How do I heal from a bad breakup?

[Guest Rebecca]

Edited January 5, 2019 by Guest

[Guest You're adorable]

Well,

 

Your conclusion is right. You need to move on. Both of you. Because this article right there that I just read, that was a pure madness. How could both of you go through so much suffering? I mean, sometimes letting go is extremely hard. You can't command the heart, as they say and I know this very well. But as Thanos said (yes, I just quoted Thanos, he is cool) , the hardest choices require the strongest of wills. 

 

First of all. From what I understood, you have health problems. I am not a doctor, but I think you should first focus on how you can actually function in a relationship with the health problems that you have. Because, and I am sorry to say this, if you don't, you will suffer more, just like the article told us. I also understand that loneliness is a crushing thing. It can make us do stupid things, things that we wouldn't even dream of doing if it wasn't for the fact that we feel lonely. So, you have to learn how to control your urges and emotions. Because as I read, most of the time they got better of you. Control your emotions so that they don't control you. It may be harder for you than for other people because of your health, but that's the only way to escape situations like this.

 

Now a few words about the man that you love. I agree, he is a great man. But he also seems to be a person that let's his caring nature get the better of him. And I do understand this all too well also. But he has to understand that first you should take care of yourself before you take care of others. He, too, was willingly putting himself through such suffering, while just walking away would have caused him less suffering.

 

First, you should sort yourself out and look at yourself. Look at your shortcomings and flaws that were the cause of the things that were mentioned above. Only then you can actually move to having a normal relationship.

 

PS: Some of the words may be harsh, but necessary, I think. I don't mean to hurt anyone with this, it's just my impression about the situation.

Edited January 5, 2019 by You're adorable