that he was never a Daddy.... he started being a Daddy because I was working myself out as a Middle. He was a WONDERFUL Daddy. However, right now he cant do it. He has some life and medical stuff and is struggling. We have had a rough couple months and I miss the heck out of him. I ache for it. But at the same time I'm trying to be more understanding and patient... I wasnt at first. My biggest worry is he will never want it again... and I just found me... but I adore him.

 

So yes, sympathy and understanding here.