Is it normal that we don't respect your relationship?

[-SoftBunny-]

Hewooo everyone!! How are you??

 

 

 

I know i'm not the only one here to have those kind of notifications: daddys\mommys\caregivers inboxing you

 

or trying to be your friends here without asking or just don't respect you by calling you names.

 

 

 

I just want to know what I can do or if it's normal that some people here don't seems to read your status or the big colored "in relationship" status?? It's just soo sad that every time I have a notification is for someone who don't respect me or my relationship!!

 

I know I can ignore them ( and that's what I do everytime) but please people out there...read and respect the person!!!

 

 

 

Halp a little pwease!

[MysticSand]

Do you read their profile and some of their posts before accepting the Friend Request? That's probably one of the best ways to filter requests. If they have a blank profile, don't have a profile picture, don't have any posts... then it's likely that you shouldn't accept the friend request. Generally speaking, it's just a quick way to distinguish between people who will send out a ton of FR's knowing at least some will respond, vs people people who are actually messaging you to talk to you.

[SamL]

 

Well, maybe you can help me understand a few things about etiquette here.  You said:

 

 

 

I know i'm not the only one here to have those kind of notifications: daddys\mommys\caregivers inboxing you

or trying to be your friends here without asking or just don't respect you by calling you names. 

 

I know that I am friends with a couple of littles here, but can't recall if I sent the friend request or they did.  I have enjoyed ongoing and respectful messaging with those two.  The only one who I know for certain that I initiated the friend request was sent to someone who requested friends.  She has ignored my request and I haven't given it much thought until now.  Perhaps she thought I was being rude by not asking her before I sent a friend request.  Is that what you are suggesting - trying to be friends without asking?  How exactly should a person go about asking if we can't send a message until we've asked and accepted?  I'm not being facetious; is there a way?

 

 

I just want to know what I can do or if it's normal that some people here don't seems to read your status or the big colored "in relationship" status?? It's just soo sad that every time I have a notification is for someone who don't respect me or my relationship!! 

I know I can ignore them ( and that's what I do everytime) but please people out there...read and respect the person!!! 

 

Are you suggesting that sending someone a respectful message who is in a relationship is disrespectful?  If you are, we're going to have to agree to disagree.

[Guest Aetherr]

its a real shame guys to respect other guys so even if the lady be taken dudes still gonna sniff around for scraps... puts my gender to shame they are either too stupid or dont care wither way i cant respect clowns like that

[-SoftBunny-]

Do you read their profile and some of their posts before accepting the Friend Request? That's probably one of the best ways to filter requests. If they have a blank profile, don't have a profile picture, don't have any posts... then it's likely that you shouldn't accept the friend request. Generally speaking, it's just a quick way to distinguish between people who will send out a ton of FR's knowing at least some will respond, vs people people who are actually messaging you to talk to you.

No I don't accept anyone who didn't talk me first, have a real profile or is a caregiver (personnal reason). I always check first the profile but the issue is not there: they don't read that i'm taken and that i'm here for friends not to have a caregiver: it's really bothering me to see that they call me names and don't respect my relationship

[-SoftBunny-]

 

Well, maybe you can help me understand a few things about etiquette here.  You said:

 

 

 

 

I know that I am friends with a couple of littles here, but can't recall if I sent the friend request or they did.  I have enjoyed ongoing and respectful messaging with those two.  The only one who I know for certain that I initiated the friend request was sent to someone who requested friends.  She has ignored my request and I haven't given it much thought until now.  Perhaps she thought I was being rude by not asking her before I sent a friend request.  Is that what you are suggesting - trying to be friends without asking?  How exactly should a person go about asking if we can't send a message until we've asked and accepted?  I'm not being facetious; is there a way?

 

 

 

 

Are you suggesting that sending someone a respectful message who is in a relationship is disrespectful?  If you are, we're going to have to agree to disagree.

 

No I didn't say that, I said that it's not difficult to read a person page and not try to force them to be with you or don't give them respect by giving names to the person! If someone inbox me with a respectful message I will be happy to awnser: otherwise not. :c I had many messages from "daddys" trying to be with me or calling me pet names and it's very disrespecful to me when I'm cleary saying everywhere that I'm taken and i'm looking only for little friend

[MysticSand]

No I don't accept anyone who didn't talk me first, have a real profile or is a caregiver (personnal reason). I always check first the profile but the issue is not there: they don't read that i'm taken and that i'm here for friends not to have a caregiver: it's really bothering me to see that they call me names and don't respect my relationship

Hmm. Can you gently remind them not to? It's actually one of the forum rules to not use pet names/nicknames without consent. Sometimes a gentle reminder goes a long way!

 

I'm not sure where your friends are from either, though. It could also just be a difference of culture (as in some areas it's very normal to call people "honey" or "sweetie" and it's seen more as respectful rather than as a pet name). So when/if you do remind them not to call you nicknames, keep other factors in mind and do it gently and provide an alternative for them like "hey you can always call me bunny or dolly" or something to soften it even more.

[SamL]

If someone inbox me with a respectful message I will be happy to awnser: 

 

 

 How exactly should a person go about asking if we can't send a message until we've asked and accepted?  I'm not being facetious; is there a way?

[SamL]

Hey MysticSand...feel free to jump in here if you know the answer to my question!  Please!

[MysticSand]

Hey MysticSand...feel free to jump in here if you know the answer to my question!  Please!

I'm pretty sure it's just a misunderstanding. XD

 

I understood it that she's getting FR's and the first messages that come through jump right into conversation and pet name calling rather than the "Hey, I'm ________, I saw your post/profile and you seem neat! I hope we can be friends!" type of message. Eh?

Edited January 16, 2019 by MysticSand

[SamL]

Thank you very much.  I've got Asperger's and I can spin out on those type of misunderstandings.  You saved me.  Must be a mom thing.   

[MysticSand]

Thank you very much.  I've got Asperger's and I can spin out on those type of misunderstandings.  You saved me.  Must be a mom thing.   

 

No worries! I understood both of your trains of logic so I'm glad I could help!

 

But to be facetious to your facetiousness, one can always ask via the chatroom or if they're careless with social media. 

[Misha]

I don't think it's anything specific to this website, I think that's pretty normal anywhere on the internet and even off of the internet as well. It's repulsive, but normal.

 

Really the best thing to do imo is ignore it.

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

First off girls say they are in a relationship even though they are not because they find the person approaching them unattractive, poor, unimpressive, or a beta for example. Instead of the girl being honest saying I'm not interested the "I am in a relationship" line is often used. So it is ignored because it is often just a lie and a rebuttal to advances.  

 

There are so many pathetic and desperate people in modern society, and on here, that they will hover around and dote on any female that might be above a 2 in attractiveness. They will like your pictures or comment how beautiful you are or some other obnoxious affirming commentary. People don't post that many selfies unless they are looking for attention since they are often self absorbed or have poor self esteem and are looking for validation. It's incredibly narcissistic and this age of social media has really created some serious monsters. So I would suggest you take a closer look at your actions and what kind of message you're actually portraying versus blaming everyone else. After you cleanup your brand and how you're perceived, if you still receive such messages you can ignore them, reply back saying you're not interested, chew them out, or anything you so desire. 

 

This is the internet and you don't live in a protective bubble.

[Momma'sBoy]

That is so sad on so many different levels!

 

What does it say about a society of women don't feel safe enough to say they aren't interested and feel the need to lie in order to get people to bugger off?

 

And what did it say when men take the above fact into account and keep pursuing women because "they're probably lying anyways"?

 

Take a hint dude! She's just not that into you! If she tells you she isn't interested in it don't pursue it!

 

What if instead of encouraging people to censure themselves when just trying to to be themselves in, what should be, a safe and comfortable space, we encouraged people to respect others and not act like thirsty creeps?

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

That is so sad on so many different levels!

 

What does it say about a society of women don't feel safe enough to say they aren't interested and feel the need to lie in order to get people to bugger off?

 

And what did it say when men take the above fact into account and keep pursuing women because "they're probably lying anyways"?

 

Take a hint dude! She's just not that into you! If she tells you she isn't interested in it don't pursue it!

 

What if instead of encouraging people to censure themselves when just trying to to be themselves in, what should be, a safe and comfortable space, we encouraged people to respect others and not act like thirsty creeps?

 

This says women are allowed to lie and get away with it without any recourse to change and curb their behavior. It means society has failed to raise decent and honest women.

 

It shows men pursue since they have always been hunters before the pussyfication, cuckery, and demise of men. Alphas have always had their choice of women. Let's not pretend humans are anything except animals and the animal kingdom has its hierarchy and natural ways of selection.   

 

"take a hind dude"- no, she is just not interested in what or how you're offering yourself. Due to the hypergamous nature of women over 70% of the time they are willing to improve their situation by moving up to a higher status male.  

 

Knowing how to better yourself has nothing to do with censorship. There are no such things as safe spaces and the mere idea of such a thing is ridiculous and pure fantasy. Since you demand such an ideology I hope you attempt to join the Marines as an 0311 and go fight for it. In the event, however unlikely you can earn the title. Go to the front lines in a war zone, and then lets see if you come back with your same ideas. Only then will I entertain your rhetoric. After all, your "safespace" is fought for by the blood of real men, and few women.

[SamL]

First off girls say they are in a relationship even though they are not because they find the person approaching them unattractive, poor, unimpressive, or a beta for example. Instead of the girl being honest saying I'm not interested the "I am in a relationship" line is often used. So it is ignored because it is often just a lie and a rebuttal to advances.  

 

 

 

Why would anyone want to pursue a relationship with someone that can have no other outcome except;

A) You win a liar.

You win a cheater.

C) You waste your time.

[SamL]

Knowing how to better yourself has nothing to do with censorship. There are no such things as safe spaces and the mere idea of such a thing is ridiculous and pure fantasy. Since you demand such an ideology I hope you attempt to join the Marines as an 0311 and go fight for it. In the event, however unlikely you can earn the title. Go to the front lines in a war zone, and then lets see if you come back with your same ideas. Only then will I entertain your rhetoric. After all, your "safespace" is fought for by the blood of real men, and few women.

 

Force Recon 84-88, two Purple Hearts and a Bronze Star with Valor authorization.  I bled for her to have a safe space. and for you to have an opinion.  You're both entitled.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I just want to know what I can do or if it's normal that some people here don't seems to read your status or the big colored "in relationship" status??

You can:

1. Write in the about me section of your profile "I AM IN A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP. I AM NOT INTERESTED IN ANOTHER PARTNER."

2. Report members who call you pet names.

3. If you want to receive less attention, you could change your profile pic.

 

Because, yes, it is normal that people ignore relationship statuses on this site.

[-SoftBunny-]

Hmm. Can you gently remind them not to? It's actually one of the forum rules to not use pet names/nicknames without consent. Sometimes a gentle reminder goes a long way!

 

I'm not sure where your friends are from either, though. It could also just be a difference of culture (as in some areas it's very normal to call people "honey" or "sweetie" and it's seen more as respectful rather than as a pet name). So when/if you do remind them not to call you nicknames, keep other factors in mind and do it gently and provide an alternative for them like "hey you can always call me bunny or dolly" or something to soften it even more.

Great advice! c: thank you!

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

Force Recon 84-88, two Purple Hearts and a Bronze Star with Valor authorization.  I bled for her to have a safe space. and for you to have an opinion.  You're both entitled.

You bled to have a free country and to support and defend the constitution of the united states, as did I. There are still no such things as safe spaces. 

[-SoftBunny-]

So I would suggest you take a closer look at your actions and what kind of message you're actually portraying versus blaming everyone else. After you cleanup your brand and how you're perceived, if you still receive such messages you can ignore them, reply back saying you're not interested, chew them out, or anything you so desire. 

 

This is the internet and you don't live in a protective bubble.

I do not know if you try to insinuate that I'm blaming others and that I'm inventing my relationship, but what I ask is if it's normal that most of the requests I get are caregiver (here or even on other forum to press my question). Doing as if they had not read my profile that mentions my relationship and my interest in friendships between littles.

 

As for other girls who unfortunately works as you mentioned: it's sad but it does not affect anyone here .. Saying that posting photos is a sign of lack of self-confidence as well as a lack of attention is ridiculous in my opinion. I believe that people publish (like me) because they are proud of who they are and they are not afraid to show it! Otherwise, thank you for the advice. I'm already ignore them!

[-SoftBunny-]

You can:

1. Write in the about me section of your profile "I AM IN A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP. I AM NOT INTERESTED IN ANOTHER PARTNER."

2. Report members who call you pet names.

3. If you want to receive less attention, you could change your profile pic.

 

Because, yes, it is normal that people ignore relationship statuses on this site.

Thank you! but I'm not in a monogamous relationship haha otherwise I think I will report them with pleasure.

[-SoftBunny-]

That is so sad on so many different levels!

 

What does it say about a society of women don't feel safe enough to say they aren't interested and feel the need to lie in order to get people to bugger off?

 

And what did it say when men take the above fact into account and keep pursuing women because "they're probably lying anyways"?

 

Take a hint dude! She's just not that into you! If she tells you she isn't interested in it don't pursue it!

 

What if instead of encouraging people to censure themselves when just trying to to be themselves in, what should be, a safe and comfortable space, we encouraged people to respect others and not act like thirsty creeps?

Thank you!! I 1000% agree. It's a safe zone here, we are not supposed to keep hiding because creeps don't understand NO

[-SoftBunny-]

I just want to thank you all of you for helping me understand more this website and what I can do to protect myself even more!