Daddy having a hard time being a daddy

[Maeby]

I'm new to being a little and have a really hard time getting into little space however, I'm not the only one struggling with the new transition. My daddy is a wonderful person and we intend on getting married, he's just having a really hard time getting into his role. Our relationship is really difficult right now because I realized that I needed a ddlg relationship even though it's more difficult than I thought it'd be and I'm too self conscious and not able to let loose enough to be little. My daddy keeps telling me to be little but does nothing to help me be little and always puts a bunch of stress on me and I'm stressed out and I feel like I'm in a vicious cycle.... I've been with my daddy for 3 years and we're getting engaged soon, and our relationship runs deeper than just ddlg... So there's no way that leaving him is an option... I just don't know what to do! ANY advice is 100% appreciated and warranted.... I'm just really slipping into a depression about this... my anxiety is hitting me hard about this too. 

[Guest Daddys Ethereal Kitten]

Let him browse a bit on this site. There are plenty of forums guiding new Daddy's and helping them with there role. Relationships run on communication, he's not going to know what you want unless you tell him. Let him know what you want out of DD/LG and vice versa. For some, being a Daddy feels natural and for many others in takes a little bit of practice. Try not to get frustrated. You need to guide him just as much as he needs to guide you.

[Maeby]

You're right! it's really hard figuring out what I want though xD

[Guest Daddys Ethereal Kitten]

You're right! it's really hard figuring out what I want though xD

Yeah I understand that, especially being new to the community. Take it easy, take it slow, and introduce one thing at a time.

[babylou]

Try telling your Daddy what he does well at...Encouragement to open up and relax into who you both are is important. It's a two way thing.It's a journey you are both taking, so hold each others hand and enjoy it. It can be frustrating, but honesty is a must, tell him what you think about, what you dream about, and give him the opportunity to do the same. This is not a lifestyle anyone can just adopt, and it can't be forced either. So be honest with yourselves, talk A LOT and rediscover what it is about you both that keeps that draw between you so strong. Good luck hunny xxxx

[Guest LaidBackDaddy]

This is the second post I have seen today about Littles asking about their struggling Daddies. Daddies really need to make friends and get educated and ask questions and set their pride down and worry less about looking like an idiot and more about doing whatever it takes to care properly for their Littles. I do not want to assume your daddy has pride issues, maybe it is disinterest in being a Daddy, or lack of confidence.

 

Does anyone know if there is a Daddy only Kik group out there? If not, maybe I will start one so Daddies have a safe dark cave to go to a beat their chests, drink beer, burp and anonymously admit they are an idiot and need help

 

Every Daddy needs help at some point. We are not perfect and we are not mind readers and we can be just as selfish sometimes as vanilla males.

[Guest Vexe]

Well said LaidBackDaddy.  

 

Maeby, your daddy can always join us in the caregiver cafe, there's lots of daddies here to offer support.