My daddy wants to meet and I’m scared

[babybeks]

My daddy and I have been together for awhile, but I’m super scared. I don’t know when we’ll meet, but he’s looking for flights... I love him so much and he’s so good to me. Have any of you met your daddy?? And I’m a virgin and I’ve never had a boyfriend so the sexual aspect of being together scares me too. Can anyone relate and tell me what this stuff is like?

Also, my daddy isn’t super dominant, but I want to be controlled more. I told him, but I don’t know if he knows how to do it... is there a way I can encourage him to dominate me more?? Thank you!!

[sullenDaddybones]

I met my First Little from long distance. It was completely cool. After that we loved each other but not as much as we had at long distance. The stress of living together and paying bills, plus dealing with each other's personal issues and desires drove us to part. 

 

It was some of the most fun I've ever had in my life and I wish I could get those times back. It will make you grow up. You will never be a Little Kitten again like you were then. So make sure this is the Numero Uno Daddy PLUS:

 

Make sure to let play know where and with whom you're going! 

My daddy and I have been together for awhile, but I’m super scared. I don’t know when we’ll meet, but he’s looking for flights... I love him so much and he’s so good to me. Have any of you met your daddy?? And I’m a virgin and I’ve never had a boyfriend so the sexual aspect of being together scares me too. Can anyone relate and tell me what this stuff is like?
Also, my daddy isn’t super dominant, but I want to be controlled more. I told him, but I don’t know if he knows how to do it... is there a way I can encourage him to dominate me more?? Thank you!!

[baby_k]

How you mean be more controled? If you want that, you need to consider how you want it to actually happen, and then it should be easy to communicate your needs + him to try to do as you wish. There also should be plenty of threads that discuss about being more controlled and how it could happen, so look into those 

 

Probably not wisest move to have sex the first time you meet ( I don't recomend that even to people who are sexually experienced... ). Just to get know each other "in real world" and agree on limits, so you don't have to be toooo nervous.

Your first time needs to be with someone you truly trust and when you really want it to happen. Not when it would be convinient to have sex. If you push yourself to have sex, it won't be that great and can even lead you to resent sex. So, just take your time and have sex when you reallyreally want with the person you reallyreally want it ( trust me, that time will come ).

 

As old grumpy lady, I see some danger on adding more control to your rel. So, at least keep the sex as something YOU control. He should NEVER push you to have sex or anthing remotely close to it. No matter what sort of ddlg rel you have.

[QuietStorm]

You've asked two questions here so I'll respond to both in turn. You may have talked about these things with your daddy so sorry if you have:

 

1. Meeting up

I think you have to accept you are going to be nervous and that's okay. If you've called with your daddy or video called you'll have a good idea about what he will be like in real life, so make sure you call lots before you meet. It will be a bit weird at first ywhen you do meet but you need to be ready for that. He will probably be as nervous as you are so as much as he will trying to put you at ease, you can put him at ease too, it's a good idea to think about how you can do that. 

 

Try and think about "what if?" scenarios and how you would resolve this if something happened (e.g. if you weren't comfortable for whatever reason).

 

As baby_k said, I would personally suggest you put the sexual side to the back of your mind initially. You are worried about meeting your daddy and having sex with him and worrying about both is too much! My advice will be to worry about getting to know him in person first, then once you are comfortable get more physical with him.. It is possible that you could have sex when you meet, he might put you at ease right away and hopefully you will get on so well. but don't feel obliged to do anything because he's come all this way and he shouldn't have that expectation either. Do it because you really really want him. See how it goes but focus on getting to know him better.

 

Others have said about communication and I just want to add to that, it's so important from a daddy's perspective to know what you think is appropriate. Can he hold your hand? Can he cuddle you? Can he spank your butt? You may not know yourself yet but if you keep telling him what you do and don't like he will feel a lot better. Which leads me into....

 

2. Being more dominant

It sounds like he just needs a steer. DDLG means different things to different people and you need to work out what is right for you both. How do you want to be controlled? Do you want rules? Do you want discipline? Do you want to be controlled in the bedroom, at home, in public? If you need rules it's a good idea to give your daddy and idea about what rules you want, what you want him to manage, write them down. Find some memes/stories/quotes you like, it will give him some inspiration so that if you do X, he knows to respond with Y. It may not need that level of details but sometimes it needs spelling out and he will get the hang of what you really want.

 

Some daddies respond well to teasing and bratting but be really careful to do this slowly and gently to see if it works so it don't seem like you are just trying to annoy him.  It it doesn't seem to be working don't use that approach again.

 

Hope that helps and good luck!

 

Ry

[Guest FirmHand]

You've asked two questions here so I'll respond to both in turn. You may have talked about these things with your daddy so sorry if you have:

 

1. Meeting up

I think you have to accept you are going to be nervous and that's okay. If you've called with your daddy or video called you'll have a good idea about what he will be like in real life, so make sure you call lots before you meet. It will be a bit weird at first ywhen you do meet but you need to be ready for that. He will probably be as nervous as you are so as much as he will trying to put you at ease, you can put him at ease too, it's a good idea to think about how you can do that. 

 

Try and think about "what if?" scenarios and how you would resolve this if something happened (e.g. if you weren't comfortable for whatever reason).

 

As baby_k said, I would personally suggest you put the sexual side to the back of your mind initially. You are worried about meeting your daddy and having sex with him and worrying about both is too much! My advice will be to worry about getting to know him in person first, then once you are comfortable get more physical with him.. It is possible that you could have sex when you meet, he might put you at ease right away and hopefully you will get on so well. but don't feel obliged to do anything because he's come all this way and he shouldn't have that expectation either. Do it because you really really want him. See how it goes but focus on getting to know him better.

 

Others have said about communication and I just want to add to that, it's so important from a daddy's perspective to know what you think is appropriate. Can he hold your hand? Can he cuddle you? Can he spank your butt? You may not know yourself yet but if you keep telling him what you do and don't like he will feel a lot better. Which leads me into....

 

2. Being more dominant

It sounds like he just needs a steer. DDLG means different things to different people and you need to work out what is right for you both. How do you want to be controlled? Do you want rules? Do you want discipline? Do you want to be controlled in the bedroom, at home, in public? If you need rules it's a good idea to give your daddy and idea about what rules you want, what you want him to manage, write them down. Find some memes/stories/quotes you like, it will give him some inspiration so that if you do X, he knows to respond with Y. It may not need that level of details but sometimes it needs spelling out and he will get the hang of what you really want.

 

Some daddies respond well to teasing and bratting but be really careful to do this slowly and gently to see if it works so it don't seem like you are just trying to annoy him.  It it doesn't seem to be working don't use that approach again.

 

Hope that helps and good luck!

 

Ry

 

Top class advice right here.