How do I communicate my needs?

[charwlie]

Hey all!

 

So, before anything, I have to say that I’m still new to DDlg and being a little. But after figuring out about myself and what I like, how do can I communicate that to my Daddy without feeling like I’m imposing on things? We’ve been LDR for some months and now we’re finally going to meet, so it’s going to be my first time being in little space with him and everything. He knows I like attention, being looked after and everything and he seemed to agree with all of that, but at the same time he said that he doesn’t have full responsibility of taking care of me, so I don’t know if he’s that into DDlg as I am.

 

How do I open up a conversation about what I want, especifically, from him and from our relationship?

 

Not only I am new to this but I also don’t have much experience with relationships in general, so I don’t know how to talk about those things.

[CryptKing]

In these types of situations, its best to be blunt. Clearly state what you'd like on his end but most importantly be understanding if he says no. One disagreement over a somewhat shared kink isn't a viable reason to completely end a relationship unless the person lives and breathes it. Which, from this description clearly isnt the case

 

He cant fault you for being vocal about your needs, its just human nature

Edited December 3, 2018 by CryptKing

[Tinka]

 but at the same time he said that he doesn’t have full responsibility of taking care of me, so I don’t know if he’s that into DDlg as I am.

 

How do I open up a conversation about what I want, especifically, from him and from our relationship?

 

 

Someone might want to be in ddlg relationship without being a 24/7 slave. 

Not even mothers` can do it, let alone men who didnt give actual birth to you.

So if he said it, respect it. 

 

And i want to add also , instead of you saying what you want especially from him, how about discuss what you both want from it, and not make it fully about you.

you are entering a relationship, he is not customer service

 

So a nice way is to your the ''we'' instead of i, so he can feel (and this is the right thing) included. 

[Guest Lil Peep]

Welcome to DDlg! I'm glad you've established what your needs are as those are important but as CryptKing said it's best to just be blunt and take into consideration what your s/o says. Definitely don't be afraid to say anything you have on your mind either. By saying, "Hey I'd like to talk to you about this and would love to know your input on ___________" is the easiest way to bring up the subject imo. Hope it works out and good luck!