Mommy Dommes

[Lil Amulet]

Hello! So my little and I have been talking. And he wants me to be a domme in the bedroom. I'm all for trying out new stuff. Turns out he's been a sub before. I'm just not too sure what exactly dommes do. Like punishments and sexual acts in general. My little is.. Much bigger than me. And much stronger so i just need advice on being a domme rather than a mommy. I got the mommy thing down just not the domme aspect

[TwitchySwitchy]

Hi. I'm a mommy dom, though I am trans so I am larger than/same size as most of my subs so I don't have much experience there. In my experience as a dom for 10 years size doesn't matter too much. A sub is a sub in their mind, not in their body. If you show dominance over a sub that has accepted you as their dom they will submit. If he likes pain punishments can become more extreme assuming you already have a set of "mommy rules." Instead of a spank, try canning or whipping. Just never, ever, EVER, use psychological torture on a little sub. Some subs like it, but I've noticed that little subs seem to have a harder time dealing with the stress. The most important aspect of domming, regardless of what happens during a scene, is prep and aftercare. getting him into subspace, whether little space overlaps or not, if he isn't mentally ready for the punishments it will cause a lot more stress. Then aftercare, for both of you, helps you reconnect from something which is potentially destructive. They may like hearing they are a filthy slut, worthless, owned, and an object while in subspace, but they are still humans and once they return to a normal headspace they will have to deal with the fallout of being degraded or hurt by someone they love. Massages, cuddles, snacks are all good ways to come down from that high. and don't forget you need aftercare too. Being a dom is hard because you have to do all those things to someone you love. 

 

The specifics of WHAT you do in a scene are personal, it depends on what you both enjoy. If he's subbed before he will have at least an idea of what he likes. Communication is key so just ask what he already enjoys and see what your comfortable doing, then you can add stuff from there. Best of luck to you!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

this mommy list is a great resource if you're looking for other mommies as well! i hope it helps!

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/13661-the-mommy-list/