DDLG in Public?

[uk-switch]

So I know DDLG is mostly very much a thing that a lot of people keep behind closed door, but if you're like me, you want to meet more people from the community, littles, caregivers, anyone. We are probably living around people who do this all the time who aren't on this site and among people who do this without saying anything to anyone. This is why I wanted to ask: Is there something that we, in the forum, could wear in public to say we're in the community? Not something over the top that screams ddlg, but something little that both littles and caregivers can wear that seems like a piece of jewellery to anyone else, but to us, its so we all know and can start a conversation. I have no idea if there's anything like this already out there, but do you guys agree with me? Do you want something like this too, or is there something which I don't know about? Please lemme know Thank you beautiful people        xxxxxx

[softly]

I dream about being walked around on a leash, being Little and Pet are very interlinked for me. I worry about the consequences of it though, publicly being harassed or accused of some kind of indecency. Also, I would feel terrible if seeing my leash would trigger someone...

 

So until I go to a specific event where that behavior is pretty common or expected, I like to broadcast my interest through enamel pins, button pins, patches, bracelets, that to anyone outside of the community wouldn't think much of my accessories. Much like my Pride accessories.

[CasketDrippings]

. Edited January 23, 2019 by snorlax

[neko]

If they cant deal with it, then obviously they have some hang ups and need to question why other people being happy bothers them so much

I know this a crazy concept, but maybe, just maybe people dont want to be exposed to your kink while they're doing basic things? I know if I were walking around and saw an adult being dragged around on a leash I'd be extremely uncomfortable.

Edited December 27, 2018 by neko

[CasketDrippings]

. Edited January 23, 2019 by snorlax

[dollybabycakes]

Aw this is a good idea! It would be such a cool way to meet new people within the community! Something discreet to your average person but something of value to the community. 

[LittleNerdy]

I think it's great if you can walk around with your little on a leash in public, really, hats off to you.

But I think having something small, discreet but noticeable can be just as effective.

I'm gay and I don't run around with a rainbow flag as a cape (although, I've done it many times around the house and at pride events ) but I do have a little pin, and a very discreet tattoo that unless you have knowledge of the community, you wouldn't know.

 

It's not about being ashamed of who you are or having hangups, but self preservation. Especially for some in this community. There are so many hateful people in the world who just don't understand and that can very quickly lead to discrimination in some form or another. I know that if something was said to me that was hurtful, my anxiety would flare up like fireworks for guy fawkes and make my time out of my safety zone a lot worse.

 

I'm totally on board with a small, discreet way of saying "I'm a part of this community with you, this is something we have in common"

[softly]

I want to also point out, at least where I am and in surrounding cities, a lot of merchandise that nods to the Dom/little lifestyle has been selling. It's very trendy right now.

Hot Topic is selling a lot of Little-esq things, like chokers with pacifier charms, cat ears/tail, shirts that say Baby Girl... It would be nice if there was a specific symbol for the community. Sometimes I do worry I am lost in the crowd of those who just like this stuff because it's cute, and not visible to other Littles or Caregivers.

Edited December 27, 2018 by softly

[DustBunny93]

Maybe a bracelet? Maybe something like a friendship bracelet type looking one where people think it's just that... A friendship bracelet. I have seen some guys wearing those too before because they are simple and not feminine (if the guy doesn't want it to be).

 

And maybe if it starts to be a thing it can even go as far as littles wearing a certain color, Dom's wearing a different color, etc.

[Guest]

Two or three years ago? a little came up with a bracelet/ribbon system idea. The ribbons were to be worn the last week of the month. She had colors and everything worked out. You might be able to do a search here to bring it up. I really liked the system. And the ribbons were easy enough to pass off as an online group activity without needing to answer too many questions.

[LittleBunnyCici]

And that would be a problem for you deal with.

 

Maybe her being on a leash in public is a basic thing for us

 

If I had a dollar for all the things i was exposed to in public against my will, I'd have elephant dollars

 

This is a pretty juvenile response.

[Spitfire]

And that would be a problem for you deal with.

 

Maybe her being on a leash in public is a basic thing for us

 

If I had a dollar for all the things i was exposed to in public against my will, I'd have elephant dollars

Lmao, that made me burst out laughing. And what is elephant dollars? Is that like shit ton?

[MintyCrackers]

Lmao, that made me burst out laughing. And what is elephant dollars? Is that like shit ton?

Spitfire, did you just register in order to make this reply?   

[Amelia2610]

I go by SSC - safe, sane and consensual. The public did not consent to being exposed to the dynamic that I enjoy with my CG, hence I wouldn’t be comfy with non-discreet public play.

 

Just like I wouldn’t stand for being flashed by a stranger, in public =_=

[Guest JasmineStarshine]

I go by SSC - safe, sane and consensual. The public did not consent to being exposed to the dynamic that I enjoy with my CG, hence I wouldn’t be comfy with non-discreet public play.

 

Just like I wouldn’t stand for being flashed by a stranger, in public =_=

 

I second SSC all the way! My daddy and I are both part of the alternative/goth scenes in our city and we can be free to express ourselves at those clubs more than others. Our favourite gay bar is also very welcoming of the lifestyle as well. We're always able to go all-out at the BDSM club, but that's a given!

 

Being public is very very fun, but it should really only be done in spaces where it is explicitly alright to do so; invoking the "Consensual" part of SSC.