Is my Daddy too vanilla?

[Guest littlepumpkin0]

Hewwo!

I have been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now and the last year I came out to my partner as a Little. I've been holding it back and very shy to talk to him about it. 
He was very understanding and said he was fine with it and also accepted the role as a Daddy. However before this he didn't have a kink and was very new to relationships.
He does cooperate in bed by playing along with things but whenever I might show him something I found online thats DDLG related being videos or even clothing he has no interest at all. I've hinted to him buying me things for xmas or as gifts but will ignore anything I want (Though he will buy me non ddlg related items).
I'm scared he is forcing or playing along with it to just keep me happy? I love him so much and don't want to let him go but this is kinda bothering me if he doesn't have a part in my kink.
I don't want to force anything onto him, especially as he was kinkless before we started dating.
I feel I can't truly be my little self and kinda feel a tiny bit self conscious maybe?

What should I do? Or anyone who could relate, even Daddys who might feel this way?

Pumpkin <3

[hurtnolivingthing]

Hello littlepumpkin0

 

It sounds like he is very nice, and the two of you care about each other a great deal.

 

I understand you being shy about ddlg, but with-holding this for almost 3 years.. is a biggie.

He may still be adjusting, and be unsure about everything. Or just doesn't understand that

this is really important to you.

 

Ddlg can be a lot to process.. especially for someone who seems to have been previously

very vanilla.

 

He needs more information; about littles & being a daddy.

I think you need to try and help him understand more about ddlg,

and what it means to you.. very gently and patiently.

Don't forget this is still new to him.

 

You both sound like nice people, with perhaps quite shy personalities (?)

Communication and understanding each other, is so vital in any relationship;

perhaps even more so where kinks are concerned.

 

I think, try not to show him anything too full-on ddlg atm, but find things he can read/look at

to learn more. He probably has a lot of questions, but may be too

unsure to say/ask.

 

It may be difficult for you.. but you need to be his guide and probably, his teacher.

I can only repeat.. communicating with each other is essential.

 

If it does transpire, that he has no real interest..

you will have to accept that he is purely vanilla. Then you will need

to re-assess, if the two of you can really make each other happy..

 

But for now.. try to find out more what he's feeling, and if you can guide him.

 

I truly wish you both every success

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

It’s entirely possible to be into dd/lg in your personal relationship, but not be into watching videos about it or looking at dd/lg stuff online. A lot of people don’t. Sometimes it’s cringy to look at. Lol

 

Daddy doesn’t really have an interest in looking at dd/lg themed videos, blogs, pics etc. It just doesn’t interest him. But he’s an amazing Daddy and I wouldn’t trade him for anything. From personal experience, that doesn’t make your Daddy vanilla either.

 

Like cooking, gaming, whatever hobby or interest- it doesn’t mean you want to watch vids about it, you’d rather just do whatever you’re doing.

 

I mean, obviously I could be wrong.