Having to adult

[LyraFaye]

Has anyone ever stopped being little for a period of time so that they could tackle some things in their adult life? I don’t mean not being little while at the grocery store. I mean not being little, rejecting your little side for a few weeks so that I can work on improving my skills as an adult. Specifically I am trying to work at controlling my emotions which I cannot do if I’m little. I use being little as a crutch to not be sad or to not make decisions, which is unhealthy. So if I take a break from being little I can learn to process and deal with emotions in an adult way. Any tips on how to not feel sad about not being little?

[MelaninMaus]

I took a break from being a little for just over a year and now I'm slowly trying to readjust. It was hard at first but had to push forward. Now I find getting back into being a little after so long is equally hard Edited January 14, 2019 by MelaninMaus

[Daddybears PLB]

I have experienced this on a regular basis in the aspect of suppressing my little side to achieve what needs to get done to succeed in life and better myself. For me it's just a fact of life, i work full time and have a house to keep so if i want to get on in life and have the things i want being focused and adulting takes priority. If there's alot going on it can be quite sometime before I'm able to or in the right mind frame to have some littlespace but once i make an effort to even have one evening here and there when i can it's usually enough for me to relieve the stress and frustration.

Try not to over think it too much.... life is what it is and you need to take care of adult stuff from time to time so try to just go with the flow get some little time in while you can, even if it's just relaxing in front of a cute movie you enjoy. It's a tricky balance to lead a successful adult life alongside fulfilling your little needs too but i just think of it as an ever revolving door sometimes I'm adult and others I'm little and when I'm stuck being adult for a while if i just tell myself it's not for ever and it will come back around and it'll be time for littlebear to shine again ☺

 

We all feel like you do at some point or another so try not to let it overwhelm you x

[MissBHavin_DK]

I needed to be an adult when my Daddy got diagnosed with a depression and some years later he got penile cancer. It's hard having to be the adult in charge of everything. But I found that if I kept doing things I enjoy as a middle it got easier. It's difficult to find the way back into ddlg if the roles are reversed for a longer periode. But life is what it is and sometimes you just have to put on the big girl pants. Edited January 14, 2019 by MissBHavin_DK

[Guest Lightyear]

Hi! Being a daddy, it's difficult to relate. But trying to help... I would say why not saving yourself some moments (once a day? once a week?) for allowing yourself to be little and keep in touch with that side of you. Use it as a self-reward to yourself for being such a good big girl.

[XmochiX]

Yes, I've taken breaks from being little because I had to focus on enrolling in school and setting up my new apartment and such. I still want to focus on getting my GED and enrolling in college, but being little is a reflex for me and I can't always control it. Today, for example, it took everything in me not to revert to little space after my first day at my first official job. But I powered through, finished work, and went to school. Now, here I am!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

hello!

 

i'm not sure how helpful my perspective will be here, but as someone who doesn't identify as a little yet has little/small tendencies, i definitely know what it's like to sort of "shelf" my small impulses in favor of Adulting (with a capital A!). it's never fun, but sometimes it's necessary. 

for me, doing small things is the same thing as relaxing or destressing so i view it a lot like self-care + i try to carve out time to make sure that i'm allowing myself to just let go. 

 

whether that's a bath with extra bubbles at the end of a stressful day instead of a shower, or wearing a onesie to bed, or coloring during a break at work instead of watching youtube.