Emotions

[SINpai7]

Hey! I’m a new daddy and I was recently let go by a little for someone she just met. I’m having trouble reconciling the emotions, but I’m wondering if I should even be upset? A lot of what I’ve read just indicates it’s like any other relationship really, but then other things suggest you don’t necessarily stay with your Littles, like leaving is the eventuality. Plus the situation is just not a recipe for success. She just met this guy for a week and decided she wanted to be with him AND asked me not to talk to her unless she texts or calls first because talking to me would mess her up and she didn’t want him to see. I’m not sure what I should be feeling so it feels like I feel everything

[Guest Prat]

Well she treated you like shit so it's perfectly normal to feel like you're being treated as shit.. Get over her as fast as you can. People like her aren't worth even a second of your time.

[SINpai7]

Are you getting that from the fact she doesn’t want to remain in contact? She’s got pretty bad anxiety so I figured it was because of that and she didn’t want to deal with how she feels about me at the same time she’s pursuing this guy

[Alaskan Daddy]

I understand the mixed emotions you are going through. I feel there are 2 things you can do. One is to NOT block her and put up a wall in your heart in case she contacts you again. The second thing to do is to BLOCK her and then delete her number and move on the best you can. You have to decide if you are going to let her back in your life if she contacts you. If you feel strong enough to deal with her contacting you then I would go with option #1. I know you have special feelings for her. But if she does contact you she may use your feelings as something to manipulate you.

I hope this helps. Good Luck. I have been there

[SINpai7]

I understand the mixed emotions you are going through. I feel there are 2 things you can do. One is to NOT block her and put up a wall in your heart in case she contacts you again. The second thing to do is to BLOCK her and then delete her number and move on the best you can. You have to decide if you are going to let her back in your life if she contacts you. If you feel strong enough to deal with her contacting you then I would go with option #1. I know you have special feelings for her. But if she does contact you she may use your feelings as something to manipulate you.

I hope this helps. Good Luck. I have been there

From what I’m gathering from the advice so far is that it doesn’t matter if the expectation is to eventually part ways between a DD and his lg, the way she went about it was terrible?

[Alaskan Daddy]

I think she went about it very wrong. The way I see it is that she had no regard for your feelings. It seems she wants you there in case she falls and have you there to pick up the pieces. That is why she put the stipulation of 'non-contact' unless it does on her terms.  But it will be up to you as to how you want to handle it

[LittleCelticLass]

I don't think the expectation is to eventually part ways. At least I hope not. I want a future with my Daddy, but I can't speak for every little.

To me, she sounds like she just wants the newest, shiniest you, without actually giving up the old one. You deserve better. Block her, and move on. Don't be anyone's second choice.

Edited December 27, 2018 by LittleCelticLass

[SINpai7]

I think she went about it very wrong. The way I see it is that she had no regard for your feelings. It seems she wants you there in case she falls and have you there to pick up the pieces. That is why she put the stipulation of 'non-contact' unless it does on her terms.  But it will be up to you as to how you want to handle it

Yeh, that’s the biggest thing for me. I can handle wanting to give that other thing a chance (even if it doesn’t make sense to me), but the total lack of regard for me was a killer. Like, who was there when you felt stuck and like your family was just watching you struggle and not help? Who helped you to save your sisters relationship? I don’t even see how you can just disregard that kind of history with someone unless you just don’t give two sh*ts about them

[chateautal]

It sounds like you’ve been quite mistreated. Yes, anyone has the right to call off a relationship, and she even had the right to cut off contact altogether- but it doesn’t make it a nice thing to do.

 

Even if this person values your emotional support, it sounds as if she has no respect for you as a human being. If I might ask, how long was your relationship (online only or in person?) It does sound like she would ‘rebound’ on to you if her new fling fails (and it might, since as you suggest the no contact thing could indicate mixed feelings) but honestly, this wouldn’t be a good thing, and you’d do well to steer clear. (This is especially likely if, as you said, asking for no contact is a sign of mixed feelings).

[SINpai7]

I don't think the expectation is to eventually part ways. At least I hope not. I want a future with my Daddy, but I can't speak for every little.

To me, she sounds lije sge just wants the newest, shiniest you, without actually giving up the old one. You deserve better. Block her, and move on. Don't be anyone's second choice.

Thank goodness, lol! I’ve been using a sugaring site for a while, but it’s easy to get lost in those expectations vs what would normally happen in a DD/lg.

 

It’s worth noting that she’s a lot younger than I am (double digit difference), so I knew there would be a difference in the social maturity, but up to this point she was amazing. So there’s some blame to take on my part, albeit not enough to defer her actions.

[SINpai7]

It sounds like you’ve been quite mistreated. Yes, anyone has the right to call off a relationship, and she even had the right to cut off contact altogether- but it doesn’t make it a nice thing to do.

Even if this person values your emotional support, it sounds as if she has no respect for you as a human being. If I might ask, how long was your relationship (online only or in person?) It does sound like she would ‘rebound’ on to you if her new fling fails (and it might, since as you suggest the no contact thing could indicate mixed feelings) but honestly, this wouldn’t be a good thing, and you’d do well to steer clear. (This is especially likely if, as you said, asking for no contact is a sign of mixed feelings).

In person and a few months. Anytime we were together it was for the whole day/night, explored a lot of things she’s never done, bailed her out of tough situations, etc. The suggestion about mixed feelings is what she related to me. It was something like, “do you mind if we don’t talk or like unless I call or text? Me: why? Her: because it would just mess me up because I would be leading him and you on, and I don’t want to be that girl who’s dating 2 - 3 guys at once. And I don’t want him to see and have to explain to him...” something like that. She’s already said she’d reach back out if it didn’t work, lol. I was trying to mentor her and tell her that jumping right in to something after only a week is a bad idea, but at her age (19) it’s pretty easy to get caught up and not learn to moderate feelings. I, however, was pretty certain that I wasn’t going to be the fall back guy for a dumb decision. Not without a thorough understanding of the consequences of her actions and lack of regard...what ever form that may take.

[SINpai7]

It sounds like you’ve been quite mistreated. Yes, anyone has the right to call off a relationship, and she even had the right to cut off contact altogether- but it doesn’t make it a nice thing to do.

Even if this person values your emotional support, it sounds as if she has no respect for you as a human being. If I might ask, how long was your relationship (online only or in person?) It does sound like she would ‘rebound’ on to you if her new fling fails (and it might, since as you suggest the no contact thing could indicate mixed feelings) but honestly, this wouldn’t be a good thing, and you’d do well to steer clear. (This is especially likely if, as you said, asking for no contact is a sign of mixed feelings).

It’s worth noting that she also mentioned being confused about her feelings towards me, but this was the first time she had mentioned (as she was breaking off). Said she knew she liked me as a person but wasn’t sure if she liked me because I took care of her.