New and confused

[Lil Amulet]

Hey. I'm very new to this page and I've only been a little for a little under a year. I fell in love with my daddy and we quickly started a life together. He introduced me to this life style after a bad night at a bar with my friend. (I'm never allowed back at a bar again) anyway.. I love the attention. The constant cuddles,the family time, and the passion he has for me. Here's the thing though... I don't like a lot of the things a little is suppose to do. And I feel so guilty about it. He told me today that I fit more as a middle. And it hurt but it is true.. I'm not a typical little. I don't do the baby talking. Pacifiers. Diapers. Or bottles. I do love my stuffed animals. But there's a bit of a twist I'm a mother of a 4 year old (past relationship) and I'm currently carrying my daddies baby. I'm only 23. I just need help.. Advice.. Suggestions. He loves this life style so much and I do as well. He's so good to me and my son. Its the best relationship I've ever had. Please other littles... Daddies and mommies. I want to make this work.

[Guest You're adorable]

Well,

 

Upon entering a new community, whether it's work or school or a new group of friends, let alone starting a completely new lifestyle, you will be faced with insecurities so don't let this stop or startle you. 

 

Now, to the actual bulk of the problem that you are facing. This should be, as in any relationship discussed with your Daddy. The thing is, that you are new to the lifestyle and therefore can't be expected to know everyting and act accordingly. What struck me was the fact that when your Daddy told you that you are more of a middle than a little, it hurt. My question is, why? Why is the fact that you are not a textbook little painful? Is it because you think that just because you are not the textbook example of a little, he will not like/accept you?

 

First of all, look at what you wrote. You say that your Daddy is nice to you and looks after your son too. Well first let me tell you that when a man is willing to take care of a child that is not his, he is not the type that is going to leave you because you are not a textbook little. Also, you think he would just abandon his unborn baby over a petty thing like that? I don't think so. I really don't think so. 

 

I do understand that you don't want to disappoint him and it feels like you are failing to deliver something to the relationship that he wants, while he is giving you all that you want. But a relationship isn't just an exchange of something that we want. It does form a bulk of the relationship, yes, but that's not all there is to it. 

 

Talking about something like this is hard. But like I always say, not talking about these things from the start is bad. Because this will not go away. The insecurity, i mean. It will just bubble inside you, getting bigger and stronger, and one day you will do something completely irrational and out of emotion. Now i am not a prophet but i've seen these things happen all the time. 

 

So, all in all. Stay true to who you are. It's easy to make someone fall in love with a fake version of you, but it will not be who you are and you will be unhappy. And, communicate with your Daddy about these things. In DDlg relationship (any relationship really), communication is vital, and failing to communicate will just be like pushing problems in front of you and not solving any, whitch will result an a catastropthe.

 

Have a faith in a man that has decided to take care of you and your children because he loves you.  

[Alaskan Daddy]

the first thing I would tell you is there are no 'cookie cutter littles'. Every little is different there are no set guidelines of what you like or desire from DDLG. You are unique and your desires are unique to who you are as a little. You do not need to feel bad about not wanting certain things from DDLG. Just be yourself and communicate your desires with your daddy and I know he will accept you for the beautiful person that lives inside you. You just need to show him what you want and desire from him as your daddy and trust that he will give you those desires.

The other thing I would do is to maybe try different things and see how they make you feel and communicate those feelings with your daddy.

Remember your feelings are important.

I hope this helps. Good luck with everything.

[Lil Amulet]

Wow, thank you for taking the time to type out such a long and very informative response.

I know he loves me. I'm not worried about him leaving. I'm more worried about not living up to his expectations. I'm not his first Princess. So he knows what he likes and what he wants to see happen. As accepting as he is I can feel the disappointment when some things in the role don't agree with me. And yes it did hurt when he said I was more a middle but only because I feel I failed both him and the role in some way. Coming on here has been both amazing and an eye opener to the world of DDGL it is nice to know that my type of relationship isn't as abnormal as I thought it was. We are adding in things that littles would do that aren't super overwhelming to me. So hopefully that all helps. Because I did talk to him last night. It went well I still just hold some guilt that I'm not everything the role is about.