New Mommy

[Guest PrincessFluffyPanda]

So I'm a new mommy. I've always identified as a switch but I've never had the chance to actually throw myself into this situation. Not only am I new but I have adopted the sweetest little girl on the planet and I don't want to mess anything up. I need advice. She's a long distance little and I don't want to wrong her. I want to be the perfect mommy. So if anyone has any advice. I'm all ears.

[Guest TigerRoger]

Hello, I'm not too experienced myself but I once read that in this dynamic you may make more mistakes as a dom then you'd think. This is a good thing in terms it can strengthen your relationship with your little. I guess my advice would be not to be afraid to make mistakes and ask her for input on things.

 

You may not be able to be perfect in ways and this can put stress on you. So just learn as you go, don't be afraid to try new things and most importantly communicate with your little.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi!

Congratulations on being a new mommy, having a little is a very big responsibility and you will make mistakes along the way which is ok. My first question for my littles is what they need from me to feel safe, secure, cared for, and loved. Then I make it a point for them to tell me if there is something I am doing that they are not comfortable with or that they have questions about. I would say most importantly be available, be attentive, be affectionate, and give lots and lots of attention. Beyond that every relationship has its own dynamic and be sure you communicate constantly with any issues that may come up.

Good Luck to you!! 

[Guest PrincessFluffyPanda]

Thanks so much for your advice!

[Mr. Grinch]

First and foremost never strive to be perfect.  Be you and learn from mistakes!! Trying to be perfect will only cause you to stress out and make more mistakes.  Ask her lots of questions and remember things remembering things about her and how things make her feel are so important.  

[Guest PrincessFluffyPanda]

Sounds good!

[LittleTeacup]

Hi, I'm a little but I want to help with advice! At the beginning of any relationship, you need to have a conversation about what both of you are expecting and your needs/boundaries. You might also want to look up constructive childcare advice for ideas. Be patient, don't raise your voice, if your little is upset ask what's wrong in a kind way rather than telling them there's nothing to be upset over, etc. If your little breaks a rule, ask them if they understand what they did and what the punishment is.

 

I don't have a lot of experience, but this is what I'd like a caregiver to be like!

[Guest PrincessFluffyPanda]

UPDATE: Thank you to the people who helped me. We are in a great relationship now. And I really appreciate everyone who gave advice. On this thread and privately. Thanks!