DDlg When You Have a Child - How Does it Work?

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My partner and I have a teen daughter together. (That we made when we were teens!) I want to explore DDlg with him, but I'm not sure how that would work with savvy kids in the house. I don't want my daughter to know anymore about our kinks and sex life than necessary, but from what little I've seen, DDlg seems like a pretty pervasive part of life.

 

How do you manage it? Any difficulties? Any tips would be appreciated!

[sullenDaddybones]

A soundproof room with a lock on the door? Saving the DDLG moments till you both go on private vacations. Dealing with the ramifications of your family members knowing what your kinks are... There are no easy ways around it. As a teenage boy I would go through my parents personal items(I was a little shit) and I would find just about everything they kept secret at some point. Remember looking at your Christmas Presents before Christmas? Natural curiosity... Girls tend to be more intelligent and clever in this regard my ex-lover found out her Mother was a HardCore BDS&M Community Member and it influenced her to some degree. She found pictures in her closet with scenarios too graphic to write about.

[Guest Aetherr]

if you have a teenager chances are they spend alot of time out of the house so thats all the better and depending on later or early teens could be left alont for a night every now and then which meand you two could book a hotel or something like it, you dont need to keep it a big secret just dont do it in the open out of respect for whoever may stumble on it

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My partner and I have always kind of had this dynamic, because I am just naturally cute and child-like in a lot of ways. I have a stuffed sanrio bunny I carry around. I beg him to play outside with me. I work on crafts. I baby talk a little and snuggle and tell him I'm going to do good and make him proud when he leaves. He calls me "baby," and "babygirl," and "Little [my name]" without me ever having suggested it. It's just obvious that's how I am! n.n;; BUT I only just discovered DDlg was a thing. I find the idea of exploring that really exciting, but I'm still unclear on the particulars.

 

I haven't mentioned my interest with my partner yet - partially because I'm worried he'll think its too freaky, but also partially because I'm not sure what it really entails. Tried watching YouTube videos, but those people don't have other people living with them they need to worry about. In our case, it would kind of has to be low-key. Can't set up a nursery/ playroom or anything. I like the idea of us bonding in DDlg way and having it be a part of our lives, but I'm not sure how to get that sense without props.

 

Besides summoning the courage to actually call him Daddy, have any other ideas on how we can incorporate DDlg into our lives? What do/would you like your little to do?

[Guest Aetherr]

if you and your partner already have aspect of the dynamic going on putting a label to it can help identify yourself and allow you to be identified by others, i would just have that talk with your partner and let them know what they do is a thing and you wish to explore more but in a way that respects your kiddo you could do small things like take up coloring buy a few stuffed toys and sometimes have your partner cook finger food there is a ton of ways you can have a child-like atmosphere without it being obvious heck you could even take up pet names like "madam" "sir" "mister" "princess" but again i would keep from using such signs of the dynamic too often though they may not be clear signs of what you two are into it may be too much for your kiddo

 

 

sadly as im sure you know there are limits to how far it goes unless you two are alone but i am sure you will find ways to express the dynamic in your own ways

 

i wouldnt read too much into what you are supposed to do, i frankly feel like anyone starting a comment with such is not accounting for individuality, people do things their own way and for their own reasons.. sure spend some time researching to get inspiration and possibly broaden your mind and list of interests but dont follow a rule book... write your own!

Edited December 13, 2018 by Aetherr