Getting Over Insecurites?

[Jynxie]

As littles there is bound to be insecurities about what our partner will think. Especially if it’s a new dynamic introduced into the relationship and you’ve never been in the headspace around them. It can be confusing and frustrating, because it’s something that’s badly wanted but it’s hard to get past the insecurity and fear our partner will think we are weird and freaks.

 

My question for CG’s: How do you help your little get over their embarrassment and get them to open up to you?

 

For Littles: How do you work on it yourself and try to get past the mindset of “this isn’t normal and I’m weird?”

 

I hope my question can be answered and be useful to any littles that are struggling with this. Thank you!

[Guest littlebunn]

first, I just want to say I've been struggling with this for years. I've had my fair share of failed DD/CGlg relationships and learnt a lot about what's okay and what isn't. I'm not an expert on the matter, but hopefully I can help to an extent.

 

insecurities, no matter the context, are tricky to deal with. we live in a world where people are very opinionated about things that don't directly affect them, and I feel a lot of that stays with us as we grow and discover ourselves. it's human to question where you stand in this world, to reflect on what kind of person you are. this opens up the chance for more growth and making sure you're getting what you want/need in your life.

 

that being said, it's important that in any relationship, both people be honest and respect each other. being a Little is a very vulnerable thing, it's only natural that our insecurities get the best of us at times.

 

you need to be gentle with yourself and trust that your partner loves you for who you are, "flaws" and all. you are not weird or a freak for doing what brings you happiness in this world, and I can guarantee they only want the best for you. from a Little's perspective, it's okay to address these feelings and put a voice to the nagging thoughts we have. express your concern and communicate with them. a CG who truly loves and cares about you will never make you feel guilty for having these feelings.

 

if you're having trouble getting into the head space around them, or if it feels too weird, try taking baby steps with it. start off slow and do what you're comfortable with, but don't be afraid to take chances outside of your comfort zone now and then - you may be surprised about how good it can be for both of you.

 

this goes to all Littles and CGs: be kind to each other. be respectful. but most of all, be brave. life is such a beautiful journey to explore together.

Edited March 4, 2019 by littlebunn

[-SoftBunny-]

As littles there is bound to be insecurities about what our partner will think. Especially if it’s a new dynamic introduced into the relationship and you’ve never been in the headspace around them. It can be confusing and frustrating, because it’s something that’s badly wanted but it’s hard to get past the insecurity and fear our partner will think we are weird and freaks.

 

My question for CG’s: How do you help your little get over their embarrassment and get them to open up to you?

 

For Littles: How do you work on it yourself and try to get past the mindset of “this isn’t normal and I’m weird?”

 

I hope my question can be answered and be useful to any littles that are struggling with this. Thank you!

 I will say that I asked a lot of question to my daddy to see what makes him and me comfortable! It helped a LOT

knowing what is accepted and what makes us uncomfortable helped in our relationship as a baby and daddy: I was able to feel more confident and less shy!