[Daddy’s little girl]

Last year my Daddy left me because he wasn’t happy with me. We had an LDR and sometimes real life took over. It would mean that he didn’t get the Daddy time he wanted, even though we texted through out the day and talked on the phone at lunch, to and from work. He finally just disappeared on me.

 

Last month, I thought I had found a new potential Daddy, but that was not the case. We met a couple of times. And when I said that I didn’t want to take it slow, he said good and then disappear.

 

I guess I’m just not meant to be little. But I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m so upset that I just cry every night.

 

Can someone please give me advice?

[Guest QueenJellybean]

i think the most meaningful + helpful advice i'll be able to give here is that you cannot base your worthiness to be little off of your partner (or lack thereof.) 

having a CG, while it definitely helps + is very important to some people, does not determine your worth as a little. 

 

you are a valid little simply by feeling little. 

there are a lot of littles who don't have partners, in fact, there's a whole thread of them! 

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/38406-all-the-single-littles/

 

i know it can be really hard to find a partner that works for you, but not having one does not mean you are not little. 

keep your chin up + try to find ways to make yourself feel small + safe while you find another partner who does work for you!

maybe focus on yourself for a while.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi,

First off I am very sorry that you are in pain right now, however be sure not to validate yourself based upon what your Daddy or potential Daddy does. Everyone is flawed in one way or another, and that goes for Daddy's as well. That just means they were not the right Daddy for you and that does not define you as a little. Only you can determine whether you are a little or not and there are varying degrees to being a little and no two littles are the same. Being defined as a "little" is a lifestyle and a frame of mind it is not being in a relationship with a Daddy. You will find a Daddy that is right for you, do not lose hope and never define your worthiness on your relationships, you alone define yourself no one else does. 

Good Luck to you and know that there are good Daddy's in the world and good things will come to you.

[SamL]

 

i think the most meaningful + helpful advice i'll be able to give here is that you cannot base your worthiness to be little off of your partner (or lack thereof.) 

 

 

You are quickly making it to the top of the official "My Favorite Posters" list.  

 

Last year my Daddy left me because he wasn’t happy with me. We had an LDR and sometimes real life took over. It would mean that he didn’t get the Daddy time he wanted, even though we texted through out the day and talked on the phone at lunch, to and from work. He finally just disappeared on me.

 

Last month, I thought I had found a new potential Daddy, but that was not the case. We met a couple of times. And when I said that I didn’t want to take it slow, he said good and then disappear.

 

I guess I’m just not meant to be little. But I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m so upset that I just cry every night.

 

Can someone please give me advice?

 

While I know that you can't envision yourself ever leaving someone, let's pretend you could for this question:

 

Does it seem likely that if you left your Daddy it would be your fault AND that if your Daddy left you it would also be your fault?  And yet, you'd consider it your fault both ways.  I think a better question is this: Why do you believe that everything has to be your fault, every time?  

 

Because it isn't.  

[Guest Rena]

first of all, im sorry to hear that.. but sweetie, i have been at what you've been through.. im not gonna say that its their fault nor yours, but its just people dont click at some point (unless they intend to really hurt you really bad).. i did found the one, but turned out we clashed and said our goodbyes.. it takes time to find someone who can really click, sweetie.. hang in there

[Jon]

Don't give up, just because a couple Daddys didn't quite click doesn't mean you give up on yourself. You'll find someone and when you do you'll realize it was all worth it. Sometimes it takes a little time to find that one that's just right! It'll happen

[MysticSand]

What the others said. ^

 

And to help put things into a more holistic perspective....

A quick google search told me that in the summer of 2017, there were 7.6 billion people on Earth.

Some quick math... 2 daddies out of 7.6 billion people... you get it, it's a small number.

 

If they are not in your life, they were simply not meant to be in your life.

 

As for advice.... well, here's my two cents:

Do things that make you happy.

Do things that make you happy in a group or large setting.

Maybe you'll meet someone doing the same thing that makes them happy too.

And then you could do things that make you both happy while being happy with each other!

At the very least, you'd be happy doing something that makes you happy.

At the most, you'd meet a new friend, best friend or even an SO!

[MysticSand]

Oops. Double post by accident. la la la. Sorry ignore this.

Edited January 18, 2019 by MysticSand

[Guest LittleOne298]

Being a little is part of who you are. You can't base the worthiness of yourself based on your Daddy. There are so many people out there, you'll find the right one when it's the right time! Don't let your caregiver or Daddy control who you are as a person. You're you, not just a little. I'm sorry you aren't happy right now but things will get better, promise!