I need help...

[Kay21]

Hi,

 

I am a little,have been for a very long time. My boyfriend is not a daddy...I don't know what to do. He doesn't like ddlg, and recently o have kept slipping into little space, I don't think he has noticed yet, but he might to. And I'm scared that be will leave me. I don't know what to do....HELPPPPPP PLEASE!!!!!

[Child Of Light]

Firstly welcome to the site!

 

How do you know he doesn't like DDLG? Just because he doesn't like it, even if he doesn't, shouldn't mean, you shouldn't be able to do things related to DDLG, by yourself or with him (even if it's subtle). Communicate with him, and express your needs, and come with a compromise.

[Kay21]

Thank you for the welcome.

 

 

I don't even know how to bring it up to him....

[Kay21]

I know he doesn't like it,because when I called my ex daddy, he said it was stupid and creepy....

[Alaskan Daddy]

I understand your feelings. Remember your feelings matter and at the same time your BF's feelings matter. He has already told you how he feels about DDLG.

A lot of people do not understand the dynamic and you have  to accept that he may never want any part of it. You have 3 choices. One is to suppress your little side and stay with your BF  and more than likely start to feel like something is missing in your life. Choice 2 is to let your little side out and deal with his reaction to it or choice 3 is to leave the relationship completely.

The advice I would give is to sit down with your BF and ask him shy he feels the way he does toward DDLG. Give him a chance to open up and express his feelings with out you judging him. Then take things from there.

I hope this helps. Just remember there are no magic solutions.

[baby_k]

What Alaskan Daddy said

 

I think you are making assumptions here or hasty judgement. Your bf probably has no clue what ddlg is ( and therefore can't judge it really ), and him saying it is creepy is maybe more about not wanting to hear about you and your ex ( and even seeing rivalry there ). So, sort of jealousy.

 

So, give your bf a chance and talk with him. It might go a lot better than you expect.

[poetdashdaddy]

He could have been saying it's creepy and dumb because he liked it but was embarrassed or scared to express that you never know. As others pointed out many people don't understand the true nature of DDLG. Just explain yourself to him. If the worst happens and he's not about it, maybe you all can meet half way some how. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

[chateautal]

I think this is something you will have to bring up with your boyfriend- if it it’s kept to yourself, it will be like poison, and could even make you resentful (or hate yourself for feeling that way). That being said, you don’t have to dump everything on him at once - if he’s vanilla he may be overwhelmed. Are there any small specific aspects of the dynamic you really like and think he may be willing to try/humour you about? If so, I’d start by bringing those up.

[Kay21]

Hi everyone!!

 

Thank you for all the help. I sent him a text, he is reading up on it. He is going to look into it and ask me questions when I asked him. Thank you all soooooooooooooo much!!!