Insecurities with Daddy

[Daddysittlepwincess]

So Daddy watches a lot of porn. This isn't anything new to me, he always has. And ive never been bothered by it. But lately I've noticed how much Daddy looks at pictures if other women, like from tumblr blogs. And I know it's technically still porn...but it bother me. A lit actually.

 

I feel like since me and daddy don't live together, and rarely see one another, that I should just not be bothered. And I try to be really understanding because he does need to take Care if his needs even though I'm not around.

 

But the pictures really bother me. I can't help but to compare myself to the women he looks at. ...I'm a pretty big girl so I already have some insecurities. But ever since I've realized what he looks at I've become way more self conscious.

 

I don't know how to bring it up or if I even should.

 

Does anyone else ever feel this way?

[Guest Princess Dusty]

It's a really hard feeling when you feel like that!!

 

The main thing is, be honest with your Daddy. He might not realize it bothers you so much! Explain to him why it bothers you, not because he's taking care of his needs, but because you're comparing yourself to them.

 

Don't feel bad for feeling this way either!!! It's hard when it's like that!!! If there's anything I can do, let me know.

[lil.pumpkin]

Oh I completely understand this See my daddy is in the UK, and I'm in the US so we haven't even met yet (working on it!). But after me and him got naughty on Skype, his favorite type of porn became girls on webcam. He also was on this one tumblr page with this girl who did all sorts of things. It made me feel jealous and I kept quiet about it But after I told him he completely understood and stopped! Honesty is a key role in a relationship cx Good luck!

[Beckie]

I am also a big girl and I also see it as damaging to my self esteem. My ex did this to me and then tried to change me.

The best thing to do is to talk to him and explain that you are feeling insecure. Hopefully he will understand.

Just start with telling him that you are feeling insecure and explain your feelings on these photos.

[Daddysittlepwincess]

Thank you for the advice. I will try to talk to Daddy. Its relieving to know I'm not the only one, but I wish we didn't all have to experience the feeling cuz it sucks so much.

[Lisa]

Hm... I am curious about how you know he is looking at porn/tumblr pics. Since you rarely see each other, it doesn't seem like you would be able to snoop his web history. Does he talk to you about them? Or show them to you? Or is he "liking" or "reposting" them? Just seems super disrespectful if he does rub it in your face like that...

[Guest Penny]

All the advice here is good but I wanted to add something I haven't seen touched on yet.

 

DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF WITH THE WOMEN IN THOSE PICTURES!

 

I repeate: DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF WITH WOMEN IN PORN.

 

I don't care if you're big, small, short, tall, black, white or anything in between more often then not when someone looks at porn they are not thinking "I wish my partner looked like that!" and they are not comparing you to that person, they are simply enjoying the movie.

 

You shoulddeffinitly talk to him if his behavior bothers you and you have every right to speak up but never ever ever compare yourself to anyone else,

 

You were beautiful before you met him, you're beautiful now, your weight doesn't determine whether or not you are gorgeous and your man is not comparing you to those girls.

 

Stay beautiful, keep your head up and good luck!

[Typoking]

Daddies point of view:

If you have an issue, bring it up. Don't be afraid or ashamed. Personally, if I do something that bothers someone I have made a commitment to, I want to know, and if the issue (like this one) is valid, then I will work on changing it; at the same time, I hope my other half feels the same if I have any issues. Talk to him. An open and honest line of communication is the first step in a truly healthy relationship.

And, please (I swear I say this a hundred times a day to various women) stop worrying about your size. Guys like women off all sizes: big, small, tall, or short. Love yourself first, and watch the love from others roll in.

[DeathMetalDaddy]

Honesty is the best policy: If my little had a similar issue, I'd expect her to come forward and make me aware of said issue. That's what I suggest, address the problem head-on, letting him know exactly how it makes you feel. 

 

Try your best not to compare yourself to others. I hope you find a solution.