Balancing Little With Big?

[XmochiX]

I have borderline personality and bipolar disorder. Because of that, I see and think about things in extremes: Everyone I meet, I either immediately love or hate, for example. They are never ok. They are either good or evil.

 

Right now, I am struggling with wanting to be both little and big. I feel like I am unique because my little space is triggered by manic swings and usually only lasts a couple of hours. I know that I need to grow up and eventually get a job and go to school, but I feel like I am a child "playing" at being an adult. This both excites and terrifies me because Idk how to balance those two sides.

 

How do you guys do it?

[littleone0201]

I would like to see others' responses to this. I feel the same way, in the sense that I switch from little to big rapidly and it has a large effect on my mood when I cannot be little or when I'm pushed out of littlespace. However, I feel the opposite like an adult pretending to be a child and I'll never be able to face reality that I need to soon get a job and be a functioning person in society. It's scary. :/

[Inmylittlespace]

It is hard to push forward into accepting the fact that despite how little you may feel sometimes, you are in fact an adult. It is an icky feeling, as I don't think anyone ever wants to really grow up. Some people are, however, just naturally better at adulting than others. 

 

I would say that it helps to make sure you schedule some little time. Know you have to get through the rough parts and give yourself something to hold onto while doing them. Maybe its a little figurine in your pocket you can touch to calm down, or bringing special snacks to work to reward yourself for making it through parts of the day. Reward charts, prizes etc. You can be little in your mind without showing it to everyone else in a way that screams it. 

I would also suggest speaking to a professional in the mental health field, trying to find someone who is kink friendly. 

[XmochiX]

It is hard to push forward into accepting the fact that despite how little you may feel sometimes, you are in fact an adult. It is an icky feeling, as I don't think anyone ever wants to really grow up. Some people are, however, just naturally better at adulting than others. 

 

I would say that it helps to make sure you schedule some little time. Know you have to get through the rough parts and give yourself something to hold onto while doing them. Maybe its a little figurine in your pocket you can touch to calm down, or bringing special snacks to work to reward yourself for making it through parts of the day. Reward charts, prizes etc. You can be little in your mind without showing it to everyone else in a way that screams it. 

I would also suggest speaking to a professional in the mental health field, trying to find someone who is kink friendly.

 

I am on meds and in therapy, but my therapist doesn't know about my little side. Only my closest friends know, and my family knows about my childlike behavior, but not about my kinky side.

[baby_k]

Don't want to sounds harsh but as long as you are not an adult, you can't be little: you are merely immature person. Only an adult can be little, a child is always just a child.

 

I don't think there should be a huge issue with balancing the sides of you as they are who you are. Having personality isn't wrong. Not being like some stereotype but being you also is very much desired thing

 

It also maybe that you think too strictly on what being an adult is. I'm responsible adult but I'm also a little. I fool around even at work AND I do that with my collegues who are way over their 40's and not even littles. I think playfulness and all that is just part of human nature and not just something for littles. Obviously when "adulting" is needed, I do what is needed just like any responsible person. You can't use being a little as an excuse to not do your part on life (as then it is not realy being a little but being immature person who most likely uses others to do their tasks and chores ).

 

But adults are not some magical beings. They are humans. What they do really does not differ much from what kids do as even children can be pretty responsible and acting in "correct ways" unless we talk of really young ones. Maybe consider what is the scary thing in "being an adult" for you?

 

Might be tempting just play all days but would that really be satisfying to you? You would never achieve really anything. Do you have any dreams on how you would want your life to be? Growing up is not really that bad as in reality it can be just making your dreams come true. Like I have worked hard to have my own flat with one room just for my crafts, so it is some sort of thing I wanted and was able to achive. Little or not, we all have dreams but there is always some effort and work we need to put there to make those dreams true.

[Inmylittlespace]

I am on meds and in therapy, but my therapist doesn't know about my little side. Only my closest friends know, and my family knows about my childlike behavior, but not about my kinky side.

 

Then maybe you need to start discussing it. You're 28 years old (according to your profile) So you are well past the point of being an actual adult who needs to deal with these things. 

 

 

Don't want to sounds harsh but as long as you are not an adult, you can't be little: you are merely immature person. Only an adult can be little, a child is always just a child.

 

I don't think there should be a huge issue with balancing the sides of you as they are who you are. Having personality isn't wrong. Not being like some stereotype but being you also is very much desired thing

 

It also maybe that you think too strictly on what being an adult is. I'm responsible adult but I'm also a little. I fool around even at work AND I do that with my collegues who are way over their 40's and not even littles. I think playfulness and all that is just part of human nature and not just something for littles. Obviously when "adulting" is needed, I do what is needed just like any responsible person. You can't use being a little as an excuse to not do your part on life (as then it is not realy being a little but being immature person who most likely uses others to do their tasks and chores ).

 

But adults are not some magical beings. They are humans. What they do really does not differ much from what kids do as even children can be pretty responsible and acting in "correct ways" unless we talk of really young ones. Maybe consider what is the scary thing in "being an adult" for you?

 

Might be tempting just play all days but would that really be satisfying to you? You would never achieve really anything. Do you have any dreams on how you would want your life to be? Growing up is not really that bad as in reality it can be just making your dreams come true. Like I have worked hard to have my own flat with one room just for my crafts, so it is some sort of thing I wanted and was able to achive. Little or not, we all have dreams but there is always some effort and work we need to put there to make those dreams true.

 

I agree with a large majority of this post here. 

[XmochiX]

Don't want to sounds harsh but as long as you are not an adult, you can't be little: you are merely immature person. Only an adult can be little, a child is always just a child.

 

I don't think there should be a huge issue with balancing the sides of you as they are who you are. Having personality isn't wrong. Not being like some stereotype but being you also is very much desired thing

 

It also maybe that you think too strictly on what being an adult is. I'm responsible adult but I'm also a little. I fool around even at work AND I do that with my collegues who are way over their 40's and not even littles. I think playfulness and all that is just part of human nature and not just something for littles. Obviously when "adulting" is needed, I do what is needed just like any responsible person. You can't use being a little as an excuse to not do your part on life (as then it is not realy being a little but being immature person who most likely uses others to do their tasks and chores ).

 

But adults are not some magical beings. They are humans. What they do really does not differ much from what kids do as even children can be pretty responsible and acting in "correct ways" unless we talk of really young ones. Maybe consider what is the scary thing in "being an adult" for you?

 

Might be tempting just play all days but would that really be satisfying to you? You would never achieve really anything. Do you have any dreams on how you would want your life to be? Growing up is not really that bad as in reality it can be just making your dreams come true. Like I have worked hard to have my own flat with one room just for my crafts, so it is some sort of thing I wanted and was able to achive. Little or not, we all have dreams but there is always some effort and work we need to put there to make those dreams true.

Bro, I'm almost 30 years old, making me one of the older littles on this site last I checked.

 

Like I said, I think in extremes. In my mind, being an adult means not having a little space. It means paying your bills, getting married, and having kids. Its hard for me to comprehend that my behavior as a little is ok and, to a degree, normal.